I LOVE MONDAYS

A FRESH START

Get up with the alarm.  NO SNOOZE. If you hit the snooze button for 20 minutes, you have already wasted 20 minutes of your day. Might not seem like much but once you do that times 5…Bingo. You can accomplish a lot in 20 minutes.  You will stop saying, “I need more hours in my day”.

I wake up an hour early to get organized. Being a homeschool mom with a couple of careers, I need to write everything down. For me, this really works. I’m one of those people who needs purpose and having purpose helps me knock out my goals.

Practice positivity. Happiness is really a choice. It’s as easy as saying, “Okay, today I am going to be happy.”  Do not let negative thoughts occupy your mind. (There’s no point and nothing good comes from it) Use positive talk about yourself and everyone you come in contact with. Use positive visualization. Create a clear picture of your goals and your ideal life. Make a vision board to make it easy for yourself to replay the picture in your mind over and over.

Remember the people around you aren’t mind readers. Ask for what you want, believe in what you want, and you will attract it. Envision it. Get grateful for what you receive daily.

THE CHANCE TO SET A NEW TONE FOR THE REST OF THE WEEK

Learn something new! There has to be something you’re interested in that you would like to learn more about. Achieving knowledge brings major satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment.

Reflect on last week. This is your chance to start over. If there was anything you wish would have gone a different way, this is your chance to redirect things. Integrate what you learned last week, take the positive and act on it or build on it this week.

Don’t forget to eat healthy food. There is so much power in eating healthy. Not only will you feel more energized, you will accomplish more simply because your brain will function more sharply. Eating a balanced diet will also aid in getting better sleep.

A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE

A lot of people had plans for this week but unfortunately, they didn’t make it! So, while you’re dreading getting out of bed just remember to be thankful you have that option! Take a moment and realize how awesome life is and how you have another chance to complete a few goals. Spread a little love to everyone you see today. It’s easy, just give them a smile. Tell your loved ones just how important they are to you. Don’t forget it’s a new chance to make your wrongs right.

YOU DON’T NEED A NEW YEAR TO MAKE A CHANGE, ALL YOU NEED IS MONDAY.  MAKE THIS THE WEEK YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

LEARN TO LET GO AND LIVE

I often remind myself, the picture in an artist mind is not often what’s translated on canvas, but it doesn’t make it less beautiful. ~ Cherie

Here’s a #flashbackfriday post with a helpful reminder about life. (This was written pre-pandemic.)

I had to learn to let go and live. Life just doesn’t always move as planned no matter how long I spend working on the details. I am a stickler for schedule and being on time. From what I have learned, most of the world is NOT the same. No matter how much I prepare and break my neck to have things fall into place, often they just don’t, for reasons far out of my control. Someone always cancels and someone is always late. I expect to be paid on a certain date and I am not. It drives me insane and eats me up inside. I am by nature one of those people who does exactly what I say I am going to do. I have to accept the world is just not like me. In return, I am slowly learning to let go! I am learning to let go of the things I can’t control and giving it all to the universe.  (Maybe it’s my inner hippie.) I am learning how to find the beauty in every situation.

Just this week, I had 2 telephone conference calls just flake, and a nutritional consultation rescheduled last minute. I homeschool my daughter, so I busted my ass to make sure she was finished with school by 1 p.m., in order to take these calls. Had lunch ready to go so she would be preoccupied eating and watching YouTube, so the callers didn’t have to hear her talking in the background. While a part of me was fuming at the fact that they flaked… I had to take a moment and smile because I was able to hang out and eat lunch with my baby, where usually I would have just eaten the leftovers off her plate before I did the dishes and ran out the door to take her to Tae Kwon Do.

I was able to sit down next to her at the table and we talked and laughed while we ate. I listened to her tell me all about her LOL dolls and which were her favorites and why. I had to remind myself if I were on that conference call this would’ve been a moment that I would have missed with her. I smiled because I was able to be in the moment with her. Looking in her eyes and seeing the excitement made me realize I was exactly where I needed to be at that moment. I now get the saying let go, live life!

WE ALL HAVE THINGS TO DO!

