#FBF: MY TOP 5 POSTS OF ALL TIME

Happy Friday and Thank You Sooo Much to all of our loyal and new AFMS readers. I truly appreciate you. For those of you who are new around here, I thought it would be fun to revisit our TOP 5 Blogs to date. Enjoy reading or (re-reading) these posts, and then come on over to Instagram and let me know what you think.

Let’s count them down!

# 5: 10 THINGS YOU DON’T KNOW ABOUT ME

#4: AN OPEN LETTER TO OUR PUNKY FRIENDS <3

#3: GRATEFUL

#2: HAIR GROWTH TIPS (Note: Products are now available at https://therealcherie.com)

#1: I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE COUNTED A CALORIE!

Thank you, again, for your support. I’ll see you on Monday with an all-new post.

Love,

Cherie

HOMESCHOOL BLESSING

Andrea, our homeschool advisor, just reminded me that if my daughter’s education was like everyone else’s, she would just be starting Kindergarten this month. With the Covid pandemic, I have been reassured and have confirmation I made the right choice for my child!

I know I wouldn’t be comfortable with her starting school and expected to be able to obey social distancing rules! Social distancing isn’t natural for adults, much less a room full of 5 to 6 year old children. It’s an unrealistic expectation. Also is a slight punishment. While I understand all parents cannot afford to homeschool, I am thankful I have been blessed enough to make a way.

Not only would she had been bored in Kindergarten but homeschool children now have the most consistent education out of regular school children. Bravo homeschool parents for choosing the path least taken and going against the grain. Living outside the box really feels good right now. I thank God I didn’t listen to the masses who questioned my choice. My daughter started her schooling at 3 years old when she requested and persisted that she was ready for Kindergarten. The fact that she knew all the states in the USA and was speaking, counting and knew her ABC’s in English and Spanish made the choice easy. Her whole education has been self-led.

Some friends and family voiced their opinions on how I was not making the right choice for my child and had conversations behind my back. I laugh at them now that my child is 5 years old and skating into 4th grade like a boss. Still self-driven, still on her own schedule.

She has been a pure joy and we have had no meltdowns through Covid about her being bored or lonely. She actually thinks Covid has been fun. She says she enjoys Taekwondo online and likes not having to go to the Dojang 4 days a week. She was little bummed out about soccer being cancelled but she shortly got over it, knowing it was okay for her to FaceTime her teammates.

She is fully aware of what’s going on and is okay with not risking her health for fun. FaceTime playdates have become a thing and she has adjusted with ease.

We are looking forward to starting 4th grade and incorporating a few new curriculums this school year. Enjoy and good luck, may all of our kiddos be safe and have a successful school year!

91%!

After looking things up, I found out 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies. That’s like almost all women! Absolutely, devastating for me to read. It completely explains why so many women resort to dieting, plastic surgery, or food disorders to achieve their ideal body shape.

Unfortunately, only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by Americans in the media. This is where the issues often stem from. 58% of college-aged girls feel pressured to be a certain weight.

This is where I am thankful to be me, I have been 20 pounds heavier or 20 pounds thinner and my weight fluctuates 10 pounds here or there depending on if I am working or not. If I’ve been to Puerto Rico, Houston or New York or not. (Those are my favorite places to eat.) But weight has never been a huge focus for me. Even though my weight has been the focus and topic of people’s conversations about me, I have a healthy relationship with food and it’s all about balance. At the end of the day, I love me whether my boobs are a Double D or a C, they are a part of me.

It’s more than a self-esteem thing, I really think it’s an acceptance and appreciation of self thing too.

We need some major educational overhauls as early as elementary school when it comes to nutrition. Nutrition is taught all wrong and more than half of genetic diseases that run in families are there because we have the same eating habits that run in families.

Mothers, let’s teach our children about healthy food and balance. Let’s break generational curses and traditions and an overabundance of artery clogging foods. If you need reeducation yourself, I am here and ready to provide you with some nutritional consultations.

http://www.therealcherie.com

I’M NOT SATISFIED!

When I say this many people around me take it wrong, they think I’m not happy. I am very happy, but I am one of those people who is not satisfied or willing to settle in my life. I don’t know that I will ever be satisfied. There are 1000 things I have yet to accomplish. Yes, my list is long, I have goals and aspirations I’ve yet to even explore.

Satisfied Vs. Happy

Happiness is a state of mind, while satisfaction is the absence of want.

Now material things don’t satisfy me, and they are not my goal. I get off accomplishing my dreams. People try to tell me I’ve accomplished enough. They constantly remind me of my past, while I appreciate my journey and the fact it’s remembered, the point they missed it’s not about what anyone else thinks or feels about me. It’s what I have personally lined up for myself in my head. Entertainment is not my only goal, believe it or not, there is more to me. I understand most of you know my characters, but you don’t know my character.  I dream bigger than the smoke and mirrors of Hollywood.

