As a child, October was my favorite time of the year. It screamed scary movies and pizza parties. Staying up really late at night and being scared out of my mind. What a better way to spend the weekend, now that my daughter is the tender age of six. Yes, I said Six! My sense of humor is demented and lucky for me, so is my daughter’s. I am looking forward to sharing the experience with her. She already likes Child’s Play 1 and 2.

Instead of being scared, she laughed about the special effects and asked about how the blood splattered. I explained to her what a blood squib is. Then I showed her Uncle Eric’s Facebook page so she could see his special effects makeup he has done for films. It sparked a whole new interest.

Then she watches clips of me getting my neck cut open by Eric Roberts in a film and Uncle Antwon crying over my dead body in another film and all she wanted to know, “Was it hard not to laugh,” she asked me.

So, I am going to see how she feels about this lineup, wish me luck!

ParaNorman (Kids Movie)


Frankenweenie (Kids Movie)


Gremlins (Childhood fav)

OMG HALLOWEEN KILLS, the return of Michael Myers is delayed. Thanks, alot Covid! It’s okay, it gives me a chance to catch my daughter up on the oldies but goodies.


Yes, I am one of those people who looks forward to fall all year long because I like all the seasonal pumpkin treats! While I can see Shawn Harrison (My Wally pop) rolling his eyes at me now out of disgust. He hates pumpkin and I should be ashamed but that fact that he hates it makes me enjoy it just a little more. LOL.

My daughter loves Pumpkin Nice Cream, so I make a big batch and keep extra in the freezer. It only takes like 3 minutes to make, so it’s the perfect last thought dessert.

5-6 frozen bananas

1 15-oz can of organic pumpkin puree (I remove from the can and freeze overnight beforehand)

1/2 tsp pumpkin pie spice

1 tsp of vanilla extra

6 pitted medjool dates (if you want it sweeter, freeze beforehand)

If you do not freeze ingredients beforehand:

Blend the pumpkin, spices, vanilla extract and dates until smooth.

Transfer to a shallow pan and freeze overnight.

If they are already frozen:

Break apart pumpkin mixture and add to the blender/food processor with frozen bananas. Blend until smooth and creamy.

Eat immediately as soft serve, freeze for 2-3 hours for a scoopable ice cream. You can keep leftovers in the freezer for up to 3 days.


My daughter asked would there still be Easter even though Corona! My heart hit the floor then she said, “Mommy, if the Easter bunny can’t do it, we may have to team up and get bunny costumes to take kids eggs all over the world.” 

I held my tears in and said, “Don’t you worry, baby. There will be Easter.”

“If you have to, Mommy, just look in my room and hide stuff I already have,” she told me.

My heart melted; I just love her 5-year-old self! 

I am so thankful I save everything from refillable Easter Eggs to the same Easter grass that’s been in my daughter’s Easter basket the past 5 years! 

I know some may call me cheap and silly, but because I save everything, my daughter won’t be going without this Quarantine Edition of Easter! I haven’t been out in 4 weeks! Only to take out the trash and get the mail once a week and I don’t want Amazon or anyone else delivering me anything. I’m not trusting anything from outside!

The biggest lesson I learned from my daughter is it’s the experience, NOT the material things that matter! So, you may have not been able to prepare, it’s a great time to get creative and build them an experience! 

As parents, we put so much pressure on ourselves to give our children the perfect holidays. In the end, they ARE All PERFECT because we shared them together and that’s what it’s all about! Happy Easter, make beautiful memories! 

I over shopped on Christmas and hit the after Christmas clearance section at Walmart! An OMG Doll, some LOL balls, bath crayons, bath paints, a bathing suit, a coloring book and some bath toys will all be put in this kitty basket I originally purchased for her toys.


As a small child my idea of beauty was red lips and big hoop earrings. That was the idea I had in my head for my ideal look when I grew up. My mother would never let me wear large earrings as a child, but she always kept me in little hoops. I couldn’t wait for the day I was allowed to wear the big ones. 

