TO SPANK OR NOT TO SPANK THAT IS MY QUESTION

Sooo as many of you know, I have this funny, intelligent 3-year-old daughter. Well today in Tae Kwon Do she didn’t want to listen to the 10-year-old assistant teacher. She felt she was bossing her around. To my embarrassment, after class she confessed she told the girl “If you do not stop telling me what to do, I will throw you in the wall and drown you”. I was in shock and couldn’t believe I was raising a 3-year-old bully.

As I sat her in her car seat, I explained that telling people she would drown them will not be tolerated! That probably hurt the girl’s feelings and she would be punished when we got home. She was quiet with her head down for 3 stop lights, then said “Mommy can you take me back so I can apologize to her?” A part of me wanted to turn around but I told her, “No, you apologize on Monday when you see her!” She began to cry and said, “Oh mommy, I don’t wanna be a bully and I don’t want to hurt her feelings.” “Too late you little bully,” I told her and the whole-time picturing how tall the little girl was towering over her. I had no idea she was so mouthy or brave.

When we got home I told her to march herself right in the room. I was just behind her. She sat on her bed and I said, “What do you think your punishment should be? Should I spank you or should I take Marie?” Marie is her kitty stuffed animal she got on a trip to Disneyland. She jumps up pulls down her cartwheel shorts and underwear, touches the ground with both of her hands and sticks bare ass in my face! (I’ve never pulled her pants down and spanked her. I don’t know where she got this from.)

It took every bit of my acting skills NOT to burst out laughing!  I turned around, picked up Marie and put Marie in the top of the closet. She busted out crying, ran in MY room and got in my bed under my covers and cried for 5 minutes. When she was finished, she wiped her face on my comforter… boogers and all and said, “Mommy I promise from now on I will have halos in my eyes. I’m going to be good!”

I remember saying to my mom “Hitting me doesn’t help. It doesn’t make me want to be good.” KARMA, I have a child just like me. Spanking won’t work. I have to stay alert and pay attention to what means a lot to her and take it away.  THAT she cares about. Creative discipline is going to be my friend. I’d love to hear what creative ways you have disciplined your children.

2 thoughts on “TO SPANK OR NOT TO SPANK THAT IS MY QUESTION

  1. Wow love this Cherie your such a good writer. And your a great parent too. As I was reading this entry I was able to visualize you taking The kitty away and of your little girl crying and even the dialogue that went on between you and your daughter on your way home from Tai Kwon Do.

    BTW: We as in you and me follow one another on Instagram and Facebook thanks for always being so nice to me. I am the woman whom you told me how you recall me as the person who is always so kind to you. And the same woman with the cute cat your daughter loves looking at photos of Anyways off to read more of your stuff. So every time you see my name signed below each commented entry you will know it’s me haha

  2. It is true that spanking/whooping a child isn’t always the best discipline for every situation. Sometimes taking away things, talking with the child, and so on are just as effective. I do use spankings/whoopings as necessary, but not all the time. You have to access the situation and see what would be best. But, even when I do have to whoop or spank my child, I still talk with them about things that need to change and why they received a certain discipline over another.

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