10 I AM TOO WEALTHY SAYINGS WOMEN SHOULD LIVE BY

Here are 10 “I am too wealthy” sayings I think all women should live by:

  1. I am too wealthy and I will not sell my soul to prosper.
  2. I am too wealthy to waste my time with people who don’t deserve my time.
  3. I am too wealthy to spend my time around people who have no drive and aspiration.
  4. I am too wealthy not to take control and be the driver of my own career.
  5. I am too wealthy to let other people control my emotions.
  6. I am too wealthy to waste my time and gossip or try to bring down another woman.
  7. I am too wealthy not to keep my word.
  8. I am too wealthy to owe anyone.
  9. I am too wealthy not to know my self-worth.
  10. I am too wealthy not to recognize opportunity when it is in front of my face.

Just as I am wealthy, so are you. Learn your self-worth and make sure everyone who shares your space acknowledges it as well.

FAMILY MEALS

Family meals are a comforting ritual for both parents and kids. Children like the predictability of family meals and parents get a chance to catch up with their kids. Kids who take part in regular family meals are also:

  • More likely to eat fruits, vegetables, and grains
  • Less likely to snack on unhealthy foods
  • Less likely to smoke, use marijuana, or drink alcohol

In addition, family meals offer the chance to introduce your child to new foods and find out which foods your child likes and which ones he or she doesn’t.

Teens may turn up their noses at the prospect of a family meal – not surprising because they’re trying to establish independence. Yet, studies find that teens still want their parents’ advice and counsel, so use mealtime as a chance to reconnect. Also, consider trying these strategies:

  • Allow your teen to invite a friend to dinner.
  • Involve your teen in meal planning and preparation.
  • Keep mealtime calm and congenial – no lectures or arguing.

What counts as a family meal? Any time you and your family eat together – whether it’s takeout food or a home-cooked meal with all the trimmings. Strive for nutritious food and a time when everyone can be there. This may mean eating dinner a little later to accommodate a child who’s at sports practice. It can also mean setting aside time on the weekends, such as Sunday brunch, when it may be more convenient to gather as a group.

HOMEWORK DOESN’T HAVE TO EQUAL THE BLUES

Listening to my friends, one of the biggest struggles they have with their children is homework. The reason I feel this is important is I see daily many mothers struggle with their children about doing their homework. With the fact that most woman are not home after school because they are working, it makes it hard to set a structured time when homework is supposed to be done. Often children and the parent are restless at the end of the day and tired, so it makes it hard for the both of them to be able to concentrate. So, I came up with some easy homework tips for parents.

#1. Stay informed.

#2. Be positive about homework. Tell your child how important school is. The attitude you express about homework will be the attitude your child acquires.

#3. When your child does their homework, you do yours. Show your child that the skills they learn in school are skills they use in their adult life. If your child is reading, you read too. If your child is doing math, balance your checkbook.

#4. Make sure your child has a quiet, well-lit place to do their homework. Avoid having your child do their homework in a room where people are coming and going, or the television is on.

#5. Make sure your child has everything they need before they start: paper, pencils, and dictionary. Have them gather these things in advance so there will be minimal interruptions.

#6. Help them learn time management. Set a time when homework is to be done, don’t let them wait until just before bedtime.

#7. When your child asks for help provide guidance, not the answer! Giving the answer means you child will not learn the material. Giving them the answer teaches them when times get rough someone will be there to do everything for them so why should they do thing for themselves.

#8. Cooperate with the teachers. It shows the child that school and home are a team.

#9. If homework is meant to be done by your child alone, stay away. Too much parental involvement can prevent homework from having some positive effects. Homework is a great way for kids to develop independence and lifelong learning skills.

#10. Help your child figure out what is hard work and what is easy. Have your child do the hard work first; this means they will be most alert when facing the biggest challenges. Easy material will seem to go fast when fatigue begins to set in.

#11. Watch your child for signs of failure and frustration. Let your child take short breaks if she is having trouble keeping her mind on assignments.

#12. Reward progress in homework. If your child has been successful in homework completion and is working hard, celebrate that success with a special event (i.e. pizza, a walk, or a trip to the park) to reinforce the positive effort.

I HAD TO LEARN TO SAY NO!

Since I was 20 years old, every single day of my life someone has given me a sob story as to why they need to borrow money! I used to become emotional to everyone’s situations and over gave. I looked up one day and realized I gave everything I had: energy, finances and love. I saved bare minimal for myself. All those I gave to never gave back nor returned the favor when I was in need.

I finally learned to say no without guilt! And it was just in time because of social media. Social media has amplified the amount of people who not only ask but expect you to give. People have this false sense of entitlement when they know someone from TV. Not only are they entitled to every element of your life, they are also entitled to help you spend your money whether they have met you before or not. Whether it’s for their 10 kids’ school clothes, their rent, attorney fees, gas money, a funeral fund or their wedding. It usually starts with, “I hate to ask this but….” My response in my head is, “Baby, I hate that I am listening.” Deep down, I want to help everyone! For my sanity I have learned I have to help myself. Guard my peace, my finances and my well-being or I am no good for those depending on me.

