I am sad that I have to announce Molly is no longer with us. Yes, my daughter’s fish after 4 years has been called home! She transitioned back to the earth and my daughter took it hard! I mean she screamed and cried! She had lost her best friend! She was too upset to bury her. She asked me could I do it for her. I told her, “Sure I will.” All I could do was hug her and let her know she was a good pet owner to Molly and reminded her that Molly lived a good life! She had 3 different bowls with major fishy bling, the fish literally took flights (plural) outa town! That made her giggle in between the tears.

She climbed back in her bed and turned on YouTube so she could watch other people play Roblox. (I don’t get it but that’s a whole different blog) For about 15 minutes, she has screamed and cried… then the doorbell rang! 

Her Aunt Michelle sent cookies all the way from Boston! Within 15 minutes, these giant cookies came to the door with 4 containers of ice Cream and chocolate milk! Lol, the tears stopped quickly! Hero Auntie saved the day and turned the channel.

While she still grieves over Molly being gone, it’s been a few days, but she no longer cries because she’s still working on these giant cookies! 

Aunt Michelle, thank you for always having your baby’s back. You taught me a huge lesson and listen; these cookies are amazing. Hahaahahaha! You are the best, thank you so much! 

R.I.P., Molly, you lived a great long life! 

Pray for me everyone. Now she’s asking me for a Teacup Yorkie or a Teacup Maltiepoo! I’m a sucker when it comes to this girl’s wants but I dunno if I’m ready to travel with a dog now… I told her we would talk about it again when she’s 7. I bought myself a few more months. (Whispering to you) I hope she forgets! Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ 


I get asked a lot about how do I stay looking so young? What products do I use on my skin? Youth is from the inside out! A lot of you don’t know I am a certified nutritionist. Good nutrition is an important part of leading a healthy lifestyle. Combined with physical activity, your diet can help you to reach and maintain a healthy weight, reduce your risk of chronic diseases (like heart disease and cancer), and promote your overall health.

Eating a balanced diet is vital for good health and wellbeing. Food provides our bodies with the energy, protein, essential fats, vitamins and minerals to live, grow and function properly. The goal is to keep it natural from the inside out.

Food or medicine

Only a small percentage of Americans (any groupings by age, sex or skin color) actually consume the recommended minimum of five daily servings of fruit and vegetables to maintain health. The National Cancer Institute now suggests nine servings of fresh plant foods per day to reduce health risks, a goal which is not likely to be achieved by a significant percentage of the population, let alone among minority groups in society.

Americans with low intake of folic acid (green leafy vegetables) have higher homocysteine levels. Homocysteine is an undesirable protein in the blood circulation, which is linked with cardiovascular disease and brain dementia. It is amazing when they estimate the impact of poor nutrition upon Blacks. It is encouraging to realize that nutritional strategies could be employed to eradicate or reduce common health risks in family of Americans at very little cost.

There is a connection to skin color, nutrition and disease, which is exemplified by role of vitamin D, the “sunshine vitamin,” among blacks. Dark melanin skin pigment slows the natural production of vitamin D in the skin upon exposure to the sun. Blacks may require as much as ten times more sun exposure to produce the same vitamin D as Caucasians. Shortages of vitamin D are causally linked to high blood pressure, stroke, cancer (colon, breast, prostate, ovarian, lymphoma), Crohn’s disease, immune problems and osteoporosis, health problems that are common in the black community.

There are claims that “A low intake of dairy food nutrients, such as calcium, potassium, and magnesium, may contribute to the high risk of hypertension seen in African Americans.” Milk is a very poor source of magnesium and potassium. Blacks notoriously exhibit intolerance to milk products. In one study abnormal lactose tolerance was found among 81% of Blacks and only 12% of Whites. This explains our avoidances of dairy.

It is obvious Blacks are genetically different (not inferior) and due to their melanin skin pigmentation exhibit special health and nutritional needs that are not being adequately addressed by the medical community nor the food industry.

Here at KIAN SPA, we understand nutrition is not one size fits all. We go the extra mile to make ensure our clients are receiving individualized consultations so they can meet their personal nutrition goals.

To reach out for a nutrition consultation you can book though 


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It’s simple. I post things that make me laugh. I post things that entertain me. I post things to provoke thought. I entertain myself. 

My page is public, and my real friends do not contact me on social media for conversation. They call or text my phone. Social media for me is a way to connect with friends I don’t know personally who have grown up with me. It’s a way for me to let you know what I am doing now and have a conversation. It’s a way to connect, have fun, share a laugh or a few words of encouragement. 

I have never invited the public into my home, so you better believe you aint gonna learn nothing good to gossip about me from my post. I’m just here for shits and giggles only. 

