DON’T GET MAD WHEN MEN OR WOMEN GET GHOST…

Ladies, don’t get upset, hurt or mad when men get ghost! They are NOT the ones for you. They did you a favor. Better sooner than later. Let them go…

Men don’t feel they owe you an explanation of why they no longer want to talk to you, mostly because then they would have to take accountability for their participation in whatever changed their minds. 

There are a million different reasons why he’s not texting, calling, or reaching out to you anymore. The main reason is he is not the one for you… Period! And if he stayed in the picture, the right one would not come! So, allow the karma to catch him, while you catch yours. 

Step back, let the ego go and truly think, “is that who you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?” 

Okay then, pick your chin up, dust yourself off and stop looking for an explanation they don’t want to give you. Silence speaks loud now; you just make sure you don’t give them the opportunity to come back and do it again! 

Lead with love and gratitude and manifest what it truly is that you’re looking for.  When you receive it, don’t be surprised and appreciate it. 

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THIS IS 45 YEARS OLD!

This is 45 years old! Don’t get caught up on a number. It makes me sad when I hear women and men depressed about their birthdays coming! I have loved my 40s. My 40s have been liberating! I have finally stopped worrying about pleasing other people and I please myself! I no longer say “yes” I will do it… when I mean, I don’t want too! I don’t care who doesn’t like me or who said what about me. It doesn’t matter! It doesn’t pay my bills nor change my tomorrow. In fact, the ones who used to run back to tell me what they said are no longer around me because why were they listening! 

Now that I am midway settled into my 40s, I realize some lessons have come with my 40s. I want to share 20 with you.

1. Make it a priority to love yourself! 

2. Don’t hold grudges, they end up hurting you more than the other people.

3. Travel and enjoy your life. See as much as you can.

4. If you want to do it, do it! Stop second guessing yourself.

5. Learn to trust your gut.

6. Spend as much time with your parents as you can.

7. Be vulnerable (don’t let your past hurt your future).

8. Make time for yourself.

9. Make memories, when life is over that’s all you have.

10. Stop worrying about the end result and enjoy the journey. 

11. Drink your water.

12. Stand up for yourself, don’t tolerate disrespect no matter who it’s from.

13. Never stop learning.

14. Listen more.

15. Let the ego go.

16. If your life isn’t where you want it to be, change your circle.

17.  Only spend time and energy on people who feed your soul.

18. Don’t save the good outfits, the good champagne. Enjoy them on any occasion!!

19. Eat your fruits and vegetables.

20. Happiness is a choice!

Enjoy your 40s! They really are fabulous and so are you! 

I DON’T MAKE RESOLUTIONS, I MAKE MEMORY BOARDS

Happy New Year to you and your family! New Year’s to me is a clean slate. It’s the opportunity to take the lessons that were learned the year prior and apply them to being greater this year! I had a laundry list of things I wanted to accomplish last year much like many of you, but as we know… COVID!

I took my time and started preparing for when the time had come for life to return to normal. Now I will spend my day putting together my vision board. After my vision board is complete, I will take a picture and it will become my screen saver on my phone. I have no choice but to look at it several times a day, no matter where I am.

For those of you who haven’t heard of a vision board, it’s also called a dream board. A dream board or vision board is a collage of images, pictures, and affirmations of one’s dreams and desires, designed to serve as a source of inspiration and motivation, and to use the law of attraction to attain goals.

Inspiration and Motivation leads to Manifestation. I am a huge believer in Manifestation because I have been able to manifest my whole life. Great things happen for me because I simply believe they will. I know several of you will find this concept crazy, but it’s true. The most successful people will tell you; their life is completely what they made it. While unsuccessful people will tell you life just happened to them.

So, what’s your choice? Are you going to make things happen this year or are you going to let them just happen? It’s all up to you. Happy New Year!!

4 DAYS TILL CHRISTMAS

Christmas season is a happy, joyous time for those who are happy. Please check on your friends who have suffered major loss this year. The death of a love one is not easy to heal from, if you ever heal at all. Something about the holidays sparks up those feelings and reopens wounds like you just lost them yesterday. Depression sets in, as the world we once knew is majorly different. Loneliness sets in and the realization that they are not coming back hits hard. Stress brings on anxiety and it becomes a hard cycle to battle.

Since Christmas is about joy and love, this is a great time to reach out and just let them know they are not alone. Invite them to Christmas dinner or just lend them an ear and a warm hug. A simple smile and a warm hug go a long way with someone battling depression.

64% of people who suffer from mental illness report that the holidays make their condition worse.

Help your friends create new memories to hold onto, so they aren’t stuck just thinking of the old ones.

Also, self-care gifts can do amazing things for the ones busy taking care of everyone else but themselves.

*For those who are suffering, you are not alone. Help is available. Speak with a counselor today: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 24 hours a day. 1-800-273-8255

REPOST: AT AGE 30, THESE WERE THE RULES THAT I SET FOR MY LIFE

This time of the year, people begin to reflect on how they want their lives to look and what changes need to made. Here’s a post about the rules I once made for myself.

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When I turned 30, I made a new list of rules for myself.

