O.k. why is it that when kids graduate from junior high school, we (Black people) reward them with a shiny new stereo instead of something that has to do with what he accomplished? Something that might make their future brighter. I grew up in a place called Westlake Village, the suburbs of Los Angeles, California. I definitely noticed a big difference in the way I was raised, and the way my fellow classmates were raised. See, I was one of the only African American children in my school. At most, there were 5 African Americans at my school at one time, but it only lasted a year. I have always been very observant, so I noticed that my friends were getting bank accounts, stocks in their father’s company, mutual funds and bonds, even inheritance. I also remember saying to myself, “That sucks all they got was a piece of paper.” If my mom had handed me a piece of paper saying when I turned 18, I would have a certain amount of money I would have been pissed. I would not have understood that she was doing me a favor, because that was not the way I was taught. But now I realize what those other people were doing is investing in their children’s future. As an adult I understand, because no one had anything to invest in my future and because my mother did what she was taught. Needless to say, I did not grow up rich. By the way, just for the record I’m still playing that stereo!! So, thanks mom I can’t complain.
It is very important to teach your children healthy money habits. This is a lesson that should start at least by the second half of elementary school. Don’t just hand them money, see, easy come, easy go. If they earn it, and they are taught they have to work for money. Not only are you teaching them an important life lesson of responsibility but you are also teaching them how to appreciate what they get, and the harder they work the bigger the reward. I understand parents want to give their children what they never had, but when you hand them things too easily, they don’t learn the value. Take them to the bank. Teach them how to withdraw money and make deposits. Also, how to put money away in a savings account, and to invest. Help them to put a percentage of their money in a savings every month, then twice a year invest 50 dollars. Teach them to read their bank statements and watch their money grow. Believe it or not, get them interested in their money and they will value what they have more and what you do for them more. It is important to understand the value of money.
When you understand that money is just paper, you can think about it differently: either the absence of it or the abundance. Now if I said, “Can you go out and get 5,000 sheets of paper?” that doesn’t sound like such a challenge, right? If I say, “Can you go out and get $5,000.00?” your thought process shouldn’t have changed, it’s just paper. Just like you started thinking of all the ways you could collect 5000 sheets of paper; is the same way you need to think about “What do I need to do to earn $5,000.00?” It’s really that simple.
There is no reason to give money the power to control your emotions. Money shouldn’t have enough power to dictate whether you have a good day or not. Happiness is a choice. It is an emotion that you control. Just like you control whether you put money on a pedestal or not. From what I have learned is that everything and everyone you put on a pedestal one day will fall off and disappoint you. Money is simply paper it should not determine your mental health, your inner peace, or your self-worth.
If money is a worry in your life…spend your time focusing on the solution, not the problem! If all you think about is your debt, you will stay in debt. Switch your focus and spend time thinking about the solution! Think about your prosperity and growing wealth for your family and you will be surprised how all of a sudden, your paper flow has changed. Your debt is paid off and you are now saving. You are in control of your life, not a piece of paper. Put money in your hands where it belongs and keep it out of your heart!
Yes, I love to write. It’s my favorite relaxation tool but the truth is…I can’t write on demand. I need to have inspiration and be motivated. Writer’s block is real, especially when other people try to give me subjects to write about and the pay isn’t according to my motivation.
I find my words flow easier in the middle of the night or early in the morning when everyone else is asleep. From what I’ve learned, this seems to be true for most creative beings and that’s why the 9-5 thing never works for us. It’s all about energy. Energy transfers and when others are awake, I think the energy is high, so it suppresses our true creativity. But when everyone else is asleep, we no longer are carrying the burden of others’ energy and the ambiance of creativity is abundantly ours to do what we want.
