A BRAIN FULL OF FEAR HAS NO PLACE FOR DREAMS

“A brain full of fear has no place for dreams.” You determine what you fill your storage spaces in life with! Life choices (think about it).

If you have dreams, goals or aspirations, now is your time! You can do a little every day to bring you closer to those goals. 

During this time, you have been given a gift that you almost never have, and that’s extra time! You could use these moments wisely, or on social media reading all of the if ands or buts and watching all the entertaining videos.

Do you want to write a script or a book? Take that writers class I’ve been posting. Do you want to start your own business? Now’s the time to write your blueprint. You want to be an actor, take some classes online! Don’t just focus on the craft but learn the business. I teach a virtual class, check out the shop page.

Take this time to prepare to be a better version of yourself. You got this, being quarantined isn’t that bad. It’s all how you look at it. Personally, my life didn’t change much, and I am enjoying the quiet time but I am an introvert…so I understand everyone else is not. You deserve to have this ME time. Enjoy it! 

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NEVER FIGHT A WOMAN OVER A MAN!

Ladies, please explain to me the logic of fighting another woman over a cheating man. I understand the logic of both of you fighting him. I will never embarrass myself fighting any woman over a cheating man. (Cherie Johnson Is 2 cool for that.) If women banned together, men would stop. Other women owe you nothing, baby. It’s that man who owes you the loyalty and respect! 

If he’s a cheater and dumb enough to get caught, he deserves to be single. People can only continue to do to you what you accept.

I don’t even care if the other woman is your friend! Ladies hear me out.  If she was willing to take it there, at least you know where your friendship stands. Trust me I’ve been through this one firsthand. Only thing is he was loyal and disgusted by her advancements. There was no need to even confront her, he set her straight. It’s been years and I’ve never felt the need to say anything. What’s the point?  She made it known where I stand in her life and knowing makes me smile. You don’t need to trip ladies. Trust if she got turned down, she will live with that guilt. It’s not up to you to correct another woman’s behavior.  Correct the one you’re claiming and love. 

Let me repeat, “People can only continue to do to you what you accept.” Even though she and I didn’t have it out, she’s no longer a fixture in my home. See I control the energy I keep around me. It’s that easy when people NO longer serve the purpose of making you happy, you change your environment. Karma is real you ain’t gotta fight nobody, let everyone live in their own universal Karma.

(BTW ladies, cheating men are laughing at you when you’re fighting the other woman. It takes the attention off of them.)

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I WAS RAISED TO BELIEVE I HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE THINGS!

I was raised to believe that my voice is powerful. I was raised to believe to always stand up from whatever felt good in my soul. I was raised to believe that my voice, my opinions and my thoughts matter. I was told repeatedly from my mother,

“Cherie, there is nothing in this world that you cannot do.” 

Because of that I believe. Simply because she believed.

My confidence is often confused for cockiness. My intelligence is often confused for sassiness. My outspokenness is often confused for being an angry black woman.

Those are misconceptions and stereotypes that people who don’t believe in themselves like to put on others. Those people who are less confident or haven’t figured out their self-worth or have yet to find knowledge of self or their own power… Have problems understanding how one person could possibly make a difference.

One person walking through life simply being kind to every person they come in contact with can change many people’s lives. Positivity and kindness really go a long way. We all have power in us to change the course of human existence as we know it. 

Unfortunately, many of us end up walking through life with no idea of our power. Simply because we weren’t raised by people who believed in themselves.

The best gift we can give our children is to believe in their dreams. Thank you, Mommy, for always believing in mine. 

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GUEST BLOG: OPEN LETTER TO SOCIETY

I’m sleepless I’m up thinking how society tells me my double D tits should have gotten me a lot further by 40 years old than they have. Now they say they’re starting to droop, my time is expiring. Society didn’t take my royal melanin into consideration, I look in my 20’s…

They say I’m beautiful with a great career. I’m considered successful by most but the oxymoron is I’m a single mother.

Society rings loud the failure of not having a man’s last name. Society says I as a woman must long to wear a big white dress and be subservient to a man. It’s my duty to serve a him…

Who is he? I’ve read all the fairy tales, even kissed a few frogs. Does he exist? I do not know, all I’ve met is disappointment and continuously scolded how, “Nobody is perfect, nobody will… be perfect I must accept someone’s flaws and settle down,” but all I hear is Settle.