No comes easy now, I’ve had some practice.

I keep my answers short. NO doesn’t need explanation.

I do NOT second guess myself.

I refuse to let them talk me into something I’m not comfortable doing. People will go on and on as to why you should give them your money.

In my head, I learned to separate refusal from rejection. Sometimes the first no feels sad but I’m not afraid to say it twice. Often, I find my peace in the second yes. Doesn’t mean I don’t sympathize with their situation, it means I am at peace with my choice because it is best for me.

I learned to stay true to myself.

I will not offer my money but what I can afford is prayer. I pray their situation will change and they find abundance of whatever their life is lacking.

FAST FOOD FOR MY KID IS A NO NO

Let’s touch on the topic of fast food. This used to be a treat, now for many it has become a way of life. How did we get so lazy that we would rather go through a drive thru than cook our kids a real meal? I have yet to patron a fast food restaurant that serves a side of broccoli with the kid’s meal. Children need to eat a well-balanced meal since they are growing. It is our job as parents to make sure we keep them as healthy as we can. Do you know food also works with the immune system? If your child gets a cold every time they go outside, maybe you need to change their diet.

When our kids eat refined sugars, such as cookies, sweets, white bread and pop, the food is broken down into glucose. Due to the lack of fiber in these food items, they enter the bloodstream in the form of sugar at a rush speed. Research shows that only 7% of children consume the recommended three to five servings of vegetables and two or more servings of fruit daily. Unfortunately, due to poor nutrition and inactivity, the rate of childhood illnesses such as allergies, obesity, attention-deficit disorder and ear infections are rising dramatically.

MY DAUGHTER DECIDED SHE DIDN’T WANT TO ACT BAD ANYMORE, SO SHE BAPTIZED HERSELF

You read it right. My 4-year-old baptized herself. It seems I don’t get PMS anymore but the week before I start my period, my daughter seems to really have a hard week. Well, after getting punished for talking back during math, saying the answer is, “Eiiiiggght,” real sassy and having a hard day in Taekwondo, we were both happy the day was coming to an end. We started our night time routine by getting her in the bath. At this point, I was quiet and so was she. We were both irritated with one another and ready to go to bed. While soaking, she looked up at me and said, “Mommy, I am ready to wash all my sins away,” very matter of fact. I said, “Oh, okay are you ready to wash up?” I got on my knees in front of the tub ready to assist her washing up. She then said, “NO, MOMMY.  I’ma baptize myself!”  I said, “Oh, okay.” Just like that, she grabbed her nose and dunked her head under water.  When she came up, she had both her hands straight up to the sky, like an old lady in a black church.  She screamed, “My Sins are washed away!” I was in shock and trying everything I could to hold back my laugh. She then looked at me and said, “Nope, I need to do it again.” Lol.  She held her nose and dunked her head, then came up on her knees with her hands once again pointing to the sky. Then she said, “It worked, my sins are gone and from now on Ima be an angel because God lives in me.”

I paused and giggled and said, “Yes, he does boo…yes, he does.”

Smh, just like that I was over it as she was. I giggled and washed her up. She wanted to hug snuggle to sleep so we did…that was days ago and so far, so good. She’s been my angel on earth. Hahahaa.

What it taught me is Baptism is a personal choice, if, when and where is totally up to your children, not you. Lol. I am NOT baptized myself. I’m saving that for the Nile River…but that’s a totally different story about my personal goals.

Not only is being baptized a choice but she has figured out misbehaving is also a choice. Hahahaha.  Aww, 4 years old. One day soon, I’m sure I will miss 4.

POWER OF MANIFESTATION

At the age of 14 if you walked in my room, you would find my walls covered with black and white print ads torn from the pages of a magazine! I wanted to paint my walls black, lol, my mom wasn’t having it so I created my own way! There were a lot of Guess ads with Anna Nicole Smith everywhere and Michael Jordan had a series of Nike ads in Black and White. I became obsessed with magazines. Essence, Black Enterprise, Vogue, Elle, Allure and Cosmopolitan were all subscribed to. Editorials became my favorite. I was holding on to the dream of going to college to major in Architecture and Minor in Journalism. Yes, I was on TV but that wasn’t my dream, it was just what I had fun doing.

I am telling you this story about myself to share with you the power of manifestation. I know, I know, here I go again. Truthfully, I was eating lunch with my brother, Dallas 3 years ago and he said, “Right now, if you could be doing anything you want for a living, what would it be?” I laughed and said, “I want to write for a living full time and be a homeschool mom.” Fast forward 2 years. I am homeschooling and in November 2018, I was promoted from my part time gig at Fever Magazine to a full-time job as Assistant Editor! I manifested that shit and it all started with a teenage passion! I am a creative person and very eccentric. I am kinda like Lynn from Girlfriends, in the sense that doing just 1 thing forever is not my journey or my goal! Acting only did not fulfill me, I needed more. It is an awesome foundation that has given me a platform to stand on to achieve other things. I am not saying I quit acting, I’m saying I am more than an actress. I love setting goals and get a total high off achieving them. I also get a huge high watching others achieve their own goals. That is why I am sharing this story to encourage you to manifest your own reality! Good luck, you got this!

