AFMS – TOP TEN POSTS

AFMS is nearly a year old.  In celebration of this milestone, here’s a list of the top ten posts.  How many have you read?

  1. Hair Growth Tips
  2. The Move
  3. We Detox Our Bodies But Forget Our Minds!
  4. Fun Cherie Facts
  5. Yes, My Belly Was Big
  6. First Plane Ride Without Her
  7. How To Survive Your Toxic Family This Holiday Season
  8. Houston, I Am Tryna Come Back
  9. Why I Drink Hot Water
  10. Just Like That I Have A Lil Champions Green Belt

A CONVERSATION BETWEEN SISTAS

A lot of you may know I am homeschooling my 4-year-old daughter. I am not an educator, so I often reach back to my village for advice. Some are moms, others are educators. After having a conversation with Brandy about whether I was going to give spelling test or not our conversation ended like this.

Blue is me. the other is Brandy and I am not being messy. I got her permission before sharing as you can see in post.

 

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Thank you so much, Brandy for making me really think. Ladies, we have to do better! A sista took me to church today!

THE BEGINNING (WHAT HAPPENED WHEN A GOAT BULLIED ME)

In 1975, the Steelers won the Super Bowl 16-6 beating the Minnesota Vikings and Arthur Ashe won Wimbledon. Microsoft became a registered trademark of the Microsoft Corp. The Vietnam War ended, and a loaf of bread was $0.33. The unemployment rate was 5.6% and I was born that November.

I always knew I was different.  You see, in 1977 my mother and I got an official police escort out of the Pittsburgh Zoo. My mom thought it would be fun to take me to the petting zoo. I thought it smelled gross and there was a pesky goat that kept nipping at my shoestrings and that annoyed me to no end. I have always had a shoe fetish and didn’t appreciate that dirty little goat messing up my brand new, fresh blue suede Adidas. First, I yelled at it to stop then pushed it off of me. When the goat persisted in eating my shoelace for lunch, I did what l was taught to do, protect me and mine. I pulled my fist back as far as I could and gave it to the goat right in the dome piece. That’s right! I hit that goat as hard as I could right in the face. When I looked down, I was so upset that my shoelace was all tattered and unraveled that I felt like the goat needed to learn a lesson. I guess I went a little overboard because before I knew it, I was being picked up and kicked out. How embarrassing for my mother. I wasn’t the slightest bit embarrassed. In fact, I was ready to leave because the hot dogs were nasty, it smelled bad, and the popcorn was cold. Also, I had another funny story to go home and tell my brother, Mark and my granddaddy. I skipped all the way out of the zoo while I reassured my mother that we really didn’t want to be at that stinky place anyway. She just laughed while 6 men followed behind us like we needed them to show us where the exit gate was.

Now that I am older, it’s hysterical looking back and realizing that my first real fight was with a goat. Who does that? But that fight was my foundation and stands for so much more than just a tussle over my shoestrings. Fighting is all I know. I have no problem fighting when my personal space is disrespected. I have no problem fighting for things I want. Don’t get wrong, I am not a bully nor do I cause any problems. But if you get in my way, you better watch yourself because we’ve got problems.  Fortunately, you won’t have to watch your back because I will let you know to your face that you are about to get punched in the nose! I believe in giving a warning before I cause destruction. SMH. Sorry, Momma I was hell on wheels, and you are right, I am getting it all back though my daughter! LOL.

HOUSTON, I AM TRYNA COME BACK!

82% of people want to write a book but don’t know where to start! Do you feel you have a book in you? Have you been secretly harboring the dream of writing it down one day? Why wait?

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Are you ready to increase your income and your influence? My team and I are here to help. @inspirebrandconsulting + Tobi Brown are kicking-off a one-day intensive live workshop this summer. First Stop: #Houston.

Go to https://mystorymytimeworkshop.com and sign up for updates. Early Bird registration will open soon. Spaces are limited.

 

LEARN THE BUSINESS OF ACTING

Taking an acting class is great but you also need to learn the Business of Acting, if you seriously want to make it!

  1. Learn to use a sign in sheet and take a good picture
  2. Learn the statistics of an actor
  3. Fill out a size card properly and audition etiquette
  4. Learn categories: leading man/ woman, supporting, day player, etc.
  5. Putting together a resume / bio
  6. The difference between doing TV, Daytime, Film, Commercials, Voiceover, and stage
  7. What to expect on that audition: 1st call, call backs, network
  8. 8.  The crew and their jobs
  9. Set terminology
  10. How to become signatory and the fees
  11. 11Your pay rate and what contract your job falls under, Residuals, Foreign Royalties.
  12. 12.  How to read your contracts
  13. Your course to staying employed
  14. How to be remembered or quickly forgotten by casting directors, and producers
  15. Insider tricks on how to market yourself on a budget

 

If you don’t know these things, your career will only go so far. Lucky for you, I teach these things via the internet. Check out my course the Business of Acting.

