SO, I’M AN INTROVERT. I’M NOT BORED OR SAD. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH ME!

Yes, I am happiest alone and tend to shy away from people as much as I can.  As I grow older, I realize it’s because I am somewhat of an empath. Energy transfers and a lot of y’all have fucked up energy! Even many that I love have horrible energy and I have no desire to feel it. Even when you’re not complaining, the fact that you’re not happy in life weighs heavy on a empath’s heart.

I used 2 be the type who helped everyone and was somewhat of a fixer. If I could fix your issues, your self-esteem or help you pay your bills, I would but that shit is emotionally and financially draining. I’m over it and have divorced that part of my former self. In result, I also divorced many friendships willingly.

Now, I enjoy my peace. It doesn’t mean I don’t like you…but if you can’t share my space often, it might mean your energy just drains me. Have you ever gotten off the phone with someone and you all of a sudden were physically tired and depressed, but right before the call you were happy and energetic? I don’t mean a call that delivered bad news or a death but a regular call from the homie? That means energy transferred now you are carrying their vibe with you, until you shake it off or transfer it back to someone else. I hate that feeling. I no longer wish to take on other people’s emotions. By myself, I’m chill with no drama. Except my drama of motherhood but that’s my entertainment!

I have friends who think they are being sweet, but they get on my nerves tryna force me to be positioned in social situations. I try to explain it to them, but they don’t get it. I don’t need more friends, I don’t want nobody else calling my phone, I aint tryna hang out. I’m tryna chill at Chuck E Cheese, not a bar, a social gathering, or anywhere with these grown folks. I could be doing something with my kid! I’ve spent my entire life being social. I literally want to spend some time being left alone. I don’t see why that’s so hard to understand.

My whole point in writing this was to say preserve your mental health by guarding the energy you allow to share your personal space.

KIDS DON’T EAT EVERYDAY!

Today was one of those days my kid didn’t feel like eating. I’ve noticed during her growth spurts one week she won’t touch food, then the next she’s eating everything she can find all day. Instead of stressing out and tryna convince her she needs to eat, I pick my battles and I simply make her Fairy Juice. Lol, yes I tell her it will make her fly, lol! Since she tries to fly anyway! The lil white lie gets her to drink every drop! Everything in it is 100% natural and healthy so if she doesn’t eat anything else for a while, I don’t worry!
Blueberries
Blackberries
Raspberries
Strawberries
Handful of Spinach
1/2 teaspoon of turmeric
Coconut water and Ice!
Vooolaaaaa, we have Fairy Juice! Also, a really happy momma! In between sips, I convince her to drink up so she can fly away! Works like a charm, so get your little Fairies or Superheroes flying.
Good luck parents!

CHERRY SEASON

Cherry season has arrived: they are among the first fruit trees to ripen. The abundance of vitamins in cherries makes it a wonder fruit. Eating cherries is not only good for your skin but is equally beneficial for the health of your hair as well as your digestive system. The vitamins present in cherries are capable of providing nourishment to the hair. Here’s how the different vitamins present in cherries help in maintaining healthy hair.

Vitamin A: 

It regulates the production of an essential acid called retinoic acid which is important for hair follicles and helps keep hair and scalp hydrated.

Vitamin B:

Vitamin B helps improve blood circulation in the body, including the scalp, which results in regeneration of the existing cells and triggers hair growth.

Vitamin C:

Vitamin C is very essential for hair. It helps in strengthening hair follicles and prevents breakage from the roots. It also nourishes the hair and prevents split ends and hair loss by stimulating the growth of new hair follicles.

Vitamin E:

This vitamin helps with proper blood circulation to maintain immunity and helps prevent any hair damage. It also maintains appropriate moisture in the hair and scalp.

FOOD OR MEDICINE

Only a small percentage of Americans (any groupings by age, sex or skin color) actually consume the recommended minimum of five daily servings of fruit and vegetables to maintain health. The National Cancer Institute now suggests nine servings of fresh plant foods per day to reduce health risks, a goal which is not likely to be achieved by a significant percentage of the population, let alone among minority groups in society. Blacks with low intake of folic acid (green leafy vegetables) have higher homocysteine levels. Homocysteine is an undesirable protein in the blood circulation, which is linked with cardiovascular disease and brain dementia.

