PIZZA PARTY AND SCARY MOVIES

As a child, October was my favorite time of the year. It screamed scary movies and pizza parties. Staying up really late at night and being scared out of my mind. What a better way to spend the weekend, now that my daughter is the tender age of six. Yes, I said Six! My sense of humor is demented and lucky for me, so is my daughter’s. I am looking forward to sharing the experience with her. She already likes Child’s Play 1 and 2.

Instead of being scared, she laughed about the special effects and asked about how the blood splattered. I explained to her what a blood squib is. Then I showed her Uncle Eric’s Facebook page so she could see his special effects makeup he has done for films. It sparked a whole new interest.

Then she watches clips of me getting my neck cut open by Eric Roberts in a film and Uncle Antwon crying over my dead body in another film and all she wanted to know, “Was it hard not to laugh,” she asked me.

So, I am going to see how she feels about this lineup, wish me luck!

ParaNorman (Kids Movie)

I’M THINKING OF ENDING THINGS

Frankenweenie (Kids Movie)

CANDYMAN

Gremlins (Childhood fav)

OMG HALLOWEEN KILLS, the return of Michael Myers is delayed. Thanks, alot Covid! It’s okay, it gives me a chance to catch my daughter up on the oldies but goodies.

PUMPKIN NICE CREAM

Yes, I am one of those people who looks forward to fall all year long because I like all the seasonal pumpkin treats! While I can see Shawn Harrison (My Wally pop) rolling his eyes at me now out of disgust. He hates pumpkin and I should be ashamed but that fact that he hates it makes me enjoy it just a little more. LOL.

My daughter loves Pumpkin Nice Cream, so I make a big batch and keep extra in the freezer. It only takes like 3 minutes to make, so it’s the perfect last thought dessert.

5-6 frozen bananas

1 15-oz can of organic pumpkin puree (I remove from the can and freeze overnight beforehand)

1/2 tsp pumpkin pie spice

1 tsp of vanilla extra

6 pitted medjool dates (if you want it sweeter, freeze beforehand)

If you do not freeze ingredients beforehand:

Blend the pumpkin, spices, vanilla extract and dates until smooth.

Transfer to a shallow pan and freeze overnight.

If they are already frozen:

Break apart pumpkin mixture and add to the blender/food processor with frozen bananas. Blend until smooth and creamy.

Eat immediately as soft serve, freeze for 2-3 hours for a scoopable ice cream. You can keep leftovers in the freezer for up to 3 days.

PUMPKIN CARVING PARTY

I’ve got good news homeschoolers: pumpkin carving is definitely a craft so it counts as art class. Pumpkin carving has become a tradition in our house. It all started when my daughter was little, she loved Spookley the Square Pumpkin!

Giving it a name and a face is her favorite thing to do. I cut open plastic bags and literally placed it right down on the kitchen floor. Pumpkin carving is messy, and this is a way for really easy cleanup. I get down on the floor, open up a garbage bag and just throw everything else in it.  I make sure to give her a wooden spoon and a huge bowl so she can scoop out all the goodness and put it in the bowl. She loves getting her hands dirty and acting silly with the pumpkin’s insides.

Pumpkin Carving Party

We put aside the goodness for another activity I’ll write you about next time. Because my daughter is small, I made sure that I bought her those child friendly carving tools and I have her draw the face that she wants on the pumpkin before we actually cut them out. And then I help her carve out the face that she wants. I make sure that she remembers not to rush, to use small, controlled motions and to keep her hands dry so that doesn’t slip on the little carving tools. I make sure to put the top on the pumpkin so that she doesn’t feel compelled to put her hand on the inside of the pumpkin while she’s cutting, that way I don’t have to worry about her cutting herself. Tea light candles from the Dollar Store are the perfect substitute for a real candle. 

And if you feel that your child is too small to actually carve a pumpkin; it doesn’t mean that they need to be left out of the fun. Give them a sharpie and let them go to work, maybe some glue with some googly eyes, some sequins and rhinestones. Let them just have fun and be creative. One year my daughter painted a pumpkin and she loved it. Don’t get caught up in details, just have fun and make great memories.

PUMPKIN PATCH

It’s that time of the year again! PUMPKIN PATCH TIME! I feel blessed to live in a great place that has many awesome patches nearby. It all started when my daughter was little, she loved Spookley the Square Pumpkin! So, the first year, after we went on a hay barrel ride, drank hot chocolate, rode a pony and visited the little petting zoo they had, she took me on a mission. She had me walking down row, after row looking for a square pumpkin… which of course she did not find. But after a while, she forgot she was looking for a specific shape because she found the perfect one for her. She said it was asking her to please bring it home.