Not for you to know my family. WHY you ask? Cuz yall crazy!! While there are some champions, most of you just need something or someone to talk about so why would I offer up my kids and my man? Social media is a human trafficker’s playground. Social media is a cesspool of negativity that I refuse to welcome into my life. Social media is social and honestly, I only pretend to be. 

This chapter of my life is reserved and pretty closed off, the way I have become with age. My most precious moments do not make social media. Even though it’s the culture to share what we drive, every meal, who we are with, I choose to keep some things for myself, and it’s okay if you do too.

Not in a rude way but just because you read my stuff doesn’t mean you know my business, boo.


Just because it’s the end of February doesn’t mean we need to lose the momentum! Keep teaching our children our History. This is everyone on earth’s history. We are always taught about the same 5 people who have contributed to the betterment of us but there are so many more. If you are looking for a resource that has a few unlikely names in them, check out this book that was gifted to my daughter from my studio teacher when I was a child. My daughter loves this book and we have read it several times. Mrs. RuthAnn Brown sent this as one of her birthday presents.

51 Black Heroes can be found now on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Black-Heroes-Inspiring-Modern-Day-U-S/dp/1641527048

This book covers from the rulers of ancient Egypt to modern scientists, world-class athletes, and legendary performers, uncover the diverse lives of Black leaders and role models throughout history. Black Heroes: A Black History Book for Kids is packed with tons of awesome biographies from Africa, the United States, and around the world.

Explore the trailblazing stories of well-known standouts like Rosa Parks and Barack Obama, and lesser-known luminaries like Rebecca Lee Crumpler, the first African American doctor, and Benjamin Banneker, an astronomer and mathematician. This black history book for kids makes it easy to learn about how these trailblazers created lasting change and paved the way for future generations.

Black Heroes: A Black History Book for Kids features:

Amazing biographies―Discover the stories behind famous icons as well as lesser-known individuals throughout history, including civil rights heroes (Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.), stars of the arts (Miles Davis), and scientists and pioneers (aviator Bessie Coleman).

Explore more!―Coupled with each biography in this black history book for kids is a short sidebar that gives you more ways to learn beyond the book.

Engaging portraits―Enjoy the full-color illustrations of these historical heroes while you read along.

                                  ~HAPPY LEARNING~


Yes, Leprosy was before our time! But if you have heard of it, you should have heard of Alice Augusta Ball. She was an American chemist who developed the “Ball Method”, the most effective treatment for leprosy during the early 20th century.

 She was the first woman and first African American to receive a master’s degree from the University of Hawaii, and was also the university’s first female and African American chemistry professor. Alice was one of four children born into a middle class well to do family. Alice’s father was the editor of the newspaper Colored Citizens, a photographer and a lawyer. Her mother was also a photographer. Her grandfather, James Ball, Sr., was a famous photographer, and one of the first Black Americans to make use of daguerreotypy,[ the process of printing photographs onto metal plates. Some researchers have suggested that her parents’ and grandfather’s love for photography may have played a role in her love for chemistry, as they worked with mercury vapors and iodine sensitized silver plates to develop photos.

At the University of Hawaii, Ball investigated the chemical makeup and active principle of Piper methysticum (kava) for her master’s thesis. Because of this work, she was contacted by Dr. Harry T. Hollmann at Kalihi Hospital in Hawaii, who needed an assistant for his research into the treatment of leprosy.


It is no accident that most of us have never heard of Frederick Douglas Patterson. He was an American entrepreneur known for the Greenfield-Patterson automobile of 1915, built in Ohio. He later converted his business to the Greenfield Bus Body Company.

Built by the first African American-owned automobile manufacturer, The C.R. Patterson & Sons Company, the Patterson-Greenfield automobile (pictured here) debuted in 1915, cost $850 and had a four-cylinder Continental engine, comparable to that of the Ford Model T. It’s not a coincidence that the model T is taught in elementary school but Frederick Douglas Patterson was Not! They have done their best to steal everything from us!

While in college at Ohio State University, he was also the first African American to play on its football team. He returned to Greenfield to join his father in his carriage business, which became C.R. Patterson and Sons. The younger man saw opportunity in the new horseless carriages and converted the company in the early 1900s to manufacture automobiles, making 150 of them. Later he shifted to making buses and trucks and renamed his company as Greenfield Bus Body Company. After Patterson’s death in 1932, his son kept the business going through much of the Great Depression, finally closing it in 1939.


Mary Seacole, née Mary Jane Grant, (born 1805, Kingston, Jamaica – died May 14, 1881, London, England), Jamaican businesswoman who provided sustenance and care for British soldiers at the battlefront during the Crimean War. Again, she was 15 years older than Florence!

Florence Nightingale receives all the accolades when Mary Seacole helped train her on how to sanitize and keep things sterile… Mary Seacole was a nurse. She was our first nurse, who pissed off the British and they are disgusted and hate to look at her as an icon. All because of the color of her skin again, doing all that they can to strip away the true history, OUR history! (But as we know, that’s what they do.) Children as early as preschool are taught about Florence while Mary Seacole is NEVER even mentioned in the history books.