Did you know hoop earrings date back to Nubia, a civilization that existed in the fourth century in what is now present-day Sudan?! In ancient Egypt, both men and women wore hoop earrings. Egyptian royalty including queens and pharaohs like Nefertiti, Hatshepsut, Tutankhamen and Cleopatra wore gold hoops, but it was the style. For Egyptians, “earrings were seen as something that enhanced one’s beauty and sexuality.”  As a child, my mother told me earrings always make you look beautiful. I never leave the house without a pair on and the few times I have… I actually have stopped in the store and bought a pair, because I felt naked.

I grew up in a white neighborhood and they made sure to let me know my hoops were ghetto! Instead of it making me feel bad, I embraced it! After all, I am originally from Duquesne, PA… not Westlake Village, CA where I went to school. I had NO problem living my true-self and was always PROUD of exactly where I came from. My knowledge of self has always been STRONG even when my mother’s sisters tried their best to reprogram and whitewash me. I love my Blackness and I am proud of it! Some things are innate to who you are! Bamboo earrings are more than a L.L. Cool J song.

How refreshing it was to find out it’s in my blood! It’s a part of who I am… Egyptians that were not royalty were also buried wearing their hoop earrings, to enhance their beauty and appeal in their afterlife.

Hoop earrings are NOT a fashion trend but a fashion staple and a part of our history! 

Happy Black History Month, Sistas! Let’s keep passing our fashion staples down through generations. I will be putting some bigger hoops in my daughter’s ears this month thanks to Grandma! (She hooked her up.) Make it a “THANG” as you put those earrings in your daughters’ ears. Teach them it’s their history and to sport those earrings with pride!


I had to be ashamed of myself but I’m not. I walked into Walmart and begin laughing hysterically. They had pumpkin spice everywhere. Now I’m a give you a little backstory: my friend, Shawn despises pumpkin spice, pumpkin spice season and everyone who loves the taste of pumpkin. He thinks it’s the most ridiculous thing in the whole world. And because I pictured his face when I walked into the store, I began laughing so hard I was crying.

Let me explain this pumpkin spice thing to my white friends. Never bring a pumpkin pie to the cookout. Black people’s thing is sweet potato. Sweet potato pie is like our national apple pie. And it doesn’t matter how good you think your pumpkin pie is, it’s never going to measure up to a sweet potato or bean pie. 

Oh, this Walmart haul is ridiculous. They got pumpkin cupcakes, cookies, rice crispy treats and ice cream. I even bought pumpkin hand soap. (So far, the ice cream is my favorite.) 

My initial reaction was to call you for something stupid and ask you to come over. Then, I realized I moved to a whole different state so in the middle of trying to annoy you, I have a whole bunch of pumpkin spice stuff that baby girl and I are going to be eating in honor of you because nobody else in the house will eat it. They all looked at me like I was crazy and turned up their noses.

Just the image embedded in my head of your turned up face brought me so much joy. I love you with all my heart. Let me go drink this latte…Pumpkin Spice Latte, that is. LMFAO 

(I hope the kids at soccer will eat some of this pumpkin stuff I bought.) Lmfao


Model : Sabrina Blanks

Most (70%) black women are single.  It’s not uncommon, so don’t be depressed anymore about spending Valentine’s Day with the person you love most: yourself.  Guess what else?  According to the Office for National Statistics, fewer people than ever are choosing to get married.  The number of 25 to 45-year-old women who live alone has doubled over the past two decades, with twice as many single women buying properties as single men.  So, what does this mean?  More and more women are choosing the single life and are doing (quite well) for themselves.

Alone does not have to mean lonely.

  • Go out to see a movie of your choice that is super girly and leaves you feeling good and happy.
  • Take yourself out to a three-course dinner at a restaurant that serves amazing food.
  • Put on your favorite Pandora channel and have a dance party.
  • Make a list of why you are beautiful, then post it on your bathroom mirror. Read it every time you look at yourself in the mirror.
  • Clean out your closet and donate all the clothes you don’t feel hot and healthy in to charity.
  • Read a feel-good book from cover to cover.
  • Take a luxurious bubble bath with organic essential oils or flower petals. Light some candles for ambiance.
  • Put on your pretty lingerie for you to enjoy and eat that box of chocolates bought for you by you!
  • Put on a little black dress and go out dancing.
  • Purchase some of your favorite healthy food and make yourself a delicious meal, eaten by candlelight.  Don’t forget that sexy glass of wine.
  • Take a dance class.
  • Have a spa day at home. Look up organic treatments you can give yourself, such as a mayo hair mask and cucumber slices on your eyes.
  • Play a musical instrument.
  • Take a yoga class.
  • Enjoy the quiet and Meditate.
  • Write a love letter to yourself.
  • Make a vision board of the kind of things you want to attract into your life.
  • Deep clean a room in your house.
  • Create some artwork.

