DECEMBER 1ST IS WORLD AIDS DAY

The theme for this year’s World AIDS Day is “Communities make a difference.” I have had the opportunity to be educated by many people on AIDS and HIV. I am thankful for the knowledge that has been passed on to me. And I’d like to do my best to continue my education while passing on what I’ve learned to all my friends. 

The world of AIDS and HIV is evolving. No longer are people taking 30 pills a day, many are down to just one pill.  There are two HIV and AIDS prevention drugs out. We’ve come a long way. 

HIV and AIDS affects everyone. Though it’s a conversation many don’t want to have, it’s something that we all need to be educated on. My podcast this week is dedicated to HIV and AIDS and also one of my closest friends, who I’m so proud of who is living with HIV. If you get a chance, go over to my podcast and check it out. Not only is it informational but it’s also entertaining, and it puts a face to a disease that so many are terrified of!  

I am proud to be Mr. DeMarco Majors’ friend and I’m most proud of all he’s doing to educate the world. If you have any questions or concerns or need someone to turn to, Demarco and I will be opening up our DM‘s all December to help as much as we can. 

Listen now…..Www.CheriesWorldPodcast.com

I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE COUNTED A CALORIE!

I believe it’s more important to focus on the ingredients in your meal than the calories of your meal. Here is where my old Boss, Tyrone’s saying “KISS” comes into play. Keep It Simple Stupid! Quality over Quantity! 

Cutting out energy-dense, unhealthy items is crucial to weight loss. It’s more important to pay attention to what you’re eating! Watching the sugar grams and sodium intake, if you want to watch something.

The counting calories thing can throw you off because although avocados and nuts are high in calories, they are packed with nutrients like fiber and healthy fats that can promote weight loss. See how lines get blurred? Trusted Source

It’s all about having a healthy relationship with food! Make sure you are picking foods based on what nourishes your body rather than obsessing over which foods are “good” or “bad”. 

Rule of thumb if it says “Diet,” don’t touch it! The word diet within itself is a scam. Diet soda, salad dressings, and prepackaged meals are all full of chemicals and artificial sweeteners. If you are interested in learning more about nutrition or simply refreshing your relationship with food, hit me up for a nutritional consultation. Check out my wellness programs at teamcheriej.com.

GUEST POST: SEXUAL ABUSE CHRONICLES

Warning: For sensitive readers, this guest post was written by a sexual abuse survivor and some readers may find the details to be upsetting.

My name is Infiniti, I’m now 22 years old with a 1-year old child. I am a survivor of sexual molestation.

I am remembering my life based off elementary school, to middle school and high school because I can’t remember my age at these times in my life. I tried to forget honestly, but I can’t. In elementary school my stepdad touched me, he would wipe his penis across my butt back and forth while gripping on to my waist. I was just a young girl, but I knew it was wrong.

When I was in middle school my mother met my second stepdad. He was beyond disgusting he would wait until my mom would leave and answer her room door naked intentionally. He also touched me and showed me his penis, he walks in the kitchen and swiped his penis on my butt, he use to look at my butt and his penis would get hard, he tried to get me alone with him multiple times but I never would and then he brought me my first phone and started texting me at night asking me to come out my room. Every time I knocked on my mom’s door to ask her for something, he would answer naked.

He tried to rape me while home alone with him. It’s something I don’t think I will ever heal from. It’s hard to digest because today she’s (My Mother) is married to him.  My own Mother didn’t believe me. When I tried to tell her what he did.

Then there’s my dad… I used to live with him one morning before school he told me to lay with him until it’s time to go and I’ll never forget what we were watching Sponge Bob he laughed and reached his hands inside my shirt then squeezed and gripped tightly on my breast and brought me closer to him and pulled out his penis. He placed it on my butt then he pushed me off the bed and took me to school. He tried to bribe me with $5 not to tell I didn’t take the money and I got out the car and ran.

