When I say this many people around me take it wrong, they think I’m not happy. I am very happy, but I am one of those people who is not satisfied or willing to settle in my life. I don’t know that I will ever be satisfied. There are 1000 things I have yet to accomplish. Yes, my list is long, I have goals and aspirations I’ve yet to even explore.
Satisfied Vs. Happy
Happiness is a state of mind, while satisfaction is the absence of want.
Now material things don’t satisfy me, and they are not my goal. I get off accomplishing my dreams. People try to tell me I’ve accomplished enough. They constantly remind me of my past, while I appreciate my journey and the fact it’s remembered, the point they missed it’s not about what anyone else thinks or feels about me. It’s what I have personally lined up for myself in my head. Entertainment is not my only goal, believe it or not, there is more to me. I understand most of you know my characters, but you don’t know my character. I dream bigger than the smoke and mirrors of Hollywood.
I’m attracted to ambition and accomplishing things I put on my to do list! I get a high manifesting my future. See, I realized early in my life I control my destiny and no other soul can stop me from my goals but me.
Some people don’t achieve their goals because they are surrounded by people who never completed theirs. The easiest way for me to get ghost on someone is for them to doubt me, not be ambitious themselves or for them to be complacent.
They say you become the closest 5 people to you. With that said, I purged a lot of people. I refuse to be the smartest in the room. I surround myself with people who are able to teach me something. People who add to my life, people who breath energy into me. We all need to find those types… Dream big people, your thoughts become realities!
When you want things
in your life to change, the first thing you need to do is look at yourself. I
can’t change others, but I can change the way I deal with them. I know
instead of complaining about things I want to change; I must change myself.
I am not great with
technology! It’s just not my strong point and I have been overwhelmed trying to
learn different apps and programs for the different business ventures I have. I
will take some time to master some and others I will have to learn to decline
simply because it ends up costing me wasted time and in the end my time is
money. (It’s okay to decline doing things especially when it doesn’t pay you).
I am anal when it
comes to time because it’s the only thing I can’t get back. I will give people
a 10-minute grace period and then I will be over it. I will stop working around
everyone else’s schedule and stick to my own. (Some people have no respect for
other people’s time and when you constantly inconvenience yourself for them
instead of them appreciating it and trying harder to be on time…they figure
it’s okay and they continue to treat you that way.) “Teach people how to treat
you,” they say, so I will do! If after 10 minutes and there’s a no show, I’m
out! Reschedule may or may NOT happen, depending on how convenient it is for
me. Period with NO explanations.
I need to say “NO”
more and Will! I continue to find myself doing things other people want
me to that I have absolutely no interest in. My goals are plentiful so when
female friends wanna have “hangout time,” it cuts into time when I could
actually be working on one of my goals. Hanging out, visiting and girl chatting
is so not my interest and I’m not tryna be mean, it just doesn’t help me
complete my goals. The needy friends will be pissed but the solids who will be
around in 10 years will understand and want to see me meet my goals. Which
leads me to learning to unplug!! My cell phone will NOT be my 3rd hand in 2020.
I will give myself business hours and respond to people when it’s convenient
to. If they have to wait for a reply, that’s okay. Every business has on and
off hours. I deserve to as well. (Self-care) It will also give me time to look
in my baby’s eyes more often.
Lastly, but most
importantly, I have a 5-year-old. Keeping to a schedule is key! If I want her
asleep by 8 p.m., I know I have to have dinner ready on time. Which means I
need to start meal prepping and learn how to make some crock pot meals.
Pinterest, here I come….
If you have any great
kid friendly Crock Pot recipes, please share some Advice with Your Sista!?!
I don’t believe in New
Year’s resolutions ever since my life coach, Tobi explained to me that only 8%
of people ever keep them. What I do believe is writing goals down and having a
vision board. That is something that I do every single year. There might be one
or two goals that I haven’t accomplished throughout the years. For the most
part, everything I write down I achieve.
I still don’t have a
voice like Mariah Carey. I didn’t make money doing music like Rihanna but let’s
face it, I always knew that I sounded more like J. Lo. But I didn’t achieve
record sells like her either. Lol. Sometimes, you really have to be truthful
with yourself, life is about manifestation. You truly can get out of life
anything you can visualize. I never really visualize myself getting a Grammy. I
just wanted to be a one hit wonder!
I would love to hear about your goals for 2020, to see some of your vision boards and for you to check out this awesome book. Sorry fellas, this book was written for the ladies and it’s called Girl You’ve Got This. It’s a vision board journal and a planner for women written by Dr. Jaclyn Walker. She owns her own consulting firm, Glamour Prestige. Her product line allows her to help people from all walks of life set goals, dreams and visions through vision board party workshops or do it yourself kits. In addition, she recently added author to her repertoire, as she released a book that she co-authored with five of her sisters.
The book is really worth checking out and it’s the perfect after Christmas present to get for yourself. You can find the book on Amazon or through https://www.glamourprestige.net/products .
At the age of 14 if you walked in my room, you would find my walls covered with black and white print ads torn from the pages of a magazine! I wanted to paint my walls black, lol, my mom wasn’t having it so I created my own way! There were a lot of Guess ads with Anna Nicole Smith everywhere and Michael Jordan had a series of Nike ads in Black and White. I became obsessed with magazines. Essence, Black Enterprise, Vogue, Elle, Allure and Cosmopolitan were all subscribed to. Editorials became my favorite. I was holding on to the dream of going to college to major in Architecture and Minor in Journalism. Yes, I was on TV but that wasn’t my dream, it was just what I had fun doing.
I am telling you this story about myself to share with you the power of manifestation. I know, I know, here I go again. Truthfully, I was eating lunch with my brother, Dallas 3 years ago and he said, “Right now, if you could be doing anything you want for a living, what would it be?” I laughed and said, “I want to write for a living full time and be a homeschool mom.” Fast forward 2 years. I am homeschooling and in November 2018, I was promoted from my part time gig at Fever Magazine to a full-time job as Assistant Editor! I manifested that shit and it all started with a teenage passion! I am a creative person and very eccentric. I am kinda like Lynn from Girlfriends, in the sense that doing just 1 thing forever is not