GRATEFUL

Never in a million years did I imagine me and this hottie would be working together again! What a complete gift from God! Thank you, Universe, and thank you All Of OUR PUNKY FRIENDS who have grown up with us! What an amazing opportunity you have given us…we are overwhelmed with emotions. I have cried 2 million happy tears. I am praying for at least 5 seasons and I know we can do it with your help. Punky became a culture for many, taught empathy and life lessons to all of us.

Soleil and I are both parents, so we are on a journey to give the same to our children, not in a corny way! Times have changed. I am so excited to embody the character of “Cherie!” I have faith you will love us as women. We are us; we are strong and powerful and we will make life happen in our own bubble. 

To be able to return to the BEST experience in my life is a true gift! I am treasuring every moment on the set. Soleil is the most pure, kind hearted person I’ve ever met in my life so to be able to hold my homie’s hand again at work is a true gift.

My have times changed. In the 80s, the network used to be 3-5 middle aged white men in suits who didn’t smile. UCP came down to watch our table reading and it was the most amazing thing I’ve ever seen. Imagine around 40 people and 90 percent are women ages 20-50 and the room was All Diverse! It was the most amazingly beautiful “Girl Power” thing I’ve ever seen! Different walks of life, different ethnic backgrounds ALL POWERFUL women champion to get this Punky Pilot done! This is real PUNKY POWER! 

To be continued 2020…

“TAKE THAT MAKEUP OFF, GIVE THE HORSE BACK ITS HAIR! “

I was told by men I looked up to and adore, “TAKE THAT MAKEUP OFFGIVE THE HORSE BACK ITS HAIR! “

I grew up in a time when men invested time loving women they weren’t trying to sleep with! I feel really sorry for a whole generation of young girls. Men no longer do that. They won’t tell you they aren’t into the lacefronts and fake eyelashes, instead they laugh at these young women behind their backs but pump them up in their faces and make them think they look good. They try to play hard and act like they don’t care but low-key get they’re dissing young girls after they use them at their convenience. 

I am very lucky and blessed. Men took time out of their day to let me know I was beautiful and “perfectly imperfect, but just the way GOD made me.” I was enough. They made sure I loved myself before I was thrown to the wolves of the dating pool where boys play on girls’ self-esteem every chance they get. I was told by men who supposedly loved me I needed my ass done and another offered to pay for me to have a boob job. But these fake loves were too late! I was already warned about their kind.

My first boyfriend, Victor Carrillo told me, “Stop flat ironing your hair, your curls are beautiful. Thank you, Mookie.

I already had a platonic, successful male friend who wrote me a 4-page letter about how I never needed to alter my body because I was perfect. Thank you, Najeh Davenport! It was a small gesture of love to him, but I’ve carried it with me through life!

“Take that dead puppy off your head!”, said Antwon Tanner about my fake bangs before we left the house. Thank you, Brother! LOL  

“You look like a geisha girl, take that shit off your face!” said Dr. Dre. LOL, I did have on a lot of makeup. I just got off work, LOL. Mel-Man then told me to go put some real clothes on. LOL, I was young and had too much hanging out, LOL. But I thought I was doing it. My body was banging.

Just thinking back at it makes me giggle! I love these men and hold them close to my heart. 

Luther Campbell confessed to me one night when I was about 18 years old that he wasn’t attracted to what he has built his character around. Look who he married, a conservative, beautiful lawyer…. I’m not name dropping, instead I’m sharing names of men who helped me become the woman I am now, who many of you admire as well. These men were real friends to me. Along with many others, they helped teach me I WAS ENOUGH. Once you love yourself, nobody can take that from you or have you thinking less of yourself and you damn sure won’t settle for less.

I hope some young men who read this are encouraged to take some young girls under their wings and show them genuine love before fake love is all in their faces.

This is what MEN LEAD THEIR FAMILIES means. It’s a man’s duty to PROVIDE, PROFESS and PROTECT! Provide isn’t always about money, it’s a safe place, it’s providing confidence and it’s about providing security of one’s heart! Profess that young men have some knowledge to offer. Protect isn’t about fighting but also about teaching to protect the heart. Love enough to protect women from you and themselves.

56% of women are dissatisfied with their overall appearance! That’s over half the women in this world. Ladies stop looking towards your female friends for advice and ask a male homie. If you don’t have platonic friendships with straight men, GO GET YOU A MANISH GAY BESTIE, he will get you right!