I am not comfortable in settling, not even with myself. But I am comfortable with self. Society needs to listen when I say I have no interest to share my bed, to share my bathroom or my home. I’m nobody’s maid. I’m not doing a man’s laundry. I don’t enjoy doing my own. I’m not a maid, a cook or therapist of adult emotion. I’m an entertainer I control your emotions. 

I will Not serve or submit or Settle, as I am just not her….I’ve tried. I am not a man’s helpmate. Society needs to stop trying to correct me and tell me I just haven’t met him yet. Trying to convince me that the 20 year goose chase I was on while dating them was not successful ….the success was finding what I lost …..self. Energy transfer is real, I am more comfortable single. The most laid back person has bad days if you care without cautions, those can become your bad days. 4 years ago my goose chase stopped and I’ve never been happier. I’m single.

I never played wedding or wife. I never fantasized about the day or the life after…I always knew I wanted a daughter and I got that! 

I knew I would entertain and I got that.

Society says these Double Ds shoulda open doors, got me a raise, a house, a car, a new family but I would lose or hyphenate my name to carry the name of a forefather I don’t know but let go of my grandfather whom was hands down the best man I will ever know.
Society says I need to pay for a piece of paper, legal fees,  a wedding, a reception, then joint taxes. 

Society is money hungry looking for ways to fill their collection plates.

Society can kiss my ass. I think for myself as I live for myself as I now know how to Love myself. A man is merely a trinket all women don’t desire to hold on to the same trinkets till death do them part….
By Anonymous–


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GUEST BLOG: I WAS ALWAYS MY MOM’S KING, PROBLEM IS SHE’S MADE SURE SHE’S MY ONLY QUEEN!

Yes, I am a grown ass man and admit being a King and never a prince has caused me issues in my adult life. See my father left my mother with 4 children to take care of. By the grace of God, entertainment has my back so I was blessed with good jobs that support my family. Meaning my mother and siblings. I became my mother’s King instead of her son.
It was my house we lived in instead of hers. It was my choice what we ate for dinner…because of these allowances from my mother, she in return became my Queen.

At the age of 15, I met a beautiful girl who I fell in love with. She was perfect in every innocent way possible. This had nothing to do with dating or sex but in my mind I had long term plans for her. She was indeed going to be my wife one day when we were both ready. Only problem my mother despised that idea. Which at the time baffled me. This young lady was also in the entertainment business, she was beautiful inside and out and extremely hard working. How my mother could find fault or flaws within her made no sense. 
I always wanted to be my mother’s hero so I sat my feelings aside. I am now 45 years old and never pursued that young girl the way I wish I would have because of my mother. Truth be told I am 4 babies mommas in now, single again and never have been in love again. I have traveled, dated and done all I could to find that feeling I had as a teenager. Long story short that perfect, flawless, love of my life hates my mother because of her antics (understandably so my mother was very rude to her for no reason) and has moved on. She is now married with a family.


I admit to living a self destructive lifestyle. It started as a teenager as a way of rebellion. Which continued as an adult due to my issues with substance abuse. (I am working on it.) The relationship with my mother is strained. I was her cash cow which left me pretty penniless and struggling. I struggle to support my own children because my Queen’s children (my siblings) were well taken care of by me. Please don’t get it twisted, I’m thankful I was able to do for my family but because of it, I am NOT able to do the same for my children. Which gets me labeled as a deadbeat Dad by circumstance because the “Assumption” of all entertainers is We are Rich! 


I am writing this as a grown man to single mothers trying to raise boys. Please don’t make your son your King! Kings need examples, Queens. It’s okay to allow young men to be a Prince. They need time to learn and grow as a male before they are forced into manhood. No son should bare the responsibility of a grown Queen. I am not just blaming my mother, my father was a coward and dead wrong for allowing me to bare his responsibility. Cherie is my homegirl and I understand this is advice for my sistas so please don’t feel attacked. 
Had my Momma allowed me to date that young girl, my whole life could be different. We could have been an amazing force together. She is still beautiful inside and out and working as hard as ever. She’s remained successful without me. She is what I needed. Sure it may not have worked, but I would have learned that on my own if my mother would have allowed it. I needed to learn that on my own. Now I live with “what if’s” and NO healthy female relationships including the relationship with my mom! 
I see a cycle Queens, I am not the only King….


