STOP FORCING CHILDREN TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE FAMILY MEMBERS!

All love shouldn’t be unconditional! Your mental health should be more important than anything else. When you teach children to have relationships with family members that are emotionally abusive, what are you teaching them is their feelings do not matter. They are to love that person, no matter how they were treated. Someone else’s opinions and words are more important than their feelings.

This is why so many adults find themselves in abusive relationships in adulthood. They spent their whole life being told they couldn’t stop loving the very people that hurt them, simply because they are family.

We always wonder how a woman can be abused and stay. 

Why does that mean because I’m his wife, even if he beats me, I should stay?

Adolescents who experienced emotional abuse as children are more likely to be diagnosed with at least one mental illness, such as depression or anxiety, which can carry over into adulthood. Unfortunately, people with a history of emotional abuse are also at an increased risk of attempting suicide.

As parents it is our job to Protect, Profess and Prove! Protection comes along with protection from toxic family members, providing them with an environment that is heathy and will aid them to grow up with healthy self-esteem. 

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ARE YOU RAISING A LITTLE OWNER?

I saw these cute little books on a Facebook ad. Then my friend Angelique brought them to my attention again while we were having a conversation about what books we would be using in our children’s homeschool curriculums this year. I want to make sure I get these lessons in about business and money that our parents simply didn’t have the knowledge to teach us. Books like these are a part of breaking the cycle for me.

Let’s face it, many Black children in my mother’s generation didn’t get the opportunity to watch their parents or family members own a business. So, there was no firsthand experience. Where I was able to watch my mother own her own business and start it from scratch. My mother then explained to me that she didn’t expect to see a return on her money for 6 months. That was a seed she planted right there, an economic lesson right there she didn’t even realize she gave me.

For my daughter, representation MATTERS! The fact that she can see her likeness doing positive things means something to her. She pointed it out to me when she was only 3 years old, and again at 5 when she made it known she was NOT interested in Judy Bloom or the Magic School Bus books because nobody on the cover looked like her! So now that she is 6 years old, I am very aware of what can hold her attention.

My daughter enjoyed them. I enjoyed them because there is a page of vocabulary words in the back of the book. That is where we started her lesson before she read the book. (I wanted to make sure she understood what she was reading.) I also used them as spelling words at the end of the week.

Little Owners is a company dedicated to educating all children on the various career paths to success. Helping parents and schools expose children to nontraditional and traditional entrepreneurship is at the cornerstone of our company. Their goal is to enlighten and enrich each child that reads the books with inspiration and an expanded paradigm of what’s possible.

I bought the 3 Books – Little Owners Girl Series Collection for only $25.

www.Littleowners.com

ARE YOU READY FOR MOTHERHOOD, BUT NOT SURE WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO PREPARE?

If you didn’t know, I am a certified nutritionist. 

Nutrition should be the most important thing to you during your pregnancy. We literally produce cells from the foods we eat, so why not reach out and get counsel from a nutritionist? 

Our 3-month prenatal plan.

During these 3 months, we will guide you step by step with instruction on what needs to be done to prepare your body to carry a healthy, happy baby.

Postnatal Plan

Just because you are a Mom now doesn’t mean you have to have a Mom body! Let’s get those tummies flat and the muscles back! (Yes, you can breastfeed on this plan.)

Low Breast Milk Supply?

Learn how to eat if your Mommy supply is low. Did you know by breast feeding you are also setting a tone for your child’s nutritional future? What you eat changes the taste and smell of your milk and exposes your child to different flavors. (Those carrots, spinach and fruit you’re eating today will have your child reaching for them in the future.)

*Women with chronic health conditions such as high blood pressure, thyroid disease, diabetes, epilepsy, heart disease, or lupus will need to have them carefully managed. For women with diabetes, the odds of having a healthy pregnancy and baby increase if they are able to get their blood sugar under control before they become pregnant. A pre-conception checkup should include a test for diabetes if a physician suspects you may be at risk. Women who are being treated for depression or anxiety, or who’ve struggled with mood disorders in the past, also should get special care. Allowing yourself to follow a strict nutritional plan can be a major asset.

If you are interested in a consultation check out my website www.Therealcherie.com or inbox me! It’s never too soon or too late to get started. 

IT’S OFFICIAL!

The Christmas countdown has begun. One of my favorite ways to count down the days until Christmas is to pull out her holiday book collection and read a different one every night. It’s my version of an advent calendar.

