IT’S THAT TIME OF THE YEAR AGAIN FOR HOMESCHOOL PARENTS!

We are about to say, “Hello” to 3rd Grade! I went nuts researching what curriculum would be right for our daughter. One of my biggest things was she must see her own likeness in her books. If there were no black children present, we weren’t doing it PERIOD! Also, I live in a state where the laws are very flexible for parents to teach and pick whatever curriculum we want. Every district has FRAMEWORKS that they follow. (You can google frameworks in your county and see everything they are teaching.) I choose to follow Massachusetts frameworks because they seem to be the best in the country at this time.

I started off wanting to do a video school but was like why should I pay $1,500.00 for kindergarten and first grade. Now at second grade, I see it doesn’t have to be that expensive. I don’t think I have spent more than $300 a year including field trips, and the great thing is when homeschooling you don’t have to purchase all at once. My biggest fear when I started was am I sure we are doing enough? Was she getting as much as children in school? What I found is she is getting WAY MORE!! We only do school for an hour and a half a day! She gets a snack and recess in-between and the rest of the day is hers to do as she pleases. These are some of the resources we use in our homeschool!

Masterbooks – We use their Math and Social Studies Only.

My referral code

https://www.masterbooks.com/r/V3bEoJlk/

History comes from Urban Intellectuals. They have flash cards which are small and so cute for little hands. The facts aren’t overwhelming but sure opened my eyes about American History. Black History at this point is it! My little one is so young that black history is all I teach. I figure she has time for the Gold Rush and things for when she’s older. Right now, Ima work on her pride and self-esteem as the white curriculum does for white children.

https://store.urbanintellectuals.com/aff/CherieJ75/

I also use another resource that comes from Blessed Heritage. It’s written more like a teacher’s guide than a text or work book but pointed me towards some great literature to back up things like Christopher Columbus got lost and never stepped foot on US soil that’s was written in a way my daughter fully could understand. http://www.blessedheritage.com/primary-vol-1.html

Health comes from ABEKA (I found ours on eBay for like $6 in perfect condition)  https://www.abeka.com/abekaonline/bookdescription.aspx?sbn=197564&gclid=Cj0KCQjwpavpBRDQARIsAPfTwiwCSIQ4PK9WIIdac3foUypVUm6fJuELyQ0xUoB7sm7R4BZZFVing8MaAhjIEALw_wcB

So as far as language arts, when she was younger we did kindergarten using a lot of worksheets from The Big Book of Kindergarten & 1st Grade https://www.amazon.com/School-Zone-Kindergarten-Workbook-Matching/dp/0887431461/ref=asc_df_0887431461/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=198066994475&hvpos=1o2&hvnetw=g&hvrand=8751043359419606877&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9028267&hvtargid=pla-404115530087&psc=1

Spectrum workbooks https://www.amazon.com/Spectrum-Grade-1/dp/1483816257/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=spectrum+1st+grade+workbooks&qid=1563113938&s=books&sr=1-3 and a workbook called Head of the class. The workbooks helped to guide me to make sure I was teaching what kids learned at the grade level and also to have hard copies of what I was teaching. Here is where I feel ABCMOUSE.com prepared her by the time she got to the worksheets, she already understood what to do. I make sure I read with her a lot and we pick out things she learns in the workbooks in her literature as well.

Core Knowledge has also been a great FREE resource for language arts. I’ve read a lot of mixed reviews with people complaining it’s not the vintage literature we grew up with, but my daughter enjoys it and the characters and subjects are diverse unlike the stories we grew up with! Native Americans, Immigrants and Job Hunting are just a few of the amazing topics they cover! Real world things in text that’s age appropriate.

https://www.coreknowledge.org/curriculum/

For Writing, the Dollar store!!! They have those workbooks with the ABC’s in them. I buy like 5 for every grade and she does 2 pages a day. This year she will be doing cursive!

Science, she has a spectrum book we will pull from as well as a book she was gifted by her tutor, which is full of experiments! She has a science lab her Aunt Vickie, Uncle Mark and Cousin Vivie sent her. (Yes, a whole little LAB) that came with a box of experiments and a microscope so please pray she doesn’t blow up the house! Science is her favorite subject!