Advice I’ve gotten from women about my appearance was: change it up, get some tracks or a full weave, I should get a nose job, I should botox or laser the winkles in my forehead, my laugh lines should be filled in and put stuff in my hair to loosen my curls or make it straight chemically so it won’t curl anymore. I always was too skinny or too thick. (Imagine if I’da listened) This was advice from family members and people who supposedly love me! Not random friends.

We have to teach our daughters to LOVE THEMSELVES the way they are! I pray my daughter is surrounded with the genuine love and friendship I was blessed to encounter growing up. That positive male energy is needed! Mom & Dad’s word isn’t enough, it takes a village! I feel sad for every woman who didn’t grow up with it. It shows…

LIL CHERIE DRESSES HERSELF NOW HAS A UNIT TO GO WITH THE BOOK!

I wrote Lil Cherie Dresses Herself because I wanted my daughter to be able to see her own likeness in a book. Being a homeschooling momma, of course we don’t just read books, we turn them into adventures and units. With the book being bilingual, it’s full of lessons. So, about a year ago, after my daughter and I played with the book for a while I got the bright idea to develop some worksheets and make a unit around some of the ways I had used the book to teach my own daughter. Only thing is, I am not a certified teacher and wasn’t 100% sure if what I had taught was correct. Also, computers are not my thing, so the project was basically put on the back burner until one day I was having a conversation with a lifelong friend and confidant who just so happens to be a teacher! DUHHHHHH, Cherie! The teacher overseeing my daughter’s homeschool education.

It started with a casual question. “Do you know how to make worksheets?” Cherie asked me, almost hesitantly. I laughed to myself as I answered because as a teacher for over 15 years, I’ve made a lot of worksheets. To make sure we were on the same page, I emailed some old worksheets to Cherie.  Her next question was more specific, “Can you make boxes on worksheets?” she asked. After some sketching of ideas and a chat, we felt we were talking about the same idea and I started on the worksheet that required boxes. I quickly emailed the rough draft to Cherie, who confirmed that those were, indeed, the type of boxes she had been picturing. One idea at a time, one page at a time, with each chat and every ongoing email, we began to create a noticeable pile of worksheets to go with Cherie’s children’s book, Lil Cherie Dresses Herself. Suddenly, we had something to share! 

We have created a homeschool curriculum pack designed to be used with Lil Cherie Dresses Herself, but flexible enough to change up and use in other ways and with others texts. The curriculum is primarily used by students in Pre-K to grade 2 and again it is flexible – we encourage families and educators to make any adjustments necessary for the curriculum to best fit your learners! 

If you want help with Lil Cherie Dresses Herself Curriculum or have other education related questions, please email us at Lilcheriehelps@gmail.com

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AFMS – TOP TEN POSTS

AFMS is nearly a year old.  In celebration of this milestone, here’s a list of the top ten posts.  How many have you read?

  1. Hair Growth Tips
  2. The Move
  3. We Detox Our Bodies But Forget Our Minds!
  4. Fun Cherie Facts
  5. Yes, My Belly Was Big
  6. First Plane Ride Without Her
  7. How To Survive Your Toxic Family This Holiday Season
  8. Houston, I Am Tryna Come Back
  9. Why I Drink Hot Water
  10. Just Like That I Have A Lil Champions Green Belt

A CONVERSATION BETWEEN SISTAS

A lot of you may know I am homeschooling my 4-year-old daughter. I am not an educator, so I often reach back to my village for advice. Some are moms, others are educators. After having a conversation with Brandy about whether I was going to give spelling test or not our conversation ended like this.

Blue is me. the other is Brandy and I am not being messy. I got her permission before sharing as you can see in post.

 

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Thank you so much, Brandy for making me really think. Ladies, we have to do better! A sista took me to church today!

THE BEGINNING (WHAT HAPPENED WHEN A GOAT BULLIED ME)

In 1975, the Steelers won the Super Bowl 16-6 beating the Minnesota Vikings and Arthur Ashe won Wimbledon. Microsoft became a registered trademark of the Microsoft Corp. The Vietnam War ended, and a loaf of bread was $0.33. The unemployment rate was 5.6% and I was born that November.