People often ask me what program I used to aid my daughter in becoming a strong reader. She was 5 years old reading at a 4th grade level. Now she is 6 years old reading at a 5th grade level. There was no curriculum used and no quick fix. To be honest, it was simply the fact that I have read to her every day of her life. Even when she was in my tummy, I read everything out loud. When she got bigger, I would read to her and point at the words as I was reading. By the time she was 2 years old she was recognizing words and reading them back to me.

Because she is a big reader, I make sure to put seasonal books away so she can’t get to them year-round. This keeps the excitement going for her and the anticipation of rereading some of her favorites. This year I will be pulling out:

Snowy Day

The Nutcracker in Harlem

Too Many Tamales

All Of A Kind Family Hanukkah

How the Grinch Stole Christmas

A Piñata in a Pine Tree

Llama Llama Holiday Drama

Grace of Christmas

Hanukkah Bear

The Night Before Christmas

The Seven Days of Kwanzaa

The history of Kwanzaa

Li’l Rabbits Kwanzaa

All titles can be found on amazon.com

What are some of your favorite holiday children books or early chapter books?

30 CHRISTMAS STOCKING STUFFER IDEAS FOR UNDER $10

I’d like to kick myself in the butt! As a new mother I thought it was so amazing to buy my daughter this oversized Christmas stocking, not realizing that she would be excited about me filling it up year after year. This year has been enough stress for everyone, so I decided I was going to keep it simple.

  1. An Orange for the toe of the stocking
  2. Goldfish Crackers (Should take up a lot of room, go-to snacks I buy anyway)
  3. Nail polish when it goes on sale. I gather fun colors all year long.
  4. Books
  5. Puzzles
  6. Lip balm
  7. Socks
  8. Underwear
  9. Hair bands
  10.  Be Amazing Insta-Snow Jar
  11. Electric toothbrush with a timer
  12. Play-doh
  13. Melissa and Doug Scratch Art Box of rainbow mini notes
  14.  Barbie Dreamtopia Blind Pack Sunrises Mermaid Dolls x4
  15. Stress phone
  16. A little purse
  17. A wallet with a dollar in it (My mom said to never give an empty wallet.)
  18. A prepaid kid’s credit card or a gift card.
  19.  Rolbuck gift card
  20. Mystery pen with black light
  21. Melissa & Doug Family Dinner Box of Questions
  22. Marshmallows
  23. Glow Sticks
  24. Legos
  25. Diary
  26. Gum
  27. GLUE
  28. Shower caps x3
  29. I usually buy 12 toothbrushes with caps for traveling or home. They last all year
  30. Toothpaste

PIZZA PARTY AND SCARY MOVIES

As a child, October was my favorite time of the year. It screamed scary movies and pizza parties. Staying up really late at night and being scared out of my mind. What a better way to spend the weekend, now that my daughter is the tender age of six. Yes, I said Six! My sense of humor is demented and lucky for me, so is my daughter’s. I am looking forward to sharing the experience with her. She already likes Child’s Play 1 and 2.

Instead of being scared, she laughed about the special effects and asked about how the blood splattered. I explained to her what a blood squib is. Then I showed her Uncle Eric’s Facebook page so she could see his special effects makeup he has done for films. It sparked a whole new interest.

Then she watches clips of me getting my neck cut open by Eric Roberts in a film and Uncle Antwon crying over my dead body in another film and all she wanted to know, “Was it hard not to laugh,” she asked me.

So, I am going to see how she feels about this lineup, wish me luck!

ParaNorman (Kids Movie)

I’M THINKING OF ENDING THINGS

Frankenweenie (Kids Movie)

CANDYMAN

Gremlins (Childhood fav)

OMG HALLOWEEN KILLS, the return of Michael Myers is delayed. Thanks, alot Covid! It’s okay, it gives me a chance to catch my daughter up on the oldies but goodies.

HOMESCHOOL BLESSING

Andrea, our homeschool advisor, just reminded me that if my daughter’s education was like everyone else’s, she would just be starting Kindergarten this month. With the Covid pandemic, I have been reassured and have confirmation I made the right choice for my child!

I know I wouldn’t be comfortable with her starting school and expected to be able to obey social distancing rules! Social distancing isn’t natural for adults, much less a room full of 5 to 6 year old children. It’s an unrealistic expectation. Also is a slight punishment. While I understand all parents cannot afford to homeschool, I am thankful I have been blessed enough to make a way.