I acted out in school that whole day as a cry for help and the school called my mom and told her I was acting up. She beat me!  I told her why I was acting the way I was, and I could still feel those welts on my arms, legs and back. I told her that dad touched me, she called and asked, he lied. He lied to me, he lied to himself, he lied to my mom, he lied to god, he lied!  He said he didn’t do it and for me not to talk to him ever again. It hurt my soul cause I always wanted a bond with him.  I always wanted to be daddy’s little girl. I deserved that. I didn’t do anything wrong. I was a child.

Still to this day, I always felt like I messed that up by telling my mom what happened when I should have kept my mouth closed.  I still feel the same way I shouldn’t have even said anything.

 

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Note from Cherie: Reading this story broke my heart. I met this beautiful, talented young lady earlier this year but never knew the struggle she was living with. I need you to know telling was the right thing, love! I apologize your mother went into denial and didn’t have your back. Unfortunately, we see this cycle time and time again. Mothers internalize the situation and instead of defending their child they get defensive against the child and refuse to believe they could have made a bad choice in men.

60% of all black women are sexually abused by the age of 18! That means that there is a LARGE PERCENTAGE of predators in this world!

Infiniti, I need you to know first, I believe you! Second, I love you. Third, you are not alone in this world. Your hurts will be forever scars you will carry that will one day make you into the resilient Warrior Queen you are becoming! Stay strong for your child and let’s be the generation who breaks the cycle of abuse. Thank you for sharing this story. I know there is a reader out there who has lived the same reality with you. Many Blessings, Cherie’s World loves you!

Guest Blogger: Tia M. Ivy

My name is Tia M. Ivy, around 2010/2011, I begin to notice nodules in my armpits then later in other areas of my body. It was not until 2017, that my Primary Care Physician diagnosed me with Hidradenitis Suppurativa. My Primary Care Physician did a physical examination, prescribed antibiotics and advised me to follow up with a dermatologist. During my dermatology visit, a boil was swabbed to rule out any other skin conditions or infections. Hidradenitis Suppurativa is a chronic inflammatory disease that causes painful lumps and nodules to develop in the armpits, groin, breast, thigh and anal regions. It is believed that the disease is caused by an obstruction to the hair follicles and inflammation of the sweat glands. Hidradenitis Suppurativa is  more prevalent in women and African-Americans. Some studies have found that 30 to 40 percent of affected individuals have at least one family member with the disorder. On the average there is a 7-year delay in diagnosis.

Hidradenitis Suppurativa usually develops around puberty because this is when sweat glands are activated by hormones called sex hormones which increases during puberty. I believe I have had this disease my entire life. Around age 12 or 13, I began to have issues with deodorant. My underarm perspiration was stronger in smell than most young girls my age. There were many years of trying to find deodorants that would prevent or reduce perspiration to help with the odor.

Hidradenitis Suppurativa affects every aspect of your life. I frequently deal with bouts of depression, anxiety and severe pain due to the lumps and nodules. There are days when I do not want to get out of bed or go to bed around 6 p.m. and not wake up until the next morning. Going to the grocery store and shopping for groceries is difficult. Running simple errands is exhausting.

While there is no cure for the disease, there are treatments which help manage pain, reduce and prevent the formation of lumps and nodules. In September 2015, the Food and Drug Administration approved Humira for the treatment of moderate to severe Hidradenitis Suppurativa. Other treatments for Hidradenitis Suppurativa are antibiotics which help to reduce inflammation and stop new breakouts; corticosteroids that are injected into the lumps; pain medications that help relieve discomfort and surgical excision that removes the area affected by Hidradenitis Suppurativa. In October 2018, I underwent surgical excision to remove Hidradenitis Suppurativa from both my left and right thighs. In August 2019, I will undergo surgical excision to remove Hidradenitis Suppurativa from both my left and right underarms.

My advice to any that is suffering from Hidradenitis Suppurativa is to be hopeful and maintain a positive outlook. Learn everything you can about Hidradenitis Suppurativa, just maybe you might be able to help someone get an early diagnosis. Get emotional support for yourself, seek out other individuals who are also dealing with a chronic disease and find a new hobby.