I’m attracted to ambition and accomplishing things I put on my to do list! I get a high manifesting my future. See, I realized early in my life I control my destiny and no other soul can stop me from my goals but me.

Some people don’t achieve their goals because they are surrounded by people who never completed theirs. The easiest way for me to get ghost on someone is for them to doubt me, not be ambitious themselves or for them to be complacent.

They say you become the closest 5 people to you. With that said, I purged a lot of people. I refuse to be the smartest in the room. I surround myself with people who are able to teach me something. People who add to my life, people who breath energy into me. We all need to find those types… Dream big people, your thoughts become realities!

A NEW BLACK OWNED COMPANY I NEED EVERYONE TO KNOW ABOUT

I found a new BLACK owned company I need everyone to know about! The people who own the company won me over because they have a passion for what they do! The packages are sent out beautifully. Which makes the perfect gift to anyone on your list! 

Their mission statement is: 

By using natural elements provided by mother earth we do our very best to deliver quality products our customers will love and enjoy. We put careful thought and attention into each product that we produce. All of our products are handmade and made in small batches. We love knowing we can share a little piece of Harmony with you.     

I feel like right now is a great time to spread a little Harmony with everything going on in the world today! I have tried a few of their products and my favorite 2 so far are the Love Shake Bath Bombs and the Sugar Scrub. Best part is both products are under $25 each! 

I have a sensitive “Cherry” (pointing down below) yes, play on words, but I was pleasantly pleased these bath bombs have given me NO irritation! I am in love with the LOVE SHACK Bombs! 

Melt in your tub with the Love Shack bath bomb. Perfect for those days you want to relax and unwind. A few of the star ingredients in this bath bomb are baking soda, Epsom salt, and coconut oil. Relax and indulge your senses with its sweet and fruity aroma.

The Sea Breeze body scrub comes packaged in a reusable glass jar and contains 21oz of product. This sugar scrub is a great way to keep your skin healthy and glowing! Body scrubs help remove dry dead skin cells allowing the skin underneath to better absorb moisture and nutrients. This scrub is made with cane sugar and has a lager grain which is awesome if you’re looking extra exfoliation. The scrub is packed with skin loving oils such coconut oil, almond oil, grape seed oil, and castor oil. This scrub exfoliates skin while adding moisture without leaving a greasy film on your skin.

They also have great candles, gift sets and much more! Check out www.theharmonybox.com

A CHILD WHO LOVES TO READ CAN TRAVEL ANYWHERE ANYTIME

I walked in the room and noticed my child sitting on the couch reading. She never looked up or noticed me taking pictures of her. Her Titi Jacelyn bought her a set of Children’s Encyclopedia Britannica books with a Quiz it Pen. She absolutely loves them. She loves to travel (Mixture of her Mom and Dad there). But she’s not letting Covid slow her down. Physically she can’t get on that plane but mentally she’s been to every continent. 

Little one reading

I am blessed to have introduced my child to the love of story very early! I started reading to her when she was still in the womb. Research shows reading to our children and talking to them about what we are reading increases a child’s IQ. 

I know for a lot of parents it’s frustrating when your child stops you while you are reading to them to discuss what’s happening on that page. Actually, stopping and letting them get their thoughts out and talking it through with them will help their reading comprehension later. It also helps develop a deep love for reading later. 

Take the time to cuddle up and enjoy your little one. It’s a great way to treasure those little precious moments of time we will never get back. Reading time has become a special part of our days. Even though she can read to herself now doesn’t mean I’ve stopped reading to her. Read alouds are a part of our school routine as well as Big Baby and Momma time. I’m getting every cuddle I can in while she still enjoys it! 

Keep in mind please while they are young you have the chance to shape their whole life. Children with better reading skills achieve higher test scores in every school subject and have a greater knowledge than those who don’t.

GUEST BLOG: MENTAL HEALTH AND THE ARMED FORCES

                                            Smoking Mirrors by Elijah K. Muhammad

Before the Covid19 Pandemic outbreak, there was a lot of talk about mental health, and a lot of websites, systems and programs being put in place in order to raise awareness, so that we may provide many options for people to receive treatment. There are many of us, who suffer from different symptoms of mental health, such as PTSD, depression, anxiety and chemical dependency to name a few, or maybe a combination of these symptoms listed. There are so many of us that are affected with these traits, whether it may be from childhood trauma, abusive relationships, physical or mental, or a Soldier returning home from a Combat Deployment.