I was relieved we could finally leave LOL. She took pictures and waved bye to the people that helped us, but most of all, she got the perfect pumpkin for her. Allowing her to choose for herself not only makes her feel like a big girl but also brings her so much joy since it will become her friend for the season. She always puts a seatbelt on it and talks to it on the way home.

I know I will miss these sweet moments one day. I hope she enjoys the pumpkin patch for many years to come because I truly enjoy watching her search for the perfect pumpkin. Stay tuned to Fridays post when I will write about carving out this Jack O Lantern.

BREAST CANCER AWARENESS

So, I wanted to do a piece about Breast Cancer Awareness but I think it’s best for you to read the journey of my BADASS SISTA (20 years strong we been riding).

 Shawand Marquez, who kicked breast cancers ass! Shawand is an Actress, Dancer and AWESOME MOTHER! Now I am going to stop bugging her up and let you read her words yourself so you can understand yourself why I am a huge fan of hers……

GOOD AFTERNOON… TODAY IS OCTOBER 9TH… AND EVERYTIME THE 9TH ROLLS AROUND MY MIND STARTS GOING. 

IT HAS BEEN EXACTLY 2 YEARS & 4 MONTHS TO THE DAY WHEN I WAS AWOKEN UP FROM #DoubleMastectomy & WAS OFFICIALLY CANCER FREE AND BREASTLESS. 

IT HAS BEEN A CRAZY EMOTIONAL JOURNEY…THERE ARE ALOT OF SCARS I HAVE EMOTIONALLY BUT THESE ARE THE ONES YOU GUYS CAN SEE… I AM GRATEFUL TO BE ABLE TO HAVE #LifeAfterBreastCancer WHICH BRINGS ME TO MY NEXT THING…

IN A COUPLE WEEKS IT WILL BE ALL ABOUT MY LIL SIDE KICK… BUT I WANTED TO DO THIS FOR MYSELF & OTHER WOMEN WHO MAY HAVE HAD SURGERIES & C-SECTIONS LIKE MYSELF AND MAY HAVE STRUGGLED WITH THEIR BODY IMAGE…

THIS IS ME AFTER ALL THE THINGS I HAVE BEEN THROUGH. THIS IS ME … YOU ARE NOT WHAT YOU BEEN THROUGH… I AM STILL FUN, BUBBLING, SEXY, BEAUTIFUL WHILE WORKING ON WEIGHT LOSS & RAISING 3 KIDS & TRYING TO BE THE BEST WIFE & MOM / STEPMOM EVER …. YEAH I HAVE MY DEPRESSION & CRAZY ANXIETY ISSUES & MOMENTS BUT I‘M GETTING BETTER EACH DAY… 

SO LET ME REINTRODUCE MYSELF… ( AGAIN) LOL

I AM Shawand ShaLove Marquez & I have 2 step kids and my first born is about to be a year old… I have gotten surgery up top (Double Mastectomy & surgery down low (C- section) …I have been through mental, physical & emotional abuse …I Love Love lol.. I Love to Laugh & Dance & I have done some acting  & I love to be around people with awesome positive vibes ….Yuuuppp Posting this scares me but if it can uplift someone and inspire someone then it is always worth it … ANY QUESTIONS???

BTW YUP THOSE ARE #WonderWoman Underwear for Obvious reasons lol … Yes, I was genuinely laughing because the Photographer is super awesome and funny lol … I had to shoot this a few days after I injured my leg… and still found a reason to laugh so I hope everyone found a reason to smile today annnnnnndddd I hope you guys are checking your Breast with Self Examinations …#EarlyDetection is Key

PEACE LOVE HAPPINESS & NO BODY SHAMING & DANCE LIKE NO ONE IS WATCHING… XOXOXOXOXOXO

Photo Credit: Nomi Ellenson at Boudoir by Nomi Photography

DO KIDS STILL BOB FOR APPLES?

Get your kids up and out of the house and make sure they live! It’s fall, make sure they enjoy the crisp air and the season change. Bobbing for apples wasn’t something that I got to do often as a child with friends because it’s kind of gross and a great way to be spreading germs with a bunch other people. I did get to bob for apples with Soleil once when I was a kid! My mom put a bunch of apples in a container and led us onto the balcony. I remember thinking those floating apples were so funny and diving my face all the way in and down holding my breath trying my best to get an apple was fun. I remember my mom timing us and cheering for us. Then being all wet with a towel around my neck, eating an apple and giggling with Soleil.

I figured this is something my daughter would love to do after going to the apple orchard herself. After I wash the apples, I made sure I got a plastic container, filled it up with water and grabbed a few towels. I explain the rules to my daughter, grabbed her school timer and let her go in the back yard! 

She giggled with excitement at the thought of putting her face in all that water. As she wrapped her hands together around her back, she giggled some more. Once she settled down, she was ready! It was a great way to keep her entertained for about 5 minutes. After she got 3 apples out, she quit! She ate the apple and giggled about it for the rest of the day. It’s the simple things kids remember most.