We all have things to do! We all are over booked. For the life of me I can’t understand why people are okay with being late. Or okay with notoriously being late. I have no tolerance for it.  Once or twice, I will give you a 15-minute grace period, after that I am finished. The reasons why are 1. You are not professional! 2. You don’t respect my time. 3. You will end up costing me money. (Because my time is money)

Professionalism starts at the top! A lot of people don’t understand this. When the CEO of a company calls for a meeting and he or she is late, it gives a picture of how the overall company is run. When you see a CEO, who is the first there and the last to leave, they usually have employees who are also on time and willing to go the extra mile above and beyond their job description.

Tardy seems to be a habit that is hard for adults to break but studies show children and young adults who grow up involved with extra curriculum activities are more likely to have a higher level of professionalism and take their responsibilities more seriously as adults.

WE DETOX OUR BODIES BUT FORGET TO DETOX OUR MINDS!

Here’s a flashback to a post from 2018.

One of the most powerful things I learned from Dr. Dre was how to manifest my reality!  “Anything I can think of, I can have.” He took the time to have one of the most important conversations in my life with me. A socially awkward young girl trying to find my way in life, build my career and date successfully. From that conversation, the best thing I learned was the power of my mind and my speech.

I’m sure you have heard of “The Law of Attraction” or “The Secret.” Our mind works in images, so we have to purge any and every negative one possible. On average, studies show it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic; so, that’s 66 days to be exact. If you really want to change the course of your life, take the next 66 days and give yourself the fair chance to be who you always wanted to be.

Step #1

It’s is important to get adequate sleep, so the conscious mind relaxes, and we can start to access the subconscious mind. Before you go to bed, you need to imagine the true you.  Devote 10 minutes to the beautiful person you are, watch yourself manifesting all the money you want, that dream career, the dream self-image. When you envision the person you want to be, you help change your conscious mind into the person you were meant to be.

Step #2 

Speak positive to yourself and everyone around you.

Step #3

Approach everything with love even when others are evil. (This can be hard in the midst of conflict, but your calmness and smile will make others uneasy and make yourself laugh.)

Step #4

Start looking up instead of down. I know it sounds silly, but please go outside. Look up in the sky and try hard to think of anything negative. It’s hard right. Now look down and think negative. Crazy, that was too easy, huh?  Spend your days looking at the sky!

Step #5

Stay away from the media & social media.

Stop watching the news.

Stop listening to the radio.

Avoid gossip at all cause! It’s as TOXIC as eating fast food.

Stop negative thoughts.

Which of these steps are you already doing or plan on trying?

NOT GETTING WHAT WE WANT IS A BLESSING

Sometimes we don’t get what we want! That’s a good thing. Sometimes we want things for the surface view. Meaning we don’t do our research or look into it deeply enough to know if it’s really for us or not. 

Think about it, if the Universe would have given you everything you asked for, 9 outa 10 you would have found yourself stuck in a place you really didn’t want to be later!

I know for myself there were relationships I felt I wanted; auditions I went on that I didn’t book that had me down for a minute. Then years later, I’m thanking God those relationships did not work and the movie I thought I needed flopped! 

It’s really as easy as the expression, “What’s for you will be yours”. No more, no less. Blessings, lessons and life. Stop stressing! 

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WHAT DOES SUCCESS MEAN TO YOU?

Living in Los Angeles, I realized success means different things to different people. That’s okay! Everyone has the right to have their own success meter that works for them. 

Unfortunately, the majority of people I ran across are totally caught up in material. Not only is it how they gage their own success, but how they gage value in others. 

This is where the disconnect comes into play for me. I’ve always been more Holly from the Hood than Hollywood! That’s that P.A. blood in me. 

Yes, I was raised in Oak Park and went to Westlake High School, but as soon as I got my driver’s license you could find me in South Central. It wasn’t rebellion, as “People” called it. It was a sense of home, love, and food, which equates happiness to me. To me success is just that: Happiness! 

I know a shit ton of financially wealthy people who are Happy poor! 

This taught me that yes, finances are extremely important especially as a parent, but that’s not based on what kinda car you drive. Now don’t get me wrong, I’ma car girl and love my Ferraris, but a $1,500 car note when you don’t own property to impress someone is just plain stupid. My biggest flex to date is I’ve never had a car note. I drive sensible cars that I can pay for, that get me where I need to go and home. I’ve gotten clowned a lot for my choices. I drove a Toyota Camry for 13 years and it was the best choice I ever made. Others felt I wasn’t cool enough because my peers were in Benzs and BMWs. But when I sat behind the wheel of my XLE with that Gold Package, the fact I was able to buy myself a high school graduation present with cash was everything to me! You can’t tell me I wasn’t the shit! Now again, for ME that’s success. 