Anonymous–


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CONFESSION: I PREFER MALE FRIENDS

I have heard a lot of people say women need to hang out with women. Women have no business having male friends. That’s crazy to me because the majority of my friends are male! I’ve been told I must have issues, hahaaha. Obviously, I do. We all do. While that may be true, I have lifelong female friends but everyone who knows me knows I prefer my male friends, and this is why……

I don’t have to pay for my male friends to do shit! (Not food or drinks or buying them gas or paying for a plane ticket)

My male friends help me make money! My female friends help me spend it! (With the exception of one.) 

My male friends don’t keep tabs on our friendship.

There’s no expectations and they don’t make me feel like a bad person because I haven’t called! (I have shit to do. I dunno how women have all kinda free time to talk about NOTHING.)

I don’t wanna talk about NOTHING! I don’t like talking on the phone!

I’m 44 years old, I don’t do sleepovers. Was never really into them, it’s weird. I like my own space. Even outa town like I’m grown. No, I don’t wanna share a hotel room! 

I only wanna go to the bathroom when I have to pee I don’t wanna go to the bathroom because you have to pee. Like you can do it without me right?

My male friends don’t wanna borrow my clothes! 

They don’t wanna do my hair!

They don’t wanna do my makeup!

(I only do my hair and makeup when I have to work, I don’t enjoy it)

My male friends are satisfied with the way they look! Females are so unsatisfied with themselves they always tryna convince me what I need to get done too. (GTFOH) I don’t even wanna comb my hair! 

I really don’t give a shit what he or she said. Honestly, I don’t care! 

Males attitudes are consistently the same! You can answer the phone for a woman at 12 p.m. and she will call u back at 3 p.m. and be a whole different person with a whole different attitude. Women are highly emotional, and I tend to be a empath so my energy can’t take it. Women suck my energy dry and I’m exhausted and need a nap when they finally shut up.

I personally prefer rationality over emotions and I’m not good with neediness. 

Watch, a lot of women will be butt hurt by this blog! It’s a blog and I don’t even know you… why you mad? 

(Ima go sit in the corner with the guys and laugh. They’re happy.) 

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I LIVE WITH A SENSE OF URGENCY

I live with a sense of urgency; everything is right now!

Nothing can wait…everything must be done right now. There’s no go with the flow, I create my own. It’s 0 -100 all the time. Yes, it gets on my own nerves. It’s not that Ima afraid tomorrow won’t come because I know it’s coming faster than I’d like it to be here. I live with a passion and a purpose. I never want to do just enough to get by. My passion and purpose seem like controlling and pushy to people who can’t understand. I myself am living on purpose for a purpose. I have things to do and many goals to complete. My list stays full because as soon as I check one off my list, I’ve added ten more. It’s who I am. I’ve learned to embrace it.  It’s just a part of me. I don’t know how to be comfortable or satisfied. 

I’m satisfied with myself, but I know my potential and I have yet to reach it. So, I have work to do.

I push for things to happen and I control my life to make it happen, because I have manifested it already. I’ve seen it and plotted it out in my head at least 100 times. (Yes, everything, even this blog. Thought about it for 3 days before I’m actually writing it.) Not sure of the purpose yet and why I feel the urge to share but I’m sure I will find that out later.

Hit the ground running. Stop and take water breaks while manifesting your next step. Sure, it’s exhausting at times, but I woke up at 3 a.m., with a purpose, Lol. I needed to start my day by writing you this. Good morning and good luck achieving your dreams. Don’t worry if everyone around you doubts you. Believe in yourself and create your own way! (It’s okay, be passionate, be pushy! Get what you want outa life) Live with urgency! Yes, it’s exhausting but it’s worth it!

ACCOUNTABILITY TO REDUCE MY STRESS

When you want things in your life to change, the first thing you need to do is look at yourself. I can’t change others, but I can change the way I deal with them. I know instead of complaining about things I want to change; I must change myself.