I always knew I was different.  You see, in 1977 my mother and I got an official police escort out of the Pittsburgh Zoo. My mom thought it would be fun to take me to the petting zoo. I thought it smelled gross and there was a pesky goat that kept nipping at my shoestrings and that annoyed me to no end. I have always had a shoe fetish and didn’t appreciate that dirty little goat messing up my brand new, fresh blue suede Adidas. First, I yelled at it to stop then pushed it off of me. When the goat persisted in eating my shoelace for lunch, I did what l was taught to do, protect me and mine. I pulled my fist back as far as I could and gave it to the goat right in the dome piece. That’s right! I hit that goat as hard as I could right in the face. When I looked down, I was so upset that my shoelace was all tattered and unraveled that I felt like the goat needed to learn a lesson. I guess I went a little overboard because before I knew it, I was being picked up and kicked out. How embarrassing for my mother. I wasn’t the slightest bit embarrassed. In fact, I was ready to leave because the hot dogs were nasty, it smelled bad, and the popcorn was cold. Also, I had another funny story to go home and tell my brother, Mark and my granddaddy. I skipped all the way out of the zoo while I reassured my mother that we really didn’t want to be at that stinky place anyway. She just laughed while 6 men followed behind us like we needed them to show us where the exit gate was.

Now that I am older, it’s hysterical looking back and realizing that my first real fight was with a goat. Who does that? But that fight was my foundation and stands for so much more than just a tussle over my shoestrings. Fighting is all I know. I have no problem fighting when my personal space is disrespected. I have no problem fighting for things I want. Don’t get wrong, I am not a bully nor do I cause any problems. But if you get in my way, you better watch yourself because we’ve got problems.  Fortunately, you won’t have to watch your back because I will let you know to your face that you are about to get punched in the nose! I believe in giving a warning before I cause destruction. SMH. Sorry, Momma I was hell on wheels, and you are right, I am getting it all back though my daughter! LOL.

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LEARN THE BUSINESS OF ACTING

Taking an acting class is great but you also need to learn the Business of Acting, if you seriously want to make it!

  1. Learn to use a sign in sheet and take a good picture
  2. Learn the statistics of an actor
  3. Fill out a size card properly and audition etiquette
  4. Learn categories: leading man/ woman, supporting, day player, etc.
  5. Putting together a resume / bio
  6. The difference between doing TV, Daytime, Film, Commercials, Voiceover, and stage
  7. What to expect on that audition: 1st call, call backs, network
  8. 8.  The crew and their jobs
  9. Set terminology
  10. How to become signatory and the fees
  11. 11Your pay rate and what contract your job falls under, Residuals, Foreign Royalties.
  12. 12.  How to read your contracts
  13. Your course to staying employed
  14. How to be remembered or quickly forgotten by casting directors, and producers
  15. Insider tricks on how to market yourself on a budget

 

If you don’t know these things, your career will only go so far. Lucky for you, I teach these things via the internet. Check out my course the Business of Acting.

I OFTEN WONDER HOW PEOPLE PERCEIVE REALITY

When I lived in California, I had a strange relationship with going out in public. It was just weird. I honestly started to hate it and became a hermit. People think Hollywood is like Disneyland but fail to realize actors are just like Mickey Mouse without a big costume head. Below are 3 conversations that I had with people that flipped the script and turned me into the bad guy.

Fan: “How’s Hollywood?”

Me: Hollywood is built off a story from someone’s mind…. make believe like Disneyland. Fake tits, ass, lips. Fame is given and taken.  It’s all entertainment. The ones not smart enough to realize all this shit’s fake seek a life that will never be real and kill themselves tryna live a life that doesn’t exist.

Fan: “I see you’re in a bad mood.”

Me: “Not at all….”

He walked away mad. LOL

 

Fan Guy 2: “Where’s Brandon?”

Me: “Dude, are you serious?”

Fan Guy 2: “Yeah!”

Me: “Dead.  The show’s been off for 30 years, dude.”

We both just stood there looking at each other. I finally walked away thinking this can’t be my life.  Lord, please NO MORE dumbasses today.

 

This next one happens often and it’s awkward. I hate it.

“What’s it like growing up on TV?”

Me: “I dunno? I don’t have any other life to compare it to.”

Then people get mad like my answer wasn’t good enough, so I have to ask, “Well, what’s it like NOT growing up on TV?”

This question brings more strange looks, like I’m supposed to know. Hahahaha.  I’m not a mean person but I am a real person.  I think the humanization of people who have been on TV is a real conversation more adults need to have with their children because there are some grown ass confused people in the world.

Like not to be mean, but when I’m asked, “Where’s Punky?” or “Where’s Waldo?” do they expect me to pull them outta my pocket? I don’t fucking know? But I’m a bitch if I say that so I say nothing and give them an awkward smile. Then, we can all feel weird together.

Yes, this is a “Fuck my life” moment. Hahaha. Whatever, maybe you will understand, maybe you won’t.