Not only would she had been bored in Kindergarten but homeschool children now have the most consistent education out of regular school children. Bravo homeschool parents for choosing the path least taken and going against the grain. Living outside the box really feels good right now. I thank God I didn’t listen to the masses who questioned my choice. My daughter started her schooling at 3 years old when she requested and persisted that she was ready for Kindergarten. The fact that she knew all the states in the USA and was speaking, counting and knew her ABC’s in English and Spanish made the choice easy. Her whole education has been self-led.

Some friends and family voiced their opinions on how I was not making the right choice for my child and had conversations behind my back. I laugh at them now that my child is 5 years old and skating into 4th grade like a boss. Still self-driven, still on her own schedule.

She has been a pure joy and we have had no meltdowns through Covid about her being bored or lonely. She actually thinks Covid has been fun. She says she enjoys Taekwondo online and likes not having to go to the Dojang 4 days a week. She was little bummed out about soccer being cancelled but she shortly got over it, knowing it was okay for her to FaceTime her teammates.

She is fully aware of what’s going on and is okay with not risking her health for fun. FaceTime playdates have become a thing and she has adjusted with ease.

We are looking forward to starting 4th grade and incorporating a few new curriculums this school year. Enjoy and good luck, may all of our kiddos be safe and have a successful school year!

A CHILD WHO LOVES TO READ CAN TRAVEL ANYWHERE ANYTIME

I walked in the room and noticed my child sitting on the couch reading. She never looked up or noticed me taking pictures of her. Her Titi Jacelyn bought her a set of Children’s Encyclopedia Britannica books with a Quiz it Pen. She absolutely loves them. She loves to travel (Mixture of her Mom and Dad there). But she’s not letting Covid slow her down. Physically she can’t get on that plane but mentally she’s been to every continent. 

Little one reading

I am blessed to have introduced my child to the love of story very early! I started reading to her when she was still in the womb. Research shows reading to our children and talking to them about what we are reading increases a child’s IQ. 

I know for a lot of parents it’s frustrating when your child stops you while you are reading to them to discuss what’s happening on that page. Actually, stopping and letting them get their thoughts out and talking it through with them will help their reading comprehension later. It also helps develop a deep love for reading later. 

Take the time to cuddle up and enjoy your little one. It’s a great way to treasure those little precious moments of time we will never get back. Reading time has become a special part of our days. Even though she can read to herself now doesn’t mean I’ve stopped reading to her. Read alouds are a part of our school routine as well as Big Baby and Momma time. I’m getting every cuddle I can in while she still enjoys it! 

Keep in mind please while they are young you have the chance to shape their whole life. Children with better reading skills achieve higher test scores in every school subject and have a greater knowledge than those who don’t.

LET’S PAINT SEASHELLS


Well this time of the year we would usually be on a beach somewhere spending time together as a family. This year we are taking some extra precautions but that doesn’t mean we have to give up all the fun! 


Arts and Crafts is always a fun time in my house. Through arts and crafts, children get to exercise their fine motor skills, stretch their little imaginations, be creative and work independently. 

Art is great for self-esteem, as it gives children a great sense of achievement when they have completed their task. It’s a great and safe way to make mistakes and learn sometimes your mistakes can lead you to a whole new idea! It gives them a opportunity to work on their communication skills as they explain their creations to others! 


Arts and crafts is a weekly staple in my home that brings so much joy to all whom visit. 

Seashell Kit


The seashell kit was a Christmas purchase from Five Below last year! 

KNOWLEDGE OF SELF AS A TEENAGER

Knowing your own character, values, abilities and emotions at an early age is almost unheard of. Knowledge of self is really the answer to success at living a peaceful life. It’s the key to being emotionally intelligent and keeping yourself mentally healthy. 

For many, it takes them until they are in their 40s to finally get it. The journey being the teacher of wisdom.

I don’t think there is a parent alive who wants to watch their kid fail as they grow up and learn their worth. 

What if I told you this 52-page Affirmation book with attached journal pages was a great start for your teenager? Would u check it out? I can tell you it’s already in my daughter’s library just waiting for her to grow up a little and get a head start on learning just what she was put on this earth to accomplish! It’s really worth checking out!

Available now on amazon!