There are a large number of men and women who seek drama to survive! I have been called uncaring, self-absorbed and indifferent because I’m unable to jump on the soap opera bandwagon of life. This is a tactic that drama kings and queens use to draw you into the mess, so you won’t remain standing on the side. They have to try and figure out a way to reel you in. That makes them feel better. You can’t argue with yourself. They need others’ energy to feed off of to make them feel valid. Validation, get it? It’s all about attention seeking. Every single human on this planet needs attention. Those who weren’t given enough or feel neglected emotionally, usually by a parent, there is a wire not connected correctly in the brain that causes them to seek attention even if it’s in a negative way.
Drama addicts find it very disturbing to see others not get caught up in the drama, while they are in full swing. So, the accusations start to fly. This is when it’s best to stay unbothered.
Drama is an escape from their reality. My reality is I have made a living controlling others’ emotions but without a paycheck involved, there’s no passion behind it for me. I’d rather have no involvement.
Breaking away from these types is usually not easy because they hold on. Even conjure up more drama and bring more people into the situation, just to drag the drama a little longer.
From experience, the best way to handle it is to completely cut them off and ignore them. Soon they will move on and continue the drama elsewhere. Don’t be shocked when they pop up from time to time just to see if they can get a reaction from you! (They always come back, it’s a part of their addictive personality).
Beware of red flags early
- Doesn’t take accountability
- Blinded by lust
- Want to be in a relationship so bad it doesn’t matter if it’s with the right person or not.
- Anger and aggression
- Emotionally unavailable
- Dismissive of your feelings
If you see any of these signs if I were you, I would run quickly. I’m the Queen of short sprints from drama! Talk about me if you want to, I’m too far away to CARE enough to want to hear it! You pay none of these bills…