It is amazing when they estimate the impact of poor nutrition upon Blacks. It is encouraging to realize that nutritional strategies could be employed to eradicate or reduce common health risks in Black American families at very little cost.

There is a connection to skin color, nutrition and disease as exemplified by the role of vitamin D, the “sunshine vitamin,” among Blacks. Dark melanin skin pigment slows the natural production of vitamin D upon exposure to the sun. Blacks may require as much as ten times more sun exposure to produce the same vitamin D as Caucasians. Shortages of vitamin D are causally linked to high blood pressure, stroke, cancer (colon, breast, prostate, ovarian, lymphoma), Crohn’s disease, immune problems and osteoporosis, all health problems that are common in the black community.

Hypertension, stroke, colon cancer and obesity, and claims that “a low intake of dairy food nutrients”, such as calcium, potassium, and magnesium, may contribute to the high risk of hypertension seen in African Americans. Milk is a very poor source of magnesium and potassium. Blacks notoriously exhibit intolerance to milk products. In one study, abnormal lactose tolerance was found among 81% of Blacks and only 12% of Whites. This explains our avoidance of dairy.

It is obvious Blacks are genetically different (not inferior) and due to their melanin skin pigmentation exhibit special health and nutritional needs that are not being adequately addressed by the medical community nor the food industry.

DID YOU KNOW THERE ARE HEALTH BENEFITS FROM RECEIVING A BREAST MASSAGE?

I know a lot of women feel weird about exploring their own bodies. So, let me give you a few reasons to either start or find yourself a boob man and let them rub on your breasts. Therapeutic breast massage loosens the tissues of the chest, shoulders, and neck, using a combination of deep-tissue massage techniques like breathing, movement, and stretching.

The top 4 things on my list that massaging breasts can do:

  1. Helps Prevent Cancer. Malignant cells can often form a knot in your breast, that leads to lumps. When light external pressure is applied during early stages of development, it can force the cells to go back to their original form, helping reduce the risk of cancer.
  2. Treats Stress. Oxytocin is released when breasts are stimulated on a regular basis. Oxytocin is a hormone associated with love. It aids in alleviating stress and depression.
  3. Can Enlarge Them. The breasts are basically fat storing tissue. By increasing the blood circulation, a breast enlarging hormone prolactin is also secreted. Warm coconut oil does wonders with size increasing.
  4. Firmer, Tighter Breasts. As we age the firmness in our breasts change, due to gravity and breastfeeding. Don’t worry there is hope. If you are struggling with sagging breasts, massaging can do wonders. It helps tone up the tissues in your breasts and lead them to become firmer.

Fellas, warm your hands by rubbing them together with or without a natural oil. Stay away from lotions. Adding essential oils to your massage oil can make the process even more potent. Cinnamon, frankincense, thyme, citrus, roman chamomile, and turmeric are some of the oils recommended for breast health. Gradually rub both breasts in a circular motion. This should be done in an upward and outwards motion. You should be rubbing her breasts going towards her face and then towards the outline of her breast. Maintain light pressure otherwise it will lead to pain. Do this for 36 repetitions in both directions upwards.

Men, please keep in mind breasts are sensitive so forcefulness and tugging is not what I am describing. If you don’t want it done to your balls, don’t do it to the breasts!

*Ladies save your breasts by switching to an all-natural deodorant! My favorite is made by www.going2natural.com

ARE YOU UNSURE ABOUT THE BENEFITS OF DETOXING?

Benefits of Detoxing

*remove toxins from your body

*prevent chronic diseases

*enhance immune system function

*lose weight

*slow premature aging

*improve quality of life (helps with headache, sleep disorders, lack of energy, memory lags, depression)

*improve skin quality

No pills, teas or gimmicks.

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I DON’T MIND MAKING YOUR PLATE BECAUSE I DON’T WANT YOU IN MY KITCHEN!

Let me keep it real. I see all these debates on the internet and laugh. “Who eats first your man or your child?” In my house children eat before anyone, PERIOD. If you have a problem with it, IDGAF because you are not invited over anyway.

“Where do I season my chicken?” The same place I wash it…yes, I wash off my chicken in the sink. (From reading the comments, I learned a lot of people don’t wash off their food, period.) So, IDGAF if you have an issue with that because you aren’t invited to my house anyway!