  1. No more letting people borrow money that they never pay back!
  2. No more paying for women to have abortions! 
  3. No more accepting collect calls!
  4. No more taking care of other people’s children!
  5. No more feeling guilty and doing things I don’t want to do!
  6. No more going places because other people want me to go!
  7. No more meeting people’s families so they can prove they know me!
  8. I was tired of being the birthday clown. (Yes, people ask for you to come over like I’m a birthday present to someone.  It’s weird)!
  9. No more fake friends.  I’d rather spend my days alone!
  10. No more dating groupies (male groupies are just as bad as women)!
  11. No more driving people around like I’m a taxi!
  12. And last but not least, no more putting other people’s needs in front of my own!

I received an inspirational text from my friend Keeland Ellis that I will never forget. He told me, “Have no friends who do not equal you. Watch those that you don’t know who are always wanting to be with you, and those who are wanting to be like you!”

I wish he would have told me this straight out of high school but he told me on time because not only did I hear every word of it, but I understand it now so I guess that’s an example of God’s time.

IT’S MY DIVINE RIGHT TO BE FINANCIALLY SECURE

Speak after me: My words and thoughts are powerful! My tongue speaks truth.

Most people don’t understand what you say is what you receive. You need to understand that. You need to speak kindly about yourself and never be afraid to ask people and the universe for exactly what you want. 

The words “I am” are the most powerful words that will ever come out of your mouth! So, whatever you speak after those, you need to be very mindful. Because whether it’s positive or negative that you speak after the words “I am” is speaking your destiny.

If you can’t speak on what you are worthy of, how do you expect others to be in tune with your heart’s desires? 

5 keys to becoming truly successful are:

  1. Be thankful 
  2. Try daily affirmations 
  3. Purge old or negative energy that doesn’t serve you in a positive way.
  4. Work towards your goals daily.
  5. Change your environment and change your life.

The closest 5 people to you are who you become.

I promise if you do these things, your life will change. You are worthy of all!

IMA WOMAN, THEREFORE I’M PRO WOMAN!

When you hear a feminist fighting for gender equality, this right here is what it’s all about! It’s hard for me to understand why any rational adult doesn’t see this as an issue! 

It’s not the 50’s where men make a sufficient amount of money of take care of their families anymore! Or even try to take care of their families anymore!

Back in the day, women made less because they had side jobs and were NOT expected to be the bread winners! But in this day and age where men have the option to take care of their children or NOT to take care of their children, women are literally told if you have a baby be ready for it to be your sole responsibility… Pay scales should be equal. Clear across the board! No exceptions! If this doesn’t fire you up and piss you off, we can’t be friends at all! 

You can label me as a feminist any day because this right here is DEAD WRONG and I can NOT, NOT speak up about it! 

OPPORTUNITY IS EVERYWHERE

Successful people are successful because they refuse to let opportunity pass them by. They aren’t afraid to hear NO and they hear it often, but they are emotionally intelligent enough to know just because they were told “NO,” it’s not the end all be all. It means NO…Not right now.

As actor’s statistics say, we get 1 job out of 100 auditions. That means we are told NO a whole hell lot more than yes. People only see the wins, not the hard work and dedication we put into it.

I promise you opportunities are everywhere; you just have to open your eyes and see them! Make lemonade out of lemons is an expression we have all heard right? Well, it is the perfect example in life. You know how businesses thrive… they fill a void where there is a demand, it’s that easy. Everyone wasn’t born with passion and know how but everyone was born with needs.

If there is something missing from your community that you feel is needed, BOOM provide it! That’s taking advantage and creating an opportunity for others.

I know next you are going to say but with what money? Everything has to start somewhere. Even if it’s $300, you will be shocked how far that really goes when spent on necessities to make your dreams come true. If you truly believe in yourself, others will as well. You may be shocked who pitches in to help you achieve those dreams.

The only dream maker you can depend on is yourself. So if there are some things you dream about making happen in your life, GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA AND PUSH FOR WHAT YOU WANT!

I’M NOT SATISFIED!

When I say this many people around me take it wrong, they think I’m not happy. I am very happy, but I am one of those people who is not satisfied or willing to settle in my life. I don’t know that I will ever be satisfied. There are 1000 things I have yet to accomplish. Yes, my list is long, I have goals and aspirations I’ve yet to even explore.

Satisfied Vs. Happy

Happiness is a state of mind, while satisfaction is the absence of want.

Now material things don’t satisfy me, and they are not my goal. I get off accomplishing my dreams. People try to tell me I’ve accomplished enough. They constantly remind me of my past, while I appreciate my journey and the fact it’s remembered, the point they missed it’s not about what anyone else thinks or feels about me. It’s what I have personally lined up for myself in my head. Entertainment is not my only goal, believe it or not, there is more to me. I understand most of you know my characters, but you don’t know my character.  I dream bigger than the smoke and mirrors of Hollywood.

I’m attracted to ambition and accomplishing things I put on my to do list! I get a high manifesting my future. See, I realized early in my life I control my destiny and no other soul can stop me from my goals but me.

Some people don’t achieve their goals because they are surrounded by people who never completed theirs. The easiest way for me to get ghost on someone is for them to doubt me, not be ambitious themselves or for them to be complacent.

They say you become the closest 5 people to you. With that said, I purged a lot of people. I refuse to be the smartest in the room. I surround myself with people who are able to teach me something. People who add to my life, people who breath energy into me. We all need to find those types… Dream big people, your thoughts become realities!

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