I am not great with technology! It’s just not my strong point and I have been overwhelmed trying to learn different apps and programs for the different business ventures I have. I will take some time to master some and others I will have to learn to decline simply because it ends up costing me wasted time and in the end my time is money. (It’s okay to decline doing things especially when it doesn’t pay you).

I am anal when it comes to time because it’s the only thing I can’t get back. I will give people a 10-minute grace period and then I will be over it. I will stop working around everyone else’s schedule and stick to my own. (Some people have no respect for other people’s time and when you constantly inconvenience yourself for them instead of them appreciating it and trying harder to be on time…they figure it’s okay and they continue to treat you that way.) “Teach people how to treat you,” they say, so I will do! If after 10 minutes and there’s a no show, I’m out! Reschedule may or may NOT happen, depending on how convenient it is for me.  Period with NO explanations.

I need to say “NO” more and Will!  I continue to find myself doing things other people want me to that I have absolutely no interest in. My goals are plentiful so when female friends wanna have “hangout time,” it cuts into time when I could actually be working on one of my goals. Hanging out, visiting and girl chatting is so not my interest and I’m not tryna be mean, it just doesn’t help me complete my goals. The needy friends will be pissed but the solids who will be around in 10 years will understand and want to see me meet my goals. Which leads me to learning to unplug!! My cell phone will NOT be my 3rd hand in 2020. I will give myself business hours and respond to people when it’s convenient to. If they have to wait for a reply, that’s okay. Every business has on and off hours. I deserve to as well. (Self-care) It will also give me time to look in my baby’s eyes more often. 

Lastly, but most importantly, I have a 5-year-old. Keeping to a schedule is key! If I want her asleep by 8 p.m., I know I have to have dinner ready on time. Which means I need to start meal prepping and learn how to make some crock pot meals. Pinterest, here I come….

If you have any great kid friendly Crock Pot recipes, please share some Advice with Your Sista!?!

I DON’T BELIEVE IN NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS

I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions ever since my life coach, Tobi explained to me that only 8% of people ever keep them. What I do believe is writing goals down and having a vision board. That is something that I do every single year. There might be one or two goals that I haven’t accomplished throughout the years. For the most part, everything I write down I achieve. 

I still don’t have a voice like Mariah Carey. I didn’t make money doing music like Rihanna but let’s face it, I always knew that I sounded more like J. Lo. But I didn’t achieve record sells like her either. Lol. Sometimes, you really have to be truthful with yourself, life is about manifestation. You truly can get out of life anything you can visualize. I never really visualize myself getting a Grammy. I just wanted to be a one hit wonder!

I would love to hear about your goals for 2020, to see some of your vision boards and for you to check out this awesome book. Sorry fellas, this book was written for the ladies and it’s called Girl You’ve Got This. It’s a vision board journal and a planner for women written by Dr. Jaclyn Walker. She owns her own consulting firm, Glamour Prestige. Her product line allows her to help people from all walks of life set goals, dreams and visions through vision board party workshops or do it yourself kits. In addition, she recently added author to her repertoire, as she released a book that she co-authored with five of her sisters.

The book is really worth checking out and it’s the perfect after Christmas present to get for yourself. You can find the book on Amazon or through https://www.glamourprestige.net/products .

PEOPLE DON’T REALIZE HOW SUGAR AFFECTS THE BODY!

120-ounce bottle of soda contains 65 grams of sugar. That’s pretty much equivalent to 16 packets of sugar and it affects your entire body: your brain, your heart, your liver and your joints. 

Sugar releases endorphins which is a good chemical, but it triggers sugar cravings that can definitely affect your mood.

People who have a diet high in sugar also leads to having a bad heart. Too much sugar makes your insulin levels go high, increasing the risk of heart disease overtime.

Oh, it affects your liver as well. Sugar takes a toll because the quick sugar load causes a fast riding blood sugar that overwhelms the liver and leads to a fatty liver and could lead to you battling cirrhosis overtime.

If you suffer from joint pain, it could be inflammation from eating too much sugar, which leads to vigorous joint pain and eventually arthritis.

If you suffer from any of those things or are you just eat an abundance of sugar, it’s never too late to try to turn around the affects. Think about an all-natural detox with Team Cherie J. It could do your body some good, especially in the long run.

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