BREAST CANCER AWARENESS

So, I wanted to do a piece about Breast Cancer Awareness but I think it’s best for you to read the journey of my BADASS SISTA (20 years strong we been riding).

 Shawand Marquez, who kicked breast cancers ass! Shawand is an Actress, Dancer and AWESOME MOTHER! Now I am going to stop bugging her up and let you read her words yourself so you can understand yourself why I am a huge fan of hers……

GOOD AFTERNOON… TODAY IS OCTOBER 9TH… AND EVERYTIME THE 9TH ROLLS AROUND MY MIND STARTS GOING. 

IT HAS BEEN EXACTLY 2 YEARS & 4 MONTHS TO THE DAY WHEN I WAS AWOKEN UP FROM #DoubleMastectomy & WAS OFFICIALLY CANCER FREE AND BREASTLESS. 

IT HAS BEEN A CRAZY EMOTIONAL JOURNEY…THERE ARE ALOT OF SCARS I HAVE EMOTIONALLY BUT THESE ARE THE ONES YOU GUYS CAN SEE… I AM GRATEFUL TO BE ABLE TO HAVE #LifeAfterBreastCancer WHICH BRINGS ME TO MY NEXT THING…

IN A COUPLE WEEKS IT WILL BE ALL ABOUT MY LIL SIDE KICK… BUT I WANTED TO DO THIS FOR MYSELF & OTHER WOMEN WHO MAY HAVE HAD SURGERIES & C-SECTIONS LIKE MYSELF AND MAY HAVE STRUGGLED WITH THEIR BODY IMAGE…

THIS IS ME AFTER ALL THE THINGS I HAVE BEEN THROUGH. THIS IS ME … YOU ARE NOT WHAT YOU BEEN THROUGH… I AM STILL FUN, BUBBLING, SEXY, BEAUTIFUL WHILE WORKING ON WEIGHT LOSS & RAISING 3 KIDS & TRYING TO BE THE BEST WIFE & MOM / STEPMOM EVER …. YEAH I HAVE MY DEPRESSION & CRAZY ANXIETY ISSUES & MOMENTS BUT I‘M GETTING BETTER EACH DAY… 

SO LET ME REINTRODUCE MYSELF… ( AGAIN) LOL

I AM Shawand ShaLove Marquez & I have 2 step kids and my first born is about to be a year old… I have gotten surgery up top (Double Mastectomy & surgery down low (C- section) …I have been through mental, physical & emotional abuse …I Love Love lol.. I Love to Laugh & Dance & I have done some acting  & I love to be around people with awesome positive vibes ….Yuuuppp Posting this scares me but if it can uplift someone and inspire someone then it is always worth it … ANY QUESTIONS???

BTW YUP THOSE ARE #WonderWoman Underwear for Obvious reasons lol … Yes, I was genuinely laughing because the Photographer is super awesome and funny lol … I had to shoot this a few days after I injured my leg… and still found a reason to laugh so I hope everyone found a reason to smile today annnnnnndddd I hope you guys are checking your Breast with Self Examinations …#EarlyDetection is Key

PEACE LOVE HAPPINESS & NO BODY SHAMING & DANCE LIKE NO ONE IS WATCHING… XOXOXOXOXOXO

Photo Credit: Nomi Ellenson at Boudoir by Nomi Photography

OCTOBER HAS BEEN DECLARED MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS MONTH

Unfortunately, 112 Americans die by suicide every day. Suicide is the second leading cause of death of people between 15 to 25 years old. If those numbers aren’t astounding enough, 9.4 million Americans in the United States have had serious thoughts of suicide within the last year. 

Warning signs 

  • Never take the threat of someone killing themselves lightly.
  • Hopelessness, having no reason to live
  • Unbearable pain
  • Talk about feeling trapped
  • Behaving recklessly, anxiously, or agitated / rage or wanting revenge 
  • Increased use of alcohol or drugs
  • Not sleeping or sleeping too much
  • Withdrawing or feeling isolated 
  • Extreme mood swings

If you or someone you know needs help, make sure you reach out to a professional.

National Suicide Prevention

800-273-8255

91%!