I will never forget in my early 30s, I had a friend/foe who tried to clown me about my big screen TV, she was like, “Where’s your Plasma?”

I looked at her and laughed.

First, I don’t even watch TV.

Second, she lived down south, so she could get a flat screen from Walmart for $200.

Third, she was on section 8 and fed her kids with food stamps. For her that was her gage for success. That was okay, but my lane isn’t hers. Then, she tried to clown me about how I was driving an old ass car. At the time, my 350z was 4 years old.

I said, “This car is brand new. My last I kept for 13 years… You don’t even know me.” Bottom line, the friendship wasn’t evenly yoked and that’s OKAY, but I wasn’t about to let her Gage on my Success or waver my happiness. 

The biggest joke about LA is you see a lot of broke folks in a Benz living paycheck to paycheck. For them, that’s success: Car Note & Rent! 

ALL MONEY AINT GOOD MONEY!

There is a man that I know, who honestly has been tryna get at me for many, many years. We just never clicked. I am in no way attracted to his personality, but we have made money together. 6 figure money a few times. So, every so often when I hear from him, I respond. Now, he’s been in my text thread heavily for the past month. He texted me yesterday and asked if I would call him. He had a branding opportunity for me. I didn’t listen to my gut and I called anyway because…Hell, it’s about money. 

I called him all chipper, “Hey, what you got good?” I asked him.

“I have this cosmetic company in South Africa looking for a named talent to be the face of a new makeup line,” he says.

“Makeup really isn’t my thing, (I have sensitive skin.) but what’s the details?” I asked.

With hesitation in his voice, he says, “It contains a special component”.

My mind is racing. I’m thinking, oh anti-aging or something. Curious now I say, “What component does it contain?”

“Skin lightening agents,” he said non confident.

” WTF You just say?” I asked.

He had the nerve to repeat himself.

“WHY IN THE FUCK WOULD YOU THINK I WOULD BE OKAY SELLING SOMETHING TO LIGHTEN THE SKIN OF BLACK WOMEN?” I screamed. (I wanted to make sure he heard me).

“Just hear me out… there is a lot of money on the table, and you don’t want to pass this opportunity up!” He tells me.

“I can’t believe your ass was dumb enough to even call me with this bullshit! What kinda self-hating mothafucka are you?” I screamed.

“Why do I have to be self-hating?” he asked.

“As a Black man, you thought it was a good idea to come at me with this? I asked him.

“These White boys are ready to spend big money. Calm down and remove your ego! They really feel this will be big,” he said to me.

“My ego has nothing to do with this; it has everything to do with my morals. I am a Black woman who loves herself…” 

“Well, I have this cannabis deal…” he says.

“I don’t smoke and I’m on a kid show.” I cut him off quickly and screamed.

Long story short, I have followers who always say I shouldn’t curse and I don’t want the kids reading exactly what came out of my mouth after that, but I called him every damn self-hating coon I could think of. I was completely taken back why a deep chocolate Black man with a whole African name would think it was okay to even come at me with a proposition like this. They say you attract everything that comes to you.

Then, I got even more pissed because it’s a company owned by White people and they got a 53-year-old coon volunteering to go do their dirty work and for the love of money, he was okay with presenting this to me like it was no big deal… Our own are the ones who sell us out STILL IN HUMAN TRAFFICKING TODAY.

Then, I laughed, and I said to him, “You always asked me why I wouldn’t marry you. This right here is why,” I yelled.

He said, “I’ve only been chasing you for 15 years.”

(Can’t say exactly what I said after that, I’m pretty sure it would be considered bullying.) 

For a woman to marry a man, she has to believe he will make choices in their best interest and you would sell me for a dollar. I could NEVER trust you to make any choice in my best interest. I hung up.

Sad thing is that someone else will bite. He will find another Black entertainer who will be all for it because they need the money and that’s what breaks my heart most.

All opportunities aren’t good opportunities. When someone shows you that they feel your morals can be easily switched by the almighty dollar: RUN! 