The Black nurse story has been muddled over for long enough. It’s time people start demanding the history books change and Florence Nightingale is no longer taught without mentioning who trained her. Florence and Mary were friends! There was no hostility between the two and their goal together was to keep these soldiers alive, who were placed in a hospital over a sewer.

It’s been proven and documented that hygiene was taught to White people by Natives and Blacks. That’s who introduced them to bathing. So, it’s NO surprise a Jamaican woman had to teach them about sterilization because before she arrived (Not with Florence, on her own dime) soldiers were DYING because of unsanitary conditions.

 Yes, Florence went on to start a nursing school and did great things. Yes, her team of nurses helped many. I am not writing this to diminish her legacy, but I refuse to glorify her without paying homage to those who lead the way: her elder Mary Seacole! Then there’s the argument that Seacole is a symbol of political correctness gone mad because the great Black British icon isn’t, er, black. In a Spectator piece Rob Liddle took the baffling stance that Seacole was “three-quarters white”. This is despite contemporary depictions of her as a person “of colour” (and her own recollection that a White American at a dinner party said he wished he could bleach her skin). Doc McStuffins disappointed me by not teaching children the truth but then I had to step back and look at their writing team…


It’s not in the reports much like the lynchings of today or the murder of Martin Luther King! He didn’t die from the bullet, he was murdered. If you look up the court rulings, the government was found guilty but they don’t teach that narrative because they DO NOT WANT YOU TO KNOW!

For the younger generations who may not know Billie Holiday was a singer whose career spanned over 26 years. She died at the young age of 44 years old. On May 31, 1959, Holiday was taken to Metropolitan Hospital in New York suffering from liver and heart disease. She was arrested for drug possession as she lay dying, and her hospital room was raided by authorities.

Billie Holiday was Handcuffed to her hospital bed while dying!

Harry Anslinger, the first FBI director, notorious for his hatred of Black people, made it his job to destroy her, and her legacy because she refused to stop singing the song #StrangeFruit! (A song about Lynching) Under his direction, the hospital was ordered to stop giving her medical attention and she died within days. To listen to her song Strange Fruit


Janet wanted to be a ballerina in the 1930s and 40s, a time when racial segregation was widespread in the United States. Janet pursued dance with a passion, despite being rejected from discriminatory dance schools. When she was accepted into the Ballet Russe de Monte Carlo as a teenager on the condition that she paint her skin white for performances, Janet refused. She continued to go after her dreams, never compromising her values along the way. From her early childhood lessons to the height of her success as the first African American prima ballerina in the Metropolitan Opera, Brave Ballerina is the story of a remarkable pioneer as told by Michelle Meadows, with fantastic illustrations from Ebony Glenn.

The book is available on amazon.com

Janet Collins (March 7, 1917 – May 28, 2003) was an African American ballet dancer, choreographer, and teacher. She performed on Broadway, in films, and appeared frequently on television. She was among the pioneers of Black ballet dancing, one of the few classically trained Black dancers of her generation.


This is Sgt. Isaac Woodward, in 1946 he was just 26 years old. A decorated war veteran, he was honorably discharged from the U.S. Army. He was traveling home on the bus, back to the very place I had my own run in with the police, South Carolina.

Sgt. Isaac Woodward was wearing his uniform. He was a decorated war vet who fought for this country!  Yes, I repeated myself because I want you to get the point!

There was a dispute with the bus driver over a restroom break because buses didn’t have bathrooms on them. The bus driver calls the police. Police show up, forcibly remove Sgt. Woodward, and hewas beaten so severely that he lost his sight. Evidence suggests his eyes were gouged out.

NO arrests. NO charges. The crime went unpunished. Sound familiar? Much like the things that are occuring in the U.S. today!

Did you know that over 1 million Black soldiers who fought in the WWII were DENIED the G.I. Bill? And those who did, were UNABLE to make use of the housing provisions, BECAUSE banks wouldn’t make loans for mortgages in black neighborhoods (Know your history. Know your Privilege) and EXCLUDED from the suburbs because of deed covenants and institutional racism.

This is the history they will never teach in schools about this nation. This is why generational wealth doesn’t exist in the Black community.

In short, the GI Bill helped foster a long-term boom in white wealth but did almost nothing to help build black wealth! This is one of the examples of INSTITUTIONAL RACISM, and how it works, and how it STILL works today.

This is why these marches and protests aren’t about the ACT of what bad policing, aggressive, and extreme tactics used towards people of color do, but the systemic inequalities and policies that black people have been addressing for DECADES!

This isn’t just Black History; this is WHITE AMERICAN HISTORY.