It saddens me to even
post this blog because I feel this is parenting 101!
Obviously, it’s not
because some parents out there are failing miserably!
Moms and Dads of
America, when you are walking across a parking lot or the street, it is YOUR
DUTY as a parent to put your child on the other side of you and oncoming cars!
For the life of me, I don’t understand these mothers who put their
children towards traffic to cross. Yes, I understand if there are cars going
from both ways. But LORD, if it’s only coming from one direction like if you’re
in a parking lot and cars are only coming from one way, it is your duty to be between
your child and oncoming traffic!
Parents, it’s your
duty to profess (teach them how to cross the street) protect (means keep them
away from harm) and provide (Safety, common sense and knowledge to get through
If you fail at keeping
them out of harm’s way of vehicles, I wonder what else your missing! 🤷🏾♀️
As a mother, I don’t
need one more thing to remember, not one more thing on my list to do. Whoever
started this Elf on the Shelf thing, I’d like to strangle him. Let’s just get real,
sometimes when my kid falls asleep… I fall asleep too because I’m completely
exhausted. I want to run away from responsibility just like everybody
Holidays are those
things that I feel like I have to do because my mother loves them so much but
it’s not the thing that I really enjoy doing. Yes, my house is decorated.
Yes, my Christmas trees are up (4 of them). Yes, I have a reindeer and angels
and trinkets and Santa Claus everywhere. My kid knows the truth, she
figured it out when she was three that Santa Claus is not real. She said, “There is NO way he gets from Uncle
Chris house in Thailand, all the way to Uncle Aves house in Singapore, then to
me in the USA all on the same night. It’s not possible, Mommy!”
I’ve never tried to
convince her otherwise, I giggled and told her don’t tell other children. She
pinky promised but she happens to enjoy all the shenanigans.
This Elf on the Shelf
thing is becoming a pain in my butt. Let me let you into my home. My daughter
wakes up bright and early at the crack of dawn happy and the first thing she
does is search the house for the damn elf. My heart dropped because I realized
I fell asleep! Damn, the elf was going to be in the same place it was last
night not because my kid was bad yesterday, because I simply forgot and fell
She called my mom to
tell her the elf didn’t move. Thank God, I have an awesome mother who loves to
play all the little elf games. We left to go grocery shopping and what do you
know…when we came back the elf had moved! At first, I was confused but then I
Thanks, Mom. I might
be 44 but you’re still my hero and you’re still rescuing me! To all parents out
there who have also bought their children an elf, good luck. I hope you can
remember that one more thing that’s on your list until Christmas!
I am honored to be headlining the AAMBC EBook Fair this year via Twitter! Please join in on the amazing conversations! There will be a lot of giveaway from books to products! All times posted are Eastern Standard Time! Look forward to seeing you there!
The theme for this year’s World AIDS Day is “Communities make a difference.” I have had the opportunity to be educated by many people on AIDS and HIV. I am thankful for the knowledge that has been passed on to me. And I’d like to do my best to continue my education while passing on what I’ve learned to all my friends.
The world of AIDS and
HIV is evolving. No longer are people taking 30 pills a day, many are down to
just one pill. There are two HIV and AIDS prevention drugs out. We’ve
come a long way.
HIV and AIDS affects everyone. Though it’s a conversation many don’t want to have, it’s something that we all need to be educated on. My podcast this week is dedicated to HIV and AIDS and also one of my closest friends, who I’m so proud of who is living with HIV. If you get a chance, go over to my podcast and check it out. Not only is it informational but it’s also entertaining, and it puts a face to a disease that so many are terrified of!
I am proud to be Mr. DeMarco Majors’ friend and I’m most proud of all he’s doing to educate the world. If you have any questions or concerns or need someone to turn to, Demarco and I will be opening up our DM‘s all December to help as much as we can.