A WALK CAN CHANGE MY WHOLE DAY

If I ever feel down or need to run away, a perfect quick fix for me is a walk. It can be around my neighborhood, through a park or even around the building at Kian Spa. I set aside at least 20 minutes and do nothing but walk.

Sometimes, I take my daughter when the weather is nice. It’s a great way to start our day. Morning walks for me and most of the time, she’s on her scooter or her bike. It’s a great time to bond.  She is only 4 years old but has a clear understanding of her desires and she will let you know if you’re willing to listen. I tend to leave the cell phone at home so our walks are uninterrupted and as peaceful as can be. Since we moved from Los Angeles, I get to take in clean air, appreciate the greenery and the homes around me, while smiling and waving to neighbors.

As I walk, I pay attention to my breathing, the smells, the things I hear and how the air feels on my face. I look around and it helps me realize how many things I am truly grateful for. It reminds me how lucky I am to even have air in my lungs, making my life possible.

Sometimes we get so caught up in our routine that we don’t take the time to simply look around us and be grateful! I never want to get so wrapped up that I forget as long as my family is safe, everyone woke up this morning and my daughter is fed that I am winning. My family is winning.

Gratitude is everything. Did you know it can also strengthen your immune system, better your sleep and focus?

SET YOUR CHILD UP TO SUCCEED

Set Your Child Up To Succeed 

Allow children to accept themselves by showing that you accept who they are, including their strengths and weaknesses. Explore the child’s interests and successes in academics, athletics, and artistic and musical abilities. Use their areas of strength to reinforce their successes, and refrain from comparing siblings to each other.

Empower Your Child 

Convey to children that they will not have to worry about losing the security of their parent’s acceptance, which will encourage them to pursue new tasks and opportunities for self-development. Provide opportunities and projects for them and encourage positive exploration of new subject areas and activities that are of interest to them.

Help Your Child Develop Good Social Skills 

Model and demonstrate basic social skills such as listening, taking turns when speaking, respect, accountability, and appropriate ways to make and maintain friendships. Provide the rationale and necessity for each skill and behavior and ensure understanding of each skill.

Use Language That Builds Self-Esteem 

Speak to children with phrases that build self-esteem, such as, “Thank you for helping” or “That was an excellent idea.” Avoid using negative phrases that decrease self-esteem such as, “How many times have I told you?” or “Why are you so stupid?”

Encourage Your Child To Be A Thinker 

Encourage children to be creative by exploring subject areas or ideas that are fun and interesting. Offer avenues for them to explore their interests, such as field trips to libraries, museums, or bookstores. Talk with your children and take part in their excitement about what they are reading, thinking, and doing.

Have Realistic Expectations and Goals For Your Child

When parents repeatedly expect more than a child can do, they are disappointed again and again, sending a message to the child to be disappointed in himself. Having realistic expectations provides children with a sense of control over themselves, their surroundings, and their future. Children’s development of self-control goes hand-in-hand with self-esteem, which increases as they achieve success when realistic and attainable goals are completed. When children successfully meet the challenges within their phase of self-identity, they become convinced of their self-worth and competence.

Teach Your Child To Delay Gratification 

Explain the importance and feeling of accomplishment when one works towards and completes a specific task or goal. Give recognition, a special privilege, or increased responsibility for a job well done.

Be A Role Model Yourself 

Let your children know that you feel good about yourself and that you can make mistakes and learn from them. Provide numerous opportunities to demonstrate basic judgment and moral values (respect, kindness, sharing), how to display appropriate behavior and interact with others, and how to constructively solve problems when they arise. Set a good example by demonstrating respect to others, to schools, and to yourself.

Show Them They Are Important 

Show your children what they do is important to you. Talk with them daily about their day’s activities, interests, and schoolwork. Attend their athletic events, parent’s day at school, musical concerts, and award ceremonies. Be available to support them and what activities they chose to do.

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN TV ISN’T REAL

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The best thing you can do is teach your child that TV and YouTube are for entertainment ONLY! If you do that, then you don’t have to worry about the MOMO challenge!

I showed the MOMO lady to my 4-year-old and she said, “That lady’s costume is ugly!” I told her the things the lady was telling children to do. Her words back to me were, “Mom, don’t worry. I wouldn’t kill myself, that’s stupid. I will tell you, no matter what anyone says.” I was truthful with her and told her the lady tells kids if they tell their parents, she will show up in their bedroom. My daughter laughed and said she’s not real…

Long story short, teach children fact from fiction and your worries won’t be so high. Growing up on TV I have learned firsthand.  It’s an important lesson a lot of the population does NOT TEACH! Grown adults have difficulties between TV and what’s real. Here is where common sense can be taught, people!