Set Your Child Up To Succeed
Allow children to accept themselves by showing that you accept who they are, including their strengths and weaknesses. Explore the child’s interests and successes in academics, athletics, and artistic and musical abilities. Use their areas of strength to reinforce their successes, and refrain from comparing siblings to each other.
Empower Your Child
Convey to children that they will not have to worry about losing the security of their parent’s acceptance, which will encourage them to pursue new tasks and opportunities for self-development. Provide opportunities and projects for them and encourage positive exploration of new subject areas and activities that are of interest to them.
Help Your Child Develop Good Social Skills
Model and demonstrate basic social skills such as listening, taking turns when speaking, respect, accountability, and appropriate ways to make and maintain friendships. Provide the rationale and necessity for each skill and behavior and ensure understanding of each skill.
Use Language That Builds Self-Esteem
Speak to children with phrases that build self-esteem, such as, “Thank you for helping” or “That was an excellent idea.” Avoid using negative phrases that decrease self-esteem such as, “How many times have I told you?” or “Why are you so stupid?”
Encourage Your Child To Be A Thinker
Encourage children to be creative by exploring subject areas or ideas that are fun and interesting. Offer avenues for them to explore their interests, such as field trips to libraries, museums, or bookstores. Talk with your children and take part in their excitement about what they are reading, thinking, and doing.
Have Realistic Expectations and Goals For Your Child
When parents repeatedly expect more than a child can do, they are disappointed again and again, sending a message to the child to be disappointed in himself. Having realistic expectations provides children with a sense of control over themselves, their surroundings, and their future. Children’s development of self-control goes hand-in-hand with self-esteem, which increases as they achieve success when realistic and attainable goals are completed. When children successfully meet the challenges within their phase of self-identity, they become convinced of their self-worth and competence.
Teach Your Child To Delay Gratification
Explain the importance and feeling of accomplishment when one works towards and completes a specific task or goal. Give recognition, a special privilege, or increased responsibility for a job well done.
Be A Role Model Yourself
Let your children know that you feel good about yourself and that you can make mistakes and learn from them. Provide numerous opportunities to demonstrate basic judgment and moral values (respect, kindness, sharing), how to display appropriate behavior and interact with others, and how to constructively solve problems when they arise. Set a good example by demonstrating respect to others, to schools, and to yourself.
Show Them They Are Important
Show your children what they do is important to you. Talk with them daily about their day’s activities, interests, and schoolwork. Attend their athletic events, parent’s day at school, musical concerts, and award ceremonies. Be available to support them and what activities they chose to do.