Bagged salad keeps giving people salmonella. Forgive me for laughing but again there are people who do not wash it. Pour it out the bag into the strainer with a lil vinegar and water and you will be okay. If you don’t wash your bagged lettuce, NO BIGGIE TO ME BECAUSE I AINT COMING TO YOUR HOUSE TO EAT IT!

I am saying all this because it amazes me how we are so tied up emotionally about what other people are doing in their houses. We spend time on this when we could be productive instead of having senseless debates nobody is capitalizing on. WTF are we doing wasting time on social media all day, people? I post once or twice a day that’s it…I can’t take ya’ll serious or give you too much of my time.

Going back to, “I don’t mind making you a plate because I don’t want you in my kitchen,” is a broad statement. I will give the public what I want them to have then I close the door and my life is mine. Everyone doesn’t deserve free range, folks. In 2020, save a little of yourself for yourself and see how much more energetic you are…

FAMILY MEALS

Family meals are a comforting ritual for both parents and kids. Children like the predictability of family meals and parents get a chance to catch up with their kids. Kids who take part in regular family meals are also:

  • More likely to eat fruits, vegetables, and grains
  • Less likely to snack on unhealthy foods
  • Less likely to smoke, use marijuana, or drink alcohol

In addition, family meals offer the chance to introduce your child to new foods and find out which foods your child likes and which ones he or she doesn’t.

Teens may turn up their noses at the prospect of a family meal – not surprising because they’re trying to establish independence. Yet, studies find that teens still want their parents’ advice and counsel, so use mealtime as a chance to reconnect. Also, consider trying these strategies:

  • Allow your teen to invite a friend to dinner.
  • Involve your teen in meal planning and preparation.
  • Keep mealtime calm and congenial – no lectures or arguing.

What counts as a family meal? Any time you and your family eat together – whether it’s takeout food or a home-cooked meal with all the trimmings. Strive for nutritious food and a time when everyone can be there. This may mean eating dinner a little later to accommodate a child who’s at sports practice. It can also mean setting aside time on the weekends, such as Sunday brunch, when it may be more convenient to gather as a group.

FAST FOOD FOR MY KID IS A NO NO

Let’s touch on the topic of fast food. This used to be a treat, now for many it has become a way of life. How did we get so lazy that we would rather go through a drive thru than cook our kids a real meal? I have yet to patron a fast food restaurant that serves a side of broccoli with the kid’s meal. Children need to eat a well-balanced meal since they are growing. It is our job as parents to make sure we keep them as healthy as we can. Do you know food also works with the immune system? If your child gets a cold every time they go outside, maybe you need to change their diet.

When our kids eat refined sugars, such as cookies, sweets, white bread and pop, the food is broken down into glucose. Due to the lack of fiber in these food items, they enter the bloodstream in the form of sugar at a rush speed. Research shows that only 7% of children consume the recommended three to five servings of vegetables and two or more servings of fruit daily. Unfortunately, due to poor nutrition and inactivity, the rate of childhood illnesses such as allergies, obesity, attention-deficit disorder and ear infections are rising dramatically.

A WALK CAN CHANGE MY WHOLE DAY

If I ever feel down or need to run away, a perfect quick fix for me is a walk. It can be around my neighborhood, through a park or even around the building at Kian Spa. I set aside at least 20 minutes and do nothing but walk.

Sometimes, I take my daughter when the weather is nice. It’s a great way to start our day. Morning walks for me and most of the time, she’s on her scooter or her bike. It’s a great time to bond.  She is only 4 years old but has a clear understanding of her desires and she will let you know if you’re willing to listen. I tend to leave the cell phone at home so our walks are uninterrupted and as peaceful as can be. Since we moved from Los Angeles, I get to take in clean air, appreciate the greenery and the homes around me, while smiling and waving to neighbors.

As I walk, I pay attention to my breathing, the smells, the things I hear and how the air feels on my face. I look around and it helps me realize how many things I am truly grateful for. It reminds me how lucky I am to even have air in my lungs, making my life possible.

Sometimes we get so caught up in our routine that we don’t take the time to simply look around us and be grateful! I never want to get so wrapped up that I forget as long as my family is safe, everyone woke up this morning and my daughter is fed that I am winning. My family is winning.

Gratitude is everything. Did you know it can also strengthen your immune system, better your sleep and focus?