As I walked through the grocery store, I got excited when I saw
eggnog loaded on the shelves. Not to disrespect my beloved “coquito,” but
America likes to compare it to eggnog. In my opinion, it is the much better
tasting cousin! Coquito is a traditional food that all Puerto Ricans hold close
to their hearts. Growing up, it is associated with Holidays, Love and Family.
Coquito translated means “little coconut.” It is best enjoyed super cold. Here
is how we make it in my house. If you are serving children or people who don’t
drink, simply leave out the rum.
1 (12 oz) can evaporated milk
1 (14 oz) can sweetened
2 cups (1 15 oz can) cream of
1/4 tsp cinnamon
1/8 tsp nutmeg
1 tsp vanilla
**1 1/2 cup white rum (Must
be white. I prefer Bacardi, of course)
cinnamon sticks for garnish
I suggest 1 1/2 cups of white rum. If that sounds like too much,
start with 1 cup and add more to taste. I like to add just enough rum that it’s
prickly on the back of your throat and warms you on the inside. It will be one
of the few drinks you’ll have that is cold that warms you up. Just be careful
because the flavor of the rum gets stronger the longer the drink “marinates.” LOL. If you have a family like
mine, it could be the gift that keeps giving. Abuela once told me that egg yolk
came from the white American tradition of eggnog, so some Rican’s have welcomed
it into their coquito. I stick to my original roots, so I am part of the NO egg
yolk camp! Debate amongst yourself and enjoy!
I believe it’s more
important to focus on the ingredients in your meal than the calories of your
meal. Here is where my old Boss, Tyrone’s saying “KISS” comes into play. Keep
It Simple Stupid! Quality over Quantity!
Cutting out energy-dense, unhealthy items is
crucial to weight loss. It’s more important to pay attention to what you’re
eating! Watching the sugar grams and sodium intake, if you want to watch
The counting calories thing can throw you off
because although avocados and nuts are high in calories, they are packed with
nutrients like fiber and healthy fats that can promote weight loss. See how
lines get blurred? Trusted
It’s all about having a healthy relationship
with food! Make sure you are picking foods based on what nourishes your body
rather than obsessing over which foods are “good” or “bad”.
Rule of thumb if it says “Diet,” don’t touch it! The word diet within itself is a scam. Diet soda, salad dressings, and prepackaged meals are all full of chemicals and artificial sweeteners. If you are interested in learning more about nutrition or simply refreshing your relationship with food, hit me up for a nutritional consultation. Check out my wellness programs at teamcheriej.com.
I used to have anxiety
about traveling with my daughter but now I must say she has become my little
road dog! Pausing to take deep breaths and meditation has always helped
tremendously. I travel a lot for work and keep her in toe. I have always
preferred taking the earliest flight out. Yes, that means very early mornings
and often we are on our way to the airport while it’s still dark outside. She
ends up being all sleepy on the flight and even when she doesn’t fall asleep,
she’s mellow. When she’s able to get a nap in by the time we land, she’s ready
to go. As long as we are traveling in the states, the whole day is not lost due
to traveling. So, she is ready to hit the ground running.
I have been blessed
with a child who loves to travel. Watching her gain her confidence while
traveling has become an amazing experience for me. She loves pulling out her
own ID, (Even though it’s not needed yet, she feels like she’s a big girl.)
holding her own boarding pass and pulling her roller bag all by herself was the
new thing on our latest trip. Even checking the scale to make sure her bag
wasn’t overweight. Pulling out her iPad and putting it in a bin at security. I
know these may sound like little things but she’s 5 years old already knowing
how to basically get around an airport by herself.