I’VE NEVER BEEN PRESSED ON MONEY. I am the same with my pockets full as I am with them empty. Money has never waived my morals and I stay clear of those who worship paper over the best interests of anyone. So, DNA went in my phone where his name was. DO NOT ANSWER! I’m getting better at it, as the years go on. He shoulda stuck with doing real estate with me, period.

I Don’t Know Why I Still Allow People To Shock Me, but I’m still Pissed off! Sistas, don’t give any man the power to persuade you to do anything because money is involved. Value yourself and know everything that comes to you, aint for you! When you know your worth, you NEVER have to settle. 

FOLLOW PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE YOU

Let’s face it: social media is the best time waster on earth right now. It has us all captivated, where we don’t have a clue how much time we are really spending there.

I admit… I got it bad, way too much of my time is being spent looking at my phone. I get lost laughing and talking madness. It’s like one big party. Following the wrong people will have you wasting your time. Following the right people will put you on a path of being productive. 

Don’t just follow your friends and family. Follow people with the same interests, hobbies or passions and don’t forget to pick an organization that is close to your heart.

My 4 favorite types of pages to follow:

1) The best pages I follow are those who inspire me and help generate ideas!

2) The pages that teach me something

3) The pages that create a healthy competition

4) The pages that assist in growing my business and making some money.

The great thing about the internet is the possibilities are endless, so if you made no money today on social media, YOU are not on your hustle at all.

BEFORE YOU ASK HER WHY SHE’S SINGLE…

Today my brothers, I am talking to you. Try considering the pool of men who approach her. Now, I truly believe in the course of nature. Dogs chase cats… cats don’t chase dogs. For my religious folks, “He who finds a wife, finds a… you get where I’m going.

Unfortunately, beautiful women are getting the short end of the stick because men are not holding themselves to the standard which they are well aware that they should behaving themselves. 

Why? 

They don’t have to!? 

Well, that’s changing because women are no longer accepting or putting up with the mediocrity. Just doing enough to get by NO LONGER FLIES! 

Men wonder why women are to the point where “we don’t need a man or want a man”

Chronic disappointment, sir… Chronic disappointments make anyone shut down and not want to even allow themselves to be in the position to even feel anymore.

While there are some good men out here being overlooked, it’s because of the idiot that approached before you! She doesn’t even want to deal with what may come after hello. 

Good men, you want things to change? Check other men. Fix their crowns; it is okay! They’re out here swearing they wanna be Kings, acting like peasants! 

My momma always said, “Don’t be a fool and write nothing down you don’t want coming back…” King Kev, not only did I correct you but now Ima use you as an example. Since you’re a King and a Leader, other men can now see the reflection of their failures by yours being put on display! 

Men, we are tired! We are tired of the disrespect, the lies, the playing the fool and the being fooled with! Thank you to those who show us UPFRONT the intentions and the disrespect before hello because then we have a choice and know exactly what will come next. So Ima give him a chance to see his wrong doings a few more times before I BLOCK HIM and everyone like him that comes after him.

I was raised by a Village of Kings who made sure I know my worth. I know what pure love feels like from a Black Man, so don’t bother me with all the impurities…

STOP ASKING BEAUTIFUL WOMEN WHY THEY ARE SINGLE, WHEN YOU HAVE 20/20 VISION!

This is why
Black women
are single!

2021: WOMEN INITIATE DIVORCE 70% OF THE TIME

You go, girl! While I am not advocating divorce in any way, I am proud my sistas are NO longer accepting bad behavior from men! We partied on the way into the marriage, let’s party on the way out of it! 

Let’s be real: when a woman finally calls it quits in any relationship, it’s already been over for quite a while. Women often stay longer than they should! (I’ve been so guilty of that.) Women give men warning after warning, and in so many ways beg for change, before ever being heard. 

Most men aren’t ready to even deal with the issue, until they realize it’s too far gone.

Men are able to ignore the issue and, in many ways, escape the home by diverting their attention elsewhere. Drowning out the chaos and moving on with their day.

While women are able to attack the problems head on and get to the root of the issue before they blow up to the point of no return.

I feel it coming, men are ready to argue me down about how my opinions are wrong. Be mad, Bruh… the numbers Don’t Lie! 

Men, if you want to keep your wife, you need to keep the same behavior that helped you get her.