I OFTEN WONDER HOW PEOPLE PERCEIVE REALITY

When I lived in California, I had a strange relationship with going out in public. It was just weird. I honestly started to hate it and became a hermit. People think Hollywood is like Disneyland but fail to realize actors are just like Mickey Mouse without a big costume head. Below are 3 conversations that I had with people that flipped the script and turned me into the bad guy.

Fan: “How’s Hollywood?”

Me: Hollywood is built off a story from someone’s mind…. make believe like Disneyland. Fake tits, ass, lips. Fame is given and taken.  It’s all entertainment. The ones not smart enough to realize all this shit’s fake seek a life that will never be real and kill themselves tryna live a life that doesn’t exist.

Fan: “I see you’re in a bad mood.”

Me: “Not at all….”

He walked away mad. LOL

 

Fan Guy 2: “Where’s Brandon?”

Me: “Dude, are you serious?”

Fan Guy 2: “Yeah!”

Me: “Dead.  The show’s been off for 30 years, dude.”

We both just stood there looking at each other. I finally walked away thinking this can’t be my life.  Lord, please NO MORE dumbasses today.

 

This next one happens often and it’s awkward. I hate it.

“What’s it like growing up on TV?”

Me: “I dunno? I don’t have any other life to compare it to.”

Then people get mad like my answer wasn’t good enough, so I have to ask, “Well, what’s it like NOT growing up on TV?”

This question brings more strange looks, like I’m supposed to know. Hahahaha.  I’m not a mean person but I am a real person.  I think the humanization of people who have been on TV is a real conversation more adults need to have with their children because there are some grown ass confused people in the world.

Like not to be mean, but when I’m asked, “Where’s Punky?” or “Where’s Waldo?” do they expect me to pull them outta my pocket? I don’t fucking know? But I’m a bitch if I say that so I say nothing and give them an awkward smile. Then, we can all feel weird together.

Yes, this is a “Fuck my life” moment. Hahaha. Whatever, maybe you will understand, maybe you won’t.

I’M A FORMER CHILD STAR AND I HAVE BEAT ALL ODDS.

I’m a former child star and I have beat all odds. Society has put black women like me in a box. I’m supposed to be a victim with a sob story. Instead I am powerful, strong and vivacious.

I too have had life struggles and heartache but until now I didn’t feel it was necessary to share that part of my personal life.

I am ready to share now because I am tired of women giving up their dreams and falling victim.

I am an example of dreams coming true and when you believe in yourself what can happen. If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will. We need to rebuild our foundations as women and re-evaluate our self-worth, the way we evaluate our material possessions.

We live in a world that is so caught up with material possessions like cars, clothing, and shoes. We are slapped in the face every day with the worth of things we can’t take with us when we die. But many of us don’t know our own self-worth! But can spit out the price to those Christian Louboutin red bottom shoes we feel we need.

Women need to learn it is ok to put ourselves first. It is not a sin to take care of your needs and wants before you take care of anyone else’s.  We have a natural instinct to nurture but fall short when it comes time to nurture ourselves.

I don’t know about you, but I am the most important person in my life. I know I have a daughter but if mommy doesn’t take care of her health, I can’t take care of her. Mentally and physically I have to nurture myself and my self-love, so I can be whole for her. Though I can’t control the things that go on around me I can control myself and my way of thinking. Positive is all I see because positive is all I want to see, and I have time for.

“I’m too wealthy for this!” is something I remind myself every time I find myself in some bullshit that doesn’t make sense. I’m 42 years old now I have to do things that make sense. By me saying this I am not taking about Wealth as an abundance of material possessions, but I am speaking of the valuable resources my life has given me. I have learned that I do not have to settle, and I do deserve the best. I have also learned that I can lead my life down certain paths, but I don’t control it. The Universe and God does, and every day of my life is a gift, a gift he gives me as his child. My time spent here on earth is not just about me but it’s about what I can do to better myself and what’s around me. I get everything I ask for.  I believe you speak positive and positive things will happen. Try it for yourself say nothing negative for 30 days and see how your life changes. I dare you! I believe in Karma and what you put out into the world is what you get back.