SO, I’M AN INTROVERT. I’M NOT BORED OR SAD. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH ME!

Yes, I am happiest alone and tend to shy away from people as much as I can.  As I grow older, I realize it’s because I am somewhat of an empath. Energy transfers and a lot of y’all have fucked up energy! Even many that I love have horrible energy and I have no desire to feel it. Even when you’re not complaining, the fact that you’re not happy in life weighs heavy on a empath’s heart.

I used 2 be the type who helped everyone and was somewhat of a fixer. If I could fix your issues, your self-esteem or help you pay your bills, I would but that shit is emotionally and financially draining. I’m over it and have divorced that part of my former self. In result, I also divorced many friendships willingly.

Now, I enjoy my peace. It doesn’t mean I don’t like you…but if you can’t share my space often, it might mean your energy just drains me. Have you ever gotten off the phone with someone and you all of a sudden were physically tired and depressed, but right before the call you were happy and energetic? I don’t mean a call that delivered bad news or a death but a regular call from the homie? That means energy transferred now you are carrying their vibe with you, until you shake it off or transfer it back to someone else. I hate that feeling. I no longer wish to take on other people’s emotions. By myself, I’m chill with no drama. Except my drama of motherhood but that’s my entertainment!

I have friends who think they are being sweet, but they get on my nerves tryna force me to be positioned in social situations. I try to explain it to them, but they don’t get it. I don’t need more friends, I don’t want nobody else calling my phone, I aint tryna hang out. I’m tryna chill at Chuck E Cheese, not a bar, a social gathering, or anywhere with these grown folks. I could be doing something with my kid! I’ve spent my entire life being social. I literally want to spend some time being left alone. I don’t see why that’s so hard to understand.

My whole point in writing this was to say preserve your mental health by guarding the energy you allow to share your personal space.

KIDS DON’T EAT EVERYDAY!

Today was one of those days my kid didn’t feel like eating. I’ve noticed during her growth spurts one week she won’t touch food, then the next she’s eating everything she can find all day. Instead of stressing out and tryna convince her she needs to eat, I pick my battles and I simply make her Fairy Juice. Lol, yes I tell her it will make her fly, lol! Since she tries to fly anyway! The lil white lie gets her to drink every drop! Everything in it is 100% natural and healthy so if she doesn’t eat anything else for a while, I don’t worry!
Blueberries
Blackberries
Raspberries
Strawberries
Handful of Spinach
1/2 teaspoon of turmeric
Coconut water and Ice!
Vooolaaaaa, we have Fairy Juice! Also, a really happy momma! In between sips, I convince her to drink up so she can fly away! Works like a charm, so get your little Fairies or Superheroes flying.
Good luck parents!

CHERRY SEASON

Cherry season has arrived: they are among the first fruit trees to ripen. The abundance of vitamins in cherries makes it a wonder fruit. Eating cherries is not only good for your skin but is equally beneficial for the health of your hair as well as your digestive system. The vitamins present in cherries are capable of providing nourishment to the hair. Here’s how the different vitamins present in cherries help in maintaining healthy hair.

Vitamin A: 

It regulates the production of an essential acid called retinoic acid which is important for hair follicles and helps keep hair and scalp hydrated.

Vitamin B:

Vitamin B helps improve blood circulation in the body, including the scalp, which results in regeneration of the existing cells and triggers hair growth.

Vitamin C:

Vitamin C is very essential for hair. It helps in strengthening hair follicles and prevents breakage from the roots. It also nourishes the hair and prevents split ends and hair loss by stimulating the growth of new hair follicles.

Vitamin E:

This vitamin helps with proper blood circulation to maintain immunity and helps prevent any hair damage. It also maintains appropriate moisture in the hair and scalp.