            I wish to provide some enlightenment on a particular group, which is our Brothers and Sisters in arms, who have, or who still currently serve in our armed forces. Speaking from experience, I believe a lot of our Soldiers are dramatically affected by the events they witnessed or participated in during combat. However, I don’t totally agree with the fact, that combat is the only or main contributing factor leading to the cause of PTSD, anxiety, depression or chemical dependency. There are a plethora of contributing factors that often go unmentioned and addressed. Being a former combat veteran, we are briefed on potential domestic threats that we may encounter. Entailed in some of these briefings, are the intentions and actions of certain type of opportunist that are labeled card chasers. These are basically narcissists pursuing a relationship or courtship in order to obtain benefits, such as housing, medical/dental insurance or a potential portion of a Soldier’s pay or pension. Nothing is more important to a Soldier than family, which is the reason they make the sacrifice of putting their life on the line, in order to be a provider. Before you deploy, you are required to get your house in order by filling out your will and deciding how you want your life insurance policy distributed, in case you were not able to return home. Last but not least, you must provide instructions on how you want your physical remains handled.

            After this process, you say goodbye to your family and then deploy. During this deployment, a Soldier will face a lot of adversity and overwhelming odds of survival. Please understand that family is the motivation and inspiration along with the lives of the men and women next to them to make it back home. Unfortunately, when we return home as veterans,we’re all injured in a sense, whether it be mentally or physically, in some cases a combination of both. When some of these Soldiers return home, they return home to an empty house, depleted bank accounts, because their spouses abandoned them, leaving heartbroken, poor and destitute. Another group of veterans may be physically unable to continue their military career, because of injuries suffered during the combat deployment. This forces them to leave the military but may not receive their benefits immediately or total benefits. These two scenarios cause the suicide rate to increase, and cause veterans to totally give up on life, which is why in most cases you see so many homeless veterans. Their thought process is, why should I want to even continue living? I sacrificed everything of me for my family and my country, just to have one, if not the two of them turn their backs on me.

            I loved my time in the military, but everyone is not capable of staying afloat mentally, even I at one point in time, had to consult with a therapist. This is not a race or gender issue; this is a humanity issue. I personally believe we need to raise awareness of these undiscussed triggers that veterans constantly face, that causes PTSD, anxiety, depression, chemical dependency and even suicide. By raising the conscious level of these traits, we can decrease the numbers of Soldiers encountering these mental issues possibly reducing the rate of suicides.

Thank you for your time. My appreciation and regards to the host of this platform Cherie Johnson for allowing me to lend my voice.

NOW IS THE TIME TO REEVALUATE YOUR BUSINESSES!

No matter what business you are in after Corona, you are going to need a marketing plan to thrive! You know I have to share all my good findings with you! 

Let me introduce you to Green Soul Marketing: they will bring the soul to your project. Whether it’s a logo or a thoughtfully crafted brand story. They will listen to your dream and then put their talented team to work to bring it to life! Whether you are looking for a website design and audits, original and revised logos, product labels, marketing strategies, branding services, entrepreneur workshops, business solutions & more, they have your back! 

I, myself have worked with them and their prices are amazing but don’t take my word for it, find out for yourself! 

For a limited time, they will be doing free consultations!

https://gotgreensoul.com/pages/contact-us

LET’S PAINT SEASHELLS


Well this time of the year we would usually be on a beach somewhere spending time together as a family. This year we are taking some extra precautions but that doesn’t mean we have to give up all the fun! 


Arts and Crafts is always a fun time in my house. Through arts and crafts, children get to exercise their fine motor skills, stretch their little imaginations, be creative and work independently. 

Art is great for self-esteem, as it gives children a great sense of achievement when they have completed their task. It’s a great and safe way to make mistakes and learn sometimes your mistakes can lead you to a whole new idea! It gives them a opportunity to work on their communication skills as they explain their creations to others! 


Arts and crafts is a weekly staple in my home that brings so much joy to all whom visit. 

Seashell Kit


The seashell kit was a Christmas purchase from Five Below last year! 

RICH PEOPLE HAVE BETTER ORAL HYGIENE BUT IT IS NOT BECAUSE OF MONEY

Statistics show rich people have better oral hygiene than the middle class or below. Not because of health insurance but because of the habits of the lower class. 

While lower class only brush once a day, the upper-class brushes at least twice a day and floss. Maybe this goes back to the upper class being taught healthy habits at an early age with the privilege of visiting the dentist as early as their teeth come in. While unfortunately not only do lower class children miss dentist appointments, but many only go to the dentist if there is a problem or major mouth pain.

For adults, I just don’t see money being an excuse here! Baking soda & coconut oil are the best toothpaste, while hydrogen peroxide is the best mouthwash. Then floss at night!

All these items can be found at the 99 cents store or Dollar Tree. So, it can’t be about the money, it has to be about the education.

Did you know that your oral health can offer clues about your overall health — or that problems in your mouth can affect the rest of your body? Understand the intimate connection between oral health and overall health and what you can do to protect yourself.

Oral health is also a direct connection with your heart health. Ladies, do you realize messing with yuck mouth men can lead to STDs and bacterial infections? I’m just saying while you’re worried about his package…teeth should be a part of that! Nothing sexier than a beautiful smile! 

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