So, if you are having trouble finishing up a piece you have thought about writing for a while now, don’t be so hard on yourself. Create a space that’s all yours at a time when others’ energy has a low impact on your creativity. Spend some time day dreaming about the piece and how you want it to go. Don’t try to write it just then, just think. Sleep on it. Even if you go to bed at your normal time and set your alarm for 4:30 a.m., waking up just a little earlier than usual. You may be surprised what you are able to accomplish with just a few extra hours added onto your day. Watch the words flow…
Let me keep it real. I see all these debates on the internet and laugh. “Who eats first your man or your child?” In my house children eat before anyone, PERIOD. If you have a problem with it, IDGAF because you are not invited over anyway.
“Where do I season my chicken?” The same place I wash it…yes, I wash off my chicken in the sink. (From reading the comments, I learned a lot of people don’t wash off their food, period.) So, IDGAF if you have an issue with that because you aren’t invited to my house anyway!
Bagged salad keeps giving people salmonella. Forgive me for laughing but again there are people who do not wash it. Pour it out the bag into the strainer with a lil vinegar and water and you will be okay. If you don’t wash your bagged lettuce, NO BIGGIE TO ME BECAUSE I AINT COMING TO YOUR HOUSE TO EAT IT!
I am saying all this because it amazes me how we are so tied up emotionally about what other people are doing in their houses. We spend time on this when we could be productive instead of having senseless debates nobody is capitalizing on. WTF are we doing wasting time on social media all day, people? I post once or twice a day that’s it…I can’t take ya’ll serious or give you too much of my time.
Going back to, “I don’t mind making you a plate because I don’t want you in my kitchen,” is a broad statement. I will give the public what I want them to have then I close the door and my life is mine. Everyone doesn’t deserve free range, folks. In 2020, save a little of yourself for yourself and see how much more energetic you are…
Don’t ever be afraid to say what you want. There is power in the tongue and what you put into this universe; you get back. Don’t downplay the importance of things in your life. Your subconscious will start to believe you do not need it so you will block it from coming into your life.
You have to believe you are worthy! Your intellectual ability is enough. Wherever you are in your life. Whether you went to college or not. Your passion is enough. Your desires are valid. You deserve success at whatever it is you desire. Now you have to claim it, speak it and believe it! The only difference between you and the person who is doing what you what to do is they worked 24/7 and believed in themselves, even when others did not! No’s aren’t final to successful people; they simply mean not right now.
Your mind holds onto energy! Have you have been around people who have programmed you to second guess yourself and make you feel you don’t deserve your desires? You have to let go of all those things that have been said to you by others. You do not have to adopt their belief system. If you were told you are anything but great, let all those thoughts go! They no longer have to be your thoughts.
Try it and stop blocking your blessings today. You are amazingly powerful and can attract anything you want out of life.
You can NOT push a man or force him to be vulnerable with you. It is just not going to happen. Men choose who they are willing to be open with, just as they choose a wife. All you can do is create a safe nonjudgmental place, so if he does choose to share with you, he won’t feel it will be taken as a sign of weakness. If he doesn’t choose to share, Sis, you aint the one! (Just being honest.)
Brothas, please don’t be fake vulnerable just to get sex. (That’s when we treat you like a sucka, we feel that shit.) That’s the weakest, most disrespectful shit in the world. When men are vulnerable, they allow their partners into their lives. Their partner feels closer to them, which then leads to improvement in every aspect of the relationship.
Vulnerable men teach women something about themselves that allows women to understand them, and why they are together romantically better. If you are looking for a truly compassionate and an intimate partner, let her into your emotional life. You will be surprised once you do how much more attracted to you she will be. Women run off emotion while men run off rationale so let me make it plain for you men. Stop making it all about sex and make it about her emotions and it will lead you to having more sex! If I didn’t explain that rationally enough, I can’t help you. LOL.
Here are 10 “I am too wealthy” sayings I think all women should live by:
- I am too wealthy and I will not sell my soul to prosper.
- I am too wealthy to waste my time with people who don’t deserve my time.
- I am too wealthy to spend my time around people who have no drive and aspiration.
- I am too wealthy not to take control and be the driver of my own career.
- I am too wealthy to let other people control my emotions.
- I am too wealthy to waste my time and gossip or try to bring down another woman.
- I am too wealthy not to keep my word.