FOOD OR MEDICINE

Only a small percentage of Americans (any groupings by age, sex or skin color) actually consume the recommended minimum of five daily servings of fruit and vegetables to maintain health. The National Cancer Institute now suggests nine servings of fresh plant foods per day to reduce health risks, a goal which is not likely to be achieved by a significant percentage of the population, let alone among minority groups in society. Blacks with low intake of folic acid (green leafy vegetables) have higher homocysteine levels. Homocysteine is an undesirable protein in the blood circulation, which is linked with cardiovascular disease and brain dementia.

It is amazing when they estimate the impact of poor nutrition upon Blacks. It is encouraging to realize that nutritional strategies could be employed to eradicate or reduce common health risks in Black American families at very little cost.

There is a connection to skin color, nutrition and disease as exemplified by the role of vitamin D, the “sunshine vitamin,” among Blacks. Dark melanin skin pigment slows the natural production of vitamin D upon exposure to the sun. Blacks may require as much as ten times more sun exposure to produce the same vitamin D as Caucasians. Shortages of vitamin D are causally linked to high blood pressure, stroke, cancer (colon, breast, prostate, ovarian, lymphoma), Crohn’s disease, immune problems and osteoporosis, all health problems that are common in the black community.

Hypertension, stroke, colon cancer and obesity, and claims that “a low intake of dairy food nutrients”, such as calcium, potassium, and magnesium, may contribute to the high risk of hypertension seen in African Americans. Milk is a very poor source of magnesium and potassium. Blacks notoriously exhibit intolerance to milk products. In one study, abnormal lactose tolerance was found among 81% of Blacks and only 12% of Whites. This explains our avoidance of dairy.

It is obvious Blacks are genetically different (not inferior) and due to their melanin skin pigmentation exhibit special health and nutritional needs that are not being adequately addressed by the medical community nor the food industry.

DID YOU KNOW THERE ARE HEALTH BENEFITS FROM RECEIVING A BREAST MASSAGE?

I know a lot of women feel weird about exploring their own bodies. So, let me give you a few reasons to either start or find yourself a boob man and let them rub on your breasts. Therapeutic breast massage loosens the tissues of the chest, shoulders, and neck, using a combination of deep-tissue massage techniques like breathing, movement, and stretching.

The top 4 things on my list that massaging breasts can do:

  1. Helps Prevent Cancer. Malignant cells can often form a knot in your breast, that leads to lumps. When light external pressure is applied during early stages of development, it can force the cells to go back to their original form, helping reduce the risk of cancer.
  2. Treats Stress. Oxytocin is released when breasts are stimulated on a regular basis. Oxytocin is a hormone associated with love. It aids in alleviating stress and depression.
  3. Can Enlarge Them. The breasts are basically fat storing tissue. By increasing the blood circulation, a breast enlarging hormone prolactin is also secreted. Warm coconut oil does wonders with size increasing.
  4. Firmer, Tighter Breasts. As we age the firmness in our breasts change, due to gravity and breastfeeding. Don’t worry there is hope. If you are struggling with sagging breasts, massaging can do wonders. It helps tone up the tissues in your breasts and lead them to become firmer.

Fellas, warm your hands by rubbing them together with or without a natural oil. Stay away from lotions. Adding essential oils to your massage oil can make the process even more potent. Cinnamon, frankincense, thyme, citrus, roman chamomile, and turmeric are some of the oils recommended for breast health. Gradually rub both breasts in a circular motion. This should be done in an upward and outwards motion. You should be rubbing her breasts going towards her face and then towards the outline of her breast. Maintain light pressure otherwise it will lead to pain. Do this for 36 repetitions in both directions upwards.

Men, please keep in mind breasts are sensitive so forcefulness and tugging is not what I am describing. If you don’t want it done to your balls, don’t do it to the breasts!

*Ladies save your breasts by switching to an all-natural deodorant! My favorite is made by www.going2natural.com

ARE YOU UNSURE ABOUT THE BENEFITS OF DETOXING?

Benefits of Detoxing

*remove toxins from your body

*prevent chronic diseases

*enhance immune system function

*lose weight

*slow premature aging

*improve quality of life (helps with headache, sleep disorders, lack of energy, memory lags, depression)

*improve skin quality

No pills, teas or gimmicks.

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