After looking things up, I found out 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies. That’s like almost all women! Absolutely, devastating for me to read. It completely explains why so many women resort to dieting, plastic surgery, or food disorders to achieve their ideal body shape.

Unfortunately, only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by Americans in the media. This is where the issues often stem from. 58% of college-aged girls feel pressured to be a certain weight.

This is where I am thankful to be me, I have been 20 pounds heavier or 20 pounds thinner and my weight fluctuates 10 pounds here or there depending on if I am working or not. If I’ve been to Puerto Rico, Houston or New York or not. (Those are my favorite places to eat.) But weight has never been a huge focus for me. Even though my weight has been the focus and topic of people’s conversations about me, I have a healthy relationship with food and it’s all about balance. At the end of the day, I love me whether my boobs are a Double D or a C, they are a part of me.

It’s more than a self-esteem thing, I really think it’s an acceptance and appreciation of self thing too.

We need some major educational overhauls as early as elementary school when it comes to nutrition. Nutrition is taught all wrong and more than half of genetic diseases that run in families are there because we have the same eating habits that run in families.

Mothers, let’s teach our children about healthy food and balance. Let’s break generational curses and traditions and an overabundance of artery clogging foods. If you need reeducation yourself, I am here and ready to provide you with some nutritional consultations.

http://www.therealcherie.com

A NEW BLACK OWNED COMPANY I NEED EVERYONE TO KNOW ABOUT

I found a new BLACK owned company I need everyone to know about! The people who own the company won me over because they have a passion for what they do! The packages are sent out beautifully. Which makes the perfect gift to anyone on your list! 

Their mission statement is: 

By using natural elements provided by mother earth we do our very best to deliver quality products our customers will love and enjoy. We put careful thought and attention into each product that we produce. All of our products are handmade and made in small batches. We love knowing we can share a little piece of Harmony with you.     

I feel like right now is a great time to spread a little Harmony with everything going on in the world today! I have tried a few of their products and my favorite 2 so far are the Love Shake Bath Bombs and the Sugar Scrub. Best part is both products are under $25 each! 

I have a sensitive “Cherry” (pointing down below) yes, play on words, but I was pleasantly pleased these bath bombs have given me NO irritation! I am in love with the LOVE SHACK Bombs! 

Melt in your tub with the Love Shack bath bomb. Perfect for those days you want to relax and unwind. A few of the star ingredients in this bath bomb are baking soda, Epsom salt, and coconut oil. Relax and indulge your senses with its sweet and fruity aroma.

The Sea Breeze body scrub comes packaged in a reusable glass jar and contains 21oz of product. This sugar scrub is a great way to keep your skin healthy and glowing! Body scrubs help remove dry dead skin cells allowing the skin underneath to better absorb moisture and nutrients. This scrub is made with cane sugar and has a lager grain which is awesome if you’re looking extra exfoliation. The scrub is packed with skin loving oils such coconut oil, almond oil, grape seed oil, and castor oil. This scrub exfoliates skin while adding moisture without leaving a greasy film on your skin.

They also have great candles, gift sets and much more! Check out www.theharmonybox.com

GUEST BLOG: MENTAL HEALTH AND THE ARMED FORCES

                                            Smoking Mirrors by Elijah K. Muhammad

Before the Covid19 Pandemic outbreak, there was a lot of talk about mental health, and a lot of websites, systems and programs being put in place in order to raise awareness, so that we may provide many options for people to receive treatment. There are many of us, who suffer from different symptoms of mental health, such as PTSD, depression, anxiety and chemical dependency to name a few, or maybe a combination of these symptoms listed. There are so many of us that are affected with these traits, whether it may be from childhood trauma, abusive relationships, physical or mental, or a Soldier returning home from a Combat Deployment.