- I am too wealthy to owe anyone.
- I am too wealthy not to know my self-worth.
- I am too wealthy not to recognize opportunity when it is in front of my face.
Just as I am wealthy, so are you. Learn your self-worth and make sure everyone who shares your space acknowledges it as well.
At the age of 14 if you walked in my room, you would find my walls covered with black and white print ads torn from the pages of a magazine! I wanted to paint my walls black, lol, my mom wasn’t having it so I created my own way! There were a lot of Guess ads with Anna Nicole Smith everywhere and Michael Jordan had a series of Nike ads in Black and White. I became obsessed with magazines. Essence, Black Enterprise, Vogue, Elle, Allure and Cosmopolitan were all subscribed to. Editorials became my favorite. I was holding on to the dream of going to college to major in Architecture and Minor in Journalism. Yes, I was on TV but that wasn’t my dream, it was just what I had fun doing.
I am telling you this story about myself to share with you the power of manifestation. I know, I know, here I go again. Truthfully, I was eating lunch with my brother, Dallas 3 years ago and he said, “Right now, if you could be doing anything you want for a living, what would it be?” I laughed and said, “I want to write for a living full time and be a homeschool mom.” Fast forward 2 years. I am homeschooling and in November 2018, I was promoted from my part time gig at Fever Magazine to a full-time job as Assistant Editor! I manifested that shit and it all started with a teenage passion! I am a creative person and very eccentric. I am kinda like Lynn from Girlfriends, in the sense that doing just 1 thing forever is not my journey or my goal! Acting only did not fulfill me, I needed more. It is an awesome foundation that has given me a platform to stand on to achieve other things. I am not saying I quit acting, I’m saying I am more than an actress. I love setting goals and get a total high off achieving them. I also get a huge high watching others achieve their own goals. That is why I am sharing this story to encourage you to manifest your own reality! Good luck, you got this!
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The best thing you can do is teach your child that TV and YouTube are for entertainment ONLY! If you do that, then you don’t have to worry about the MOMO challenge!
I showed the MOMO lady to my 4-year-old and she said, “That lady’s costume is ugly!” I told her the things the lady was telling children to do. Her words back to me were, “Mom, don’t worry. I wouldn’t kill myself, that’s stupid. I will tell you, no matter what anyone says.” I was truthful with her and told her the lady tells kids if they tell their parents, she will show up in their bedroom. My daughter laughed and said she’s not real…
Long story short, teach children fact from fiction and your worries won’t be so high. Growing up on TV I have learned firsthand. It’s an important lesson a lot of the population does NOT TEACH! Grown adults have difficulties between TV and what’s real. Here is where common sense can be taught, people!
I watched Jordyn’s Red Table interview with Jada. It was heartfelt. She learned some grown up lessons about watching your surroundings and about how easily life can change from one choice. As far as the Kardashians and the victim role, while Khloe is my favorite, what I’ve learned about life is Karma is real, okay. Once your Karma is equal, it’s what you do with it that matters.
I get it, the Kardashians are a household name, and many look up to them. Their hustle game is OUTSTANDING and I applaud it. But let’s look at Karma facts.
How soon these people forget. Let me remind you:
Kim and Chyna were good friends before Kylie got with Chyna’s man. Kim hooked up with Kanye while he was still with Amber. Khloe did Trina dirty by hooking up with French and some basketball player, I can’t remember his name, but Trina was with him at the time. Khloe got with Tristan while his gf was 7 months pregnant. Let’s not forget Liza Morales, the woman who spent 10 years with Lamar Odom, Khloe’s first husband, who she married within 4 weeks of knowing him.
It’s no coincidence she always gets the shit end of the stick. In life, sometimes we get what we give. It’s not over for you, Khloe. Now that your Karma is equal, what are you gonna do with it? If I was her real friend, this is what I would ask her. Then, I would hug her and encourage her to keep it moving. Jordyn didn’t ruin your family, love. The way a relationship starts is often how they end. It’s okay you have a beautiful daughter, so everything happens for a reason.