I also teach Spanish. Amazon and YouTube have great kid resources. We purchased a workbook from Amazon that was under $10.

I refuse to take the arts out of her schooling just because most schools have done away with them! It’s a fundamental part of children’s minds and let’s face it for many of us, it was the most fun we had all day! All work and no play is never the way to go in my book!

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She takes art classes for $3 a session at Michael’s! If you have an Amazon Firestick there is an art class on there that has taught her how to draw animals. The Dollar stores and 5 and Below have become fun places to buy art materials and projects. I’ve found ways to tie in unit studies with her art as well and that’s fun!

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My daughter was gifted a Ukulele from her Uncle Mark, Aunt Vickie and Cousin Vivie, so she takes music lessons at the Guitar Center.

I am blessed to be surrounded by educators. I work along with a few great teachers if you ever want to speak to them as well for guidance. Reach out to me and I will connect you, because all kids are different!

Tae Kwon Do & swimming and soccer are my daughter’s P.E. Don’t forget to get them out and moving.

I keep records and I keep EVERYTHING! Some states, you just need a portfolio of your children’s work for the year. Just in case someone gets bored and wants to question what we have covered, I’m ready for Back to school night. They will get EVERYTHING!

I hope this helps and takes away any second guessing yourself that you have. All children are different and there are so many homeschooling options! Education isn’t cookie cutter…listen to your child’s needs. Children will express their interest to you. When my daughter started talking about hot lava, I knew it was time for a volcano unit which I goggled and Homeschool pop on YouTube was fun. When she was talking about butterflies, we did a butterfly unit. I found a butterfly farm (who knew they had those). Kids will lead their own education and it’s the perfect way to keep it fun and free as long as we can.

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Good Luck and I am always here.

MY INBOX IS NOT AN ATM

Not a single day goes by where a grown man isn’t telling me a sob story as to why I should help him out and give him money. Men that I don’t even know. I grew up in a time when men wouldn’t dare ask a woman for money! It was a man’s job to provide, profess and protect. Now it seems to be the other way around. Men crying that they never had a father figure, so they don’t know any better. Hold up, I should have asked every single one, do you know or care how many women never had a father figure either? At some point you have to let that cop out go and teach yourself how to be a man! One of the greatest men in my life was my grandfather and he never had a father figure either, but he raised 6 children on his income from working in the steel mill and found himself handyman work on the side as a hustle. Not because he loved it but because he was a man who provided, and his family depended on him! He made no excuses and took full responsibility for his family! He made 6 children; he took care of many others as well.

We live in an era where many men simply do NOT take responsibility for themselves or their actions. Being a real man is about knowing you are in control of your life. To be a real man you must take responsibility of your thoughts and actions. The things you do, say and think are all in your control. Many of you understand this but choose to ignore because ignorance makes life easier! Men…real men don’t ignore responsibility, bottom line. Nor do they look for someone else to blame!

SOMEBODY ASKED ME ABOUT MY EX…

Somebody asked me about my ex… I told them I don’t have an ex, as an adult the only ex that would count is an ex-husband! I have a present day…. They proceeded with telling me to stop playing I said, “Pause, Bruh.” If I didn’t marry them, I have no kids with them, no property, no business then they DON’T count! I’m 43, get real everyone I went to dinner with I’m supposed to claim? If I must have an ex, I have 3: Tony, Robert and Victor. If you aint talking about one of them, I simply have no recollection. Okay, 4. I will claim Billy too since that was my first little love. (Right you don’t know those names, they weren’t on TMZ.) Anyone else is a simple…. a don’t count, and if you don’t know about those 4 names then you really don’t even know me, so why are you tryna have this conversation?

My point in posting this is why do so many of you spend time claiming people that are completely irrelevant to your present or future? Dating is about getting to know a person and once you know them well enough to know you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with them, why do people hold onto them like there was no life before them? There will be plenty more life without them too.

When the year mark hit, I asked myself this question “If it never gets any better than this…will I be happy spending the rest of my life with them?” It was time to erase a lot of my memory bank and move on. I have a whole family now, some of ya’ll need to erase my dating past outa your memories too. Hell, ask my brother, Twon. I don’t even remember some of the dudes by name. Hahaahahah.