            I wish to provide some enlightenment on a particular group, which is our Brothers and Sisters in arms, who have, or who still currently serve in our armed forces. Speaking from experience, I believe a lot of our Soldiers are dramatically affected by the events they witnessed or participated in during combat. However, I don’t totally agree with the fact, that combat is the only or main contributing factor leading to the cause of PTSD, anxiety, depression or chemical dependency. There are a plethora of contributing factors that often go unmentioned and addressed. Being a former combat veteran, we are briefed on potential domestic threats that we may encounter. Entailed in some of these briefings, are the intentions and actions of certain type of opportunist that are labeled card chasers. These are basically narcissists pursuing a relationship or courtship in order to obtain benefits, such as housing, medical/dental insurance or a potential portion of a Soldier’s pay or pension. Nothing is more important to a Soldier than family, which is the reason they make the sacrifice of putting their life on the line, in order to be a provider. Before you deploy, you are required to get your house in order by filling out your will and deciding how you want your life insurance policy distributed, in case you were not able to return home. Last but not least, you must provide instructions on how you want your physical remains handled.

            After this process, you say goodbye to your family and then deploy. During this deployment, a Soldier will face a lot of adversity and overwhelming odds of survival. Please understand that family is the motivation and inspiration along with the lives of the men and women next to them to make it back home. Unfortunately, when we return home as veterans,we’re all injured in a sense, whether it be mentally or physically, in some cases a combination of both. When some of these Soldiers return home, they return home to an empty house, depleted bank accounts, because their spouses abandoned them, leaving heartbroken, poor and destitute. Another group of veterans may be physically unable to continue their military career, because of injuries suffered during the combat deployment. This forces them to leave the military but may not receive their benefits immediately or total benefits. These two scenarios cause the suicide rate to increase, and cause veterans to totally give up on life, which is why in most cases you see so many homeless veterans. Their thought process is, why should I want to even continue living? I sacrificed everything of me for my family and my country, just to have one, if not the two of them turn their backs on me.

            I loved my time in the military, but everyone is not capable of staying afloat mentally, even I at one point in time, had to consult with a therapist. This is not a race or gender issue; this is a humanity issue. I personally believe we need to raise awareness of these undiscussed triggers that veterans constantly face, that causes PTSD, anxiety, depression, chemical dependency and even suicide. By raising the conscious level of these traits, we can decrease the numbers of Soldiers encountering these mental issues possibly reducing the rate of suicides.

Thank you for your time. My appreciation and regards to the host of this platform Cherie Johnson for allowing me to lend my voice.

RICH PEOPLE HAVE BETTER ORAL HYGIENE BUT IT IS NOT BECAUSE OF MONEY

Statistics show rich people have better oral hygiene than the middle class or below. Not because of health insurance but because of the habits of the lower class. 

While lower class only brush once a day, the upper-class brushes at least twice a day and floss. Maybe this goes back to the upper class being taught healthy habits at an early age with the privilege of visiting the dentist as early as their teeth come in. While unfortunately not only do lower class children miss dentist appointments, but many only go to the dentist if there is a problem or major mouth pain.

For adults, I just don’t see money being an excuse here! Baking soda & coconut oil are the best toothpaste, while hydrogen peroxide is the best mouthwash. Then floss at night!

All these items can be found at the 99 cents store or Dollar Tree. So, it can’t be about the money, it has to be about the education.

Did you know that your oral health can offer clues about your overall health — or that problems in your mouth can affect the rest of your body? Understand the intimate connection between oral health and overall health and what you can do to protect yourself.

Oral health is also a direct connection with your heart health. Ladies, do you realize messing with yuck mouth men can lead to STDs and bacterial infections? I’m just saying while you’re worried about his package…teeth should be a part of that! Nothing sexier than a beautiful smile! 

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THE BENEFITS OF WATER

It always floors me when I hear people say they don’t like water, or they don’t drink water. Our bodies are mostly water. Yes, you can eat your water, but it is also important to drink it. Besides rehydration, it helps keep your body temperature normal. Helps your body get rid of waste through urination, perspiration, and bowel movements. Flushing out those toxins promotes clear skin and weight loss. If you need to drop a few extra pounds, try drinking more water you will be shocked how that one simple change can make a huge difference.

Water is so amazing, not just internally, but also externally! Did you know taking Hot vs Cold showers could have significant benefits to your health. We really should be taking both on a regular basis. I tend to make the last minute of my hot shower cold right before drying off.