Memory Made! Let’s see if she asks to do it next year…

OCTOBER HAS BEEN DECLARED MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS MONTH

Unfortunately, 112 Americans die by suicide every day. Suicide is the second leading cause of death of people between 15 to 25 years old. If those numbers aren’t astounding enough, 9.4 million Americans in the United States have had serious thoughts of suicide within the last year. 

Warning signs 

  • Never take the threat of someone killing themselves lightly.
  • Hopelessness, having no reason to live
  • Unbearable pain
  • Talk about feeling trapped
  • Behaving recklessly, anxiously, or agitated / rage or wanting revenge 
  • Increased use of alcohol or drugs
  • Not sleeping or sleeping too much
  • Withdrawing or feeling isolated 
  • Extreme mood swings

If you or someone you know needs help, make sure you reach out to a professional.

National Suicide Prevention

800-273-8255

OPPORTUNITY IS EVERYWHERE

Successful people are successful because they refuse to let opportunity pass them by. They aren’t afraid to hear NO and they hear it often, but they are emotionally intelligent enough to know just because they were told “NO,” it’s not the end all be all. It means NO…Not right now.

As actor’s statistics say, we get 1 job out of 100 auditions. That means we are told NO a whole hell lot more than yes. People only see the wins, not the hard work and dedication we put into it.

I promise you opportunities are everywhere; you just have to open your eyes and see them! Make lemonade out of lemons is an expression we have all heard right? Well, it is the perfect example in life. You know how businesses thrive… they fill a void where there is a demand, it’s that easy. Everyone wasn’t born with passion and know how but everyone was born with needs.

If there is something missing from your community that you feel is needed, BOOM provide it! That’s taking advantage and creating an opportunity for others.

I know next you are going to say but with what money? Everything has to start somewhere. Even if it’s $300, you will be shocked how far that really goes when spent on necessities to make your dreams come true. If you truly believe in yourself, others will as well. You may be shocked who pitches in to help you achieve those dreams.

The only dream maker you can depend on is yourself. So if there are some things you dream about making happen in your life, GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA AND PUSH FOR WHAT YOU WANT!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMY!

Mommy, a mother like you is more priceless than any precious stone! You are fiercer than any historical hero, you are truly my everything. The best grandmother ever put on this earth! If I can be half the woman I’ve witnessed in you, I’d have gone above and beyond anything to be expected.

It’s been 24,018 days since your birth. There have been 813 full moons since you have been on this earth. These are reasons why you are the wisest woman I know. Happy Birthday sweet lady from me and your Grandbaby! I pray this crazy year brings you more peaceful days than you have ever felt and the happiest memories yet!

Did you know you were born on a Saturday and your Life Path number is 9? Your life path #9 represents selflessness, forgiveness and creativity. So, it’s natural that you are the philanthropist, humanitarian, socially conscious, and are deeply concerned about the state of the world. (Makes sense huh?) You spent your life taking care of everyone around you.)

You have always been a Mother to the whole neighborhood. Thank you for being the mother to so many motherless. I feel honored to be your daughter, they aint never made another one like you. It’s Friday and there are only 97 days remaining until the end of the year. I promise to remind you every single day just how wonderful you are! You are truly a fierce beautiful Rockstar! I love you, Happy Birthday, my precious Momma!

Visit An Apple Orchard

Visiting an apple orchard is the perfect fall field trip for homeschoolers. I love our local orchard because I always call ahead and they let me know which days have been the busiest and if they have special activities going on that day. Most importantly, they let me know whether the snack bar will be open or not. 🙂

If you are planning your first visit to an orchard, it’s important to bring baby wipes, hand sanitizer, and water. Also, pack a light snack (if there is no snack bar). Depending on how much walking you do. your kiddos may get tired. I make sure to also put rubber rainbows on me and my little one in case it’s a bit muddy out there, and I leave a trash bag in the back of my trunk just to put our boots in or on so my truck stays mud-free.

Even if you are not a homeschooler, this field trip is a great opportunity to make it a hands-on learning lesson. My daughter really enjoyed reading the book Apple Picking Day by Candice Ranson, before we went for the first time. We also picked Great Grandma’s apple pie recipe to make for dessert after our trip. 

We also had a conversation before we went about only picking as many apples as we could eat. It’s important to explain to kids not to be wasteful. It’s exciting to pick apples, but it’s not kind to pick fruit that will just go to waste later.

When picking apples, it’s important teach children to pick them correctly. You don’t just pull the apple down and off you roll it in a circle and try to leave the stem on it so it will last longer. Apples on the outside of the tree ripen first, so choose from the outside in.

Charge your cell phones and remember life is about moments, so make great memories. <3