IT’S 4 A.M. AND I’M AWAKE CUTTING UP FLASHCARDS!

It’s 4 a.m. and I’m awake cutting up flashcards! Preparing for 3rd grade, homeschool is about to take on a whole new form and I am ready for it. This year will be more fun, I’m convincing myself. This year I will be a better teacher, now that I got the hang of it. This year I am going to prepare and get all of the paperwork done earlier. I will lay a foundation that will not be broken because NOW I know exactly what needs to be done. Hahaahahah

Truth is my daughter will come in, take the reins and guide her own education and let me know everything she needs. While prep is good, I have also learned to be flexible. Just because Tuesday went exactly as I planned, Wednesday was totally off course but on that beautiful Wednesday, we had fun and we both learned a lot!

Children are resilient and flourish in their own environment! With their own tribe, on their own time. Life is a lot different for them when they can receive a hug after a ruff assignment. They also can feel when those around them lead with love! So, as you’re planning your homeschool year, remember to schedule in the love!

Good luck, parents. It’s a dirty job but we are the best ones to do it!

DON’T BE THAT PERSON

There is always that person who throws your mistakes up in your face. The moment you are doing well, and life is going great they will do all they can to steal a moment of joy from your day! We all know or are even related to that 1 person.

“Ohhh, Johnny looks just like his Daddy!” (Knowing you and Johnny’s Daddy do not get along.)

“I saw such and such the other day.” (Knowing you and such and such fell out.)

“Oh, you bought a car? Hope you don’t crash it like you did the last one.”

“How long is this little girlfriend gonna last?” (Not knowing the last one cheated on you.)

Don’t be that person that lives in everyone’s PAST! When you’re busy living in your OWN future, other people’s past won’t even be your memories. Bringing up hurtful things to others is a direct reflection on yourself! Not that person you think you’re being coltish with. It’s very telling of your spirit and where you are in your own life. You hurt! Don’t be that hurt person who goes out of their way to hurt people. Heal yourself and lead with love. You will be a lot happier!

And for those of you who read this and names of people in your life popped in your head, LET THEM GO! As you are tryna live better, do better, be better, often you have to let the people you love GO! They can’t go with you where you deserve to be. A river never goes in reverse! Live like a river, PERIOD!

ROOKIE SOCCER MOM

Okay so, it’s been officially 33 years since I have been on the soccer field. My daughter started asking me a year ago if could she play soccer. I was honestly hoping that she would forget! In between swimming and Taekwondo, I just didn’t feel like she had time. Call me a bad mom but I just wasn’t sitting on a hot field during the summer with all that heat and sun for a sport I am not sure she will love or stick too. Fall is here and she is 5 so the you’re too young excuse doesn’t work anymore. Fall Ball, here we come!

She’s got her shorts, cleats, her shin guards, her socks, sunblock, 2 soccer balls and a pump. I have my hat, my chair, my cooler, sunblock, water bottles and Gatorades.

WHAT ELSE DO I NEED?

I spoke to my sister in law, Vanessa, who is a pro soccer mom now. Her advice to me was healthy snacks, in case my name is called to be snack mom. No sugary stuff or candy, no Capri Suns. Check, I got that. I texted my sister in law, Vickie, who just laughed at me. LOL, I think she thought I was over thinking or joking. But I would like to hear from you “Soccer Parents”? I like to be prepared so what else do I need to know and have on me? PLEASE, HELP A SISTA OUT?

NOBODY SAYS CAUCASIAN AMERICAN!

Don’t call me African American.

In the 70’s, we were Blacks

in the 50’s, we were Negros

Before that, we were coloreds.

You do not get to call me what the fuck you want to every 20 years to duck political loopholes. LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR, I WILL NOT CHECK THE BOX!

When my daughter was born, they didn’t even bother to ask her race they simply put on her paperwork what they saw. Same thing they did with the Natives back in the day. Mark them as Negro or Mulato or Mullato, depending on who wrote it. It had many different spellings on my families’ paperwork. Then, don’t have to pay them reparations. I think it’s really sick that “the powers that be” can change people’s identities to what they would like it to be anytime it benefits them. My people are from North Carolina dating back to the 1700’s.  Guess the fuck what, I am MORE AMERICAN than those fuckers who want to change my people’s identity! They associate with their identities and where their people migrated from. Then they try to feed us this shit that everyone here was from somewhere else. A lot of people can’t find their family history because they are looking for African Roots when in fact, their roots started RIGHT HERE!