Benefits of Cold Showers
Anti-depressant
Stimulation of immune system
Increases alertness
Wakes up the mind
Tightens the skin
Accelerator of metabolism
Reduces hair loss
Prevents colds
Benefits of Cold Showers
Benefits of Hot Showers
Opens pores
Removes toxins from skin
Nasal decongestant
Lowers body tension
Relaxes muscles
Alleviates migraines
Reduces swelling
Reduces anxiety
Benefits of Hot Showers

Enjoy your water time. It’s the best thing we can do for our overall health inside and out!

POPSICLES FOR BREAKFAST OR ICE LOLLIES, AS MY DAUGHTER CALLS THEM!

Yes, I am that mother who will give my daughter a popsicle for breakfast. Wait, hear me out! See Mr. Chris bought my daughter some popsicle molds for her birthday and she loves them! Being a summer baby who just so happens to live in a hot environment, she may as well start her days off right with some refreshing fruit! When you make popsicles at home, I know exactly what’s in them! 

I blend fruit and coconut milk together and instead of a smoothie, make popsicles. The one pictured is simply the juice from watermelon I had in a container in the refrigerator. I also cut fresh strawberry slices and put it on the sides to make it look pretty and taste extra yummy. 

She gets a great serving of fruit with NO added sugar, No dyes or Food coloring! 100% all natural and a serving of fruit! Win-Win and she thinks it’s fun. Let’s face it, kids like a little rebellion and doing things unorthodox! Easy cool Mom points all the way around, Dads like them too! Lol…

I DO NOT OWN A SCALE!

I threw my scale in the trash 10 years ago. Having a scale in my bathroom was one of those extra accessories I no longer needed. 

I had these 2 aunts that would walk into my Mom’s house and before they would say hello, they would say, “Wow, you must be eating good…” “Those cheeks are extra chubby, aren’t they?” Then they would giggle amongst themselves about how big my face, my boobs or whatever their subject of the moment was. (Their extreme cattiness got on my nerves and gave me anxiety.) Until I got grown and realized I wasn’t the problem, they were! They were extremely unhappy with themselves and constantly trying to improve themselves and would talk about everyone they came in contact with. Not my issue, it was their own. 

Yes, like most women my weight fluctuates 10 pounds here or there depending on time of the month or how much ice cream I’ve eaten and there is NOTHING wrong with that! 

One day I got on the scale looked down and then up and said, “Cherie what are you doing? Your jeans fit. Maybe tight, maybe a little loose, but they fit regardless!” 

Yes, I was talking to myself in 3rd person. I’ve never been overweight. Maybe a little chubby, maybe a little too thin, but I remain healthy and that’s what matters most. Backhand compliments from others about my weight would never make me step on one of these things daily again. 

Weight is NOT one size fits all! Weight is about health! Everyone is not supposed to be thin, buxom is beautiful. 

The goal should never be a number, it should be your health. The number is different for everyone. I am a nutritionist. Trust my word more than the Hollywood tabloids, your gossiping aunties or any other superficial, unprofessional opinions. 

Obsessing over the number on the scale is unhealthy.

www.TeamCherieJ.com

OUR MINDSET CONTROLS OUR HEALTH

I wish more people understood that the way we think controls our mind, body and spirit. That’s why it’s important that we don’t only nourish our body with great food, but we also nourish our minds with positive thoughts.

Ever heard an older country person get frustrated listening to nonsense conversation and say, “You aint gonna kill me!”

Well, my Grandma was the queen of that phrase! I didn’t understand it when I was young, but Grandma was spitting real game. Our emotions control our overall health. I get told often to ignore when people say ignorant or offensive things to me. Ignoring people, or biting my tongue is not a healthy way for ME personally to deal with it. If that works for you, well fine, but my mental health comes first. I am one of those people whose thoughts will manifest and drive me nuts and because “I aint letting nobody kill me”, as my Grandma use to say. I let those thoughts out quickly, no matter who it is that brought those emotions on. 

There have been studies that correlate the following emotions to these conditions.

Repressed Anger 

Migraines

Tension headaches

Chronic Back Pain

Fibromyalgia 

Anxiety

IBS

Heart Palpitations 

Mitral Valve Prolapse

Anger

High Blood Pressure 

Heart Disease 

Resentment

Autoimmune Disorders

Rheumatoid Arthritis

Multiple Sclerosis 

It’s important that we learn how to release these emotions before your body is forced to deal with them. 

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