The day is about love. Take the time to love yourself and do something that is fulfilling to you!


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Christmas is right around the corner! Yes, it’s that time of the year again. I had to figure out how to fill this oversized stocking I bought my daughter. I refuse to fill it up with candy! We had enough of that on Halloween. I also refuse to fill it with expensive things after fulfilling “Santa’s” wish list. She is four years old, so I kept it age appropriate while also keeping it stress free! The grocery store, Five Below and the dollar store were my go to places to fill it up. Take a sneak peek inside her stocking in case you need ideas…


  • LOL Surprise Dolls (the most expensive thing – 10 bucks)
  • 12 toothbrushes (One for every month next year)
  • Tooth Paste
  • Mouth Wash
  • Animal crackers
  • Jojo Siwa Bows
  • Glow in the dark sticks
  • Lip gloss and chap stick
  • Band-Aids
  • Cute pencil erasers
  • Paint brushes
  • Dice
  • Marbles
  • Sports cones
  • Bubbles
  • Pencils and pens
  • Books
  • Stickers
  • Wind-up toys
  • Flashcards
  • Card games
  • Play-Doh
  • Nail polish
  • Socks
  • Underwear
  • Gatorade


Growing up, I really thought it was just me! Not until social media and those Petty Holiday Auntie memes did I understand I was not the only one who hated family get togethers.

The great thing about being an adult is you control yourself and your environment. I was born into a very dramatic family. They will be pissed off about this blog.  Even the ones who don’t speak to me will read it and then talk about me. LOL.  I had to learn that I am not responsible for the way other people feel. I am only responsible for my own feelings. I used to dread family get togethers and have anxiety attacks at the thought of being in my mother’s house with those negative people. I love them, but at the same time, can’t stand half the things that come out of their mouths, full of uncalled for judgement and disses. This was just not how I wanted to spend my day, that was supposed to be full of happiness. Once I realized no matter what I do, what I wear or how I wear my hair, no matter who my date was they were still going to have something negative to say. Finally, it clicked, “I CAN’T GET APPROVAL FROM SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T APPROVE OF THEMSELVES.”

I cannot control other people, but I can control how I choose to deal with them. I had to learn whatever I focused on controlled my energy. How I deal… I simply don’t go around them as often and when I feel I have to (like a holiday), I don’t stay as long.

You have control on the discernment of your energy.  You do not have to play their game. You don’t have to get involved with the attack. Start saying no. It’s okay to say, “No, I don’t want to engage in this conversation.” It doesn’t make you a mean person. Enforce the boundary. Don’t get caught in their energy because then you will respond emotionally. Once they trigger your emotions, they got you. Now you are caught up in their game and they have your attention. Some people are so caught up on their own emotional roller coasters they are not aware that all people don’t live this way.

LEARN TO BREATHE, BABY. When you take time to breathe, it gives you a moment to look at the big picture. You don’t have to play petty because you were invited to.

The best thing I learned about petty people is to practice forgiveness. It doesn’t mean they are right! It doesn’t mean I agree with their messy ways. I simply set myself free.

They don’t need to know you forgive them.  You do not have to explain it to them. When we truly understand misery loves company, it makes it easier for us not to become upset. People project hate because they feel hate. You can only project what you feel inside yourself. So, the next time your mean, evil auntie says something negative towards you, Baby don’t get upset… know she is talking about herself and NOT YOU!


Here is one of our Halloween Favorites from MADDivaConcierge and your favorite #Mixologist theMADDiva! It’s our Pineapple Sherbet Float with Pineapples and Pineapple Ice Cream garnished with Gummy Worms! If you drink, you can add your shot of choice.  We recommend Pineapple @ciroc or patron #tequila.  If you don’t drink, keep it clean and do it virgin!

What is your favorite specialty drink for this time of year?