Immigration has always been a beautiful thing, as long as your skin is white. For our Brown immigrants from the beginning of time, it’s been nothing but hell. We have the power to change this and the boxes they want us to check if we start thinking, speaking up and voting. Give America the hell they been giving us for years. This time through contracts, lawsuits and paperwork. Hit them in their pockets. MONEY is all they respect!

RED BELT!

Just like that right before her fifth birthday, she’s a red belt. For those of you who are not familiar with Taekwondo, my young daughter is two belts away from getting her little champions black belt, which is a big deal!

This journey is super amazing to witness. During her last testing was the first time I wasn’t nervous for her. I was excited! I watched her create her own journey. You know, just a couple years ago she asked me if she could she take Taekwondo and I really thought it was gonna be a phase but it’s her thing. It takes people years to figure out what they’re good at, find their purpose and their interest. For her to be so young and already know herself, I am so grateful. I only have one choice and that’s to foster what she loves. She’s determined to get the black belt before she turns 6, and I know she will. Right now, that belt is her goal. I hope she sticks with it because she’s already counting on having her second belt by the age of 12! Lol, wish me luck. She just convinced me to sign her up for soccer, which starts next month. So, on top of Taekwondo and swimming Ima bout to be a soccer mom! (She gets it from her cousins) I didn’t see this one coming when I gave myself the soccer mom hair cut a couple of years ago, LOL!

Hey soccer moms, Rookie Mom coming. Can I please get some tips?

PROOF SISTAS: MEN ARE STILL ROMANTIC, YOU JUST HAVE TO SEE IT

A beautiful gift written for me from a man I will anonymously call “LOVE”
She’s Music 🎶
She’s your mental soliloquy.
Your daily symphony.
She’s on repeat the whole day long.
She’s the melody that rides the groove.
Her kisses reminding you of love being sure and smooth.
She rocks you with zeal until your long gone.
She’s the hip-hop to your trap.
Her body finely wrapped in measured colors only God, Himself can do yet so true.
She’s your gospel and your song.
She’s the love you need to right your wrongs.
That is just what she do.
Kiss 😚 her lips 👄 4 times consistently.
Find her truth in the purest of intimacies.
So she knows you played her heart’s ♥️ serenade.
Bring peace with your mental jazz.
Make sure to play her mind,body and soul with truth and fact.
So she can taste your love’s lemonade.
Be aware of every note.
Listen to her speak from her inner dope.
Become addicted to her MUSIC. 🎶
She’s Music 🎶

 

ADVICE FOR PARENTS OF YOUNG ATHLETES

UPDATE: 7/29/2019, 11:11 PM EST – To contact B2G Sports, reach out via Instagram: @official_b2gsports

I was sitting down talking to one of my lifelong friends, Ron Allen who trains student athletes and I thought about you, my readers and how a lot of you are raising young athletes yourself. Below are a few tips he shared with me.

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  1. Go to every game if you can, even if their team sucks.
  2. Stay relentlessly positive with your child when it comes to their sport and teach them to do the same.
  3. Let the coach do their job. They have to worry about every player on the team.
  4. Encourage your child to compete with themselves so they can be the best version of who they are.
  5. Allow your child to choose the sport he/she loves but encourage them to try multiple sports.
  6. To be a winner, athletes have to want it more than who’s coaching them and who’s raising them. Keep them in successful environments and surrounded by peers who are driven and pray it rubs off.
  7. Exercise patience and focus on the long game with your child when it comes to their development.
  8. Unless they ask you, wait a day or two before you tell your child what they did wrong after a loss or a bad game. Their emotions are already fragile enough.
  9. Most kids don’t have the drive their parents expect of them. Be ok with that if yours doesn’t. There are so many other areas where we as parents pressure are kids to be better. Let them have sports on their own speed.
  10. As soon as possible, seek out professional trainers or camps to work with your child instead of yourself. This will allow you to maintain a healthy parent / kid relationship.

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