This summer my mother started letting her order room service by herself, so this trip back to California she didn’t bother to tell you she was hungry for breakfast, she would go get out the menu and order her breakfast herself! Hahaahah, at 5 years old she’s even figured out she could buy things in the hotel and tell them to charge it to the room LOL! 😂Thank God my mom didn’t allow her to do that while I was at work. I have a feeling strawberry shortcake ice creams from the gift shop would have been her everyday thing. I’ve noticed no matter how many toys she is given, she seems to talk about her experiences more than her things. While toys are nice, the gift of traveling and experiencing new things seems to be her favorite. Adventure over material…
I am so grateful that
sometimes I listen to my mother. One of the best lessons my mother taught me
was before you go out of town, clean your house from top to bottom. Don’t leave
any trash and wash all your clothes. I just got back home. I am jetlagged and
tired as can be. One of the best feelings I got when I walked in my door was to
walk into a clean house. I jumped in the shower, put on PJs, stuck my hair up
in a bun and climbed into my crisp, clean sheets. My heater kicked on just at
the right time and I snuggled up with my daughter and we went straight to
I’m one of those
people who don’t function well with clutter and chaos. I can’t stand looking
around and seeing things everywhere, like piles of mail. The only piles I don’t
mind are piles of books. To be able to come home and only have to worry about
washing the clothes that we wore while we were gone is one of the biggest gifts
I ever gave myself. So, this post is all about the best advice my mother has
ever given me. Thanks, mom. See, sometimes I do listen!
My baby girl is far
from the princess type, so I was a little taken back at first when she picked
out her latest book, The Duchess and Guy. Then I quickly realized my
daughter has no idea who Meghan Markle is. She just picked a brown girl with a
dog and a crown and I giggled, thankful she could see her own likeness on such
a beautifully made book!
I smiled because this
was the opportunity for her to see mainstream royalty that looks like her. We
talk about the royalty in Africa, but because of who owns the corporation of
the United States, unfortunately those are not the images she gets to see on
TV. What a beautiful introduction to Mrs. Markle for her.
The book is based upon the real-life story of
Guy, a rescue beagle owned by the actress Meghan Markle, this picture-book from
American author Nancy Furstinger and Spanish illustrator Julia Bereciartu
imagines the process whereby the pooch makes himself at home with the British
royal family, after Ms. Markle meets and eventually marries Prince Harry.
Despite some initial mishaps, Guy eventually finds his place, much like his
human, and all ends well…
The book is
beautifully done and a reminder that unfortunately, there are many animals that
deserve beautiful homes just waiting to be adopted.
(This blog, I repeated
the word beautiful a lot because Meghan is just that.)
I live in the most
incredible town. They always throw these “Events” for children in the
neighborhood. I took my daughter to see Curious George for free at a book
reading event. It was the cutest thing ever. Moving from California has groomed
me to be everywhere early and thank God because when I say my town comes out to
support, that is an understatement! My daughter and I were sitting in front of
the stage and she was eating a blueberry muffin. All of a sudden, it turned 10 a.m.
I turned around and looked and out of
nowhere there were 100 children behind us. In no time, my baby girl had
made friends with the boy on her left and the girl on her right. They were
happily sitting there waiting. Watching her anticipation reminded me how
important it is that children get experiences. In fact, I realize experience is
more important than “things”. (She remembers the experiences and loves to talk
With it being the last quarter of the year, I am going to remember this for Christmas time and try to figure out how to wrap up experiences instead of just gifts.
*Side note as
beautiful as the event was, during the last book reading 3 kids approached the
stage standing, screaming, and being unruly. A mother came to pull them back
twice but wasn’t successful. Now they didn’t block my daughter’s vision because
I told them to move but other children were blocked. They refused to sit down
or be quiet, as not just me, but other parents in the front suggested! Now, none
of us know what the last book was about, thanks to them. Even Curious George
was curious about where their mother went. I need to know.
Momma, what were you
thinking and why can’t you control your seeds? They were all under 5. The rest
of us shouldn’t be punished because you gave up on parenting.
If nothing else at the
end of the event, I was reminded my own child may be loud at times, but she is
NOT bad, inconsiderate or rude! So, it brought me back to full circle
appreciation. Thank you to my little city for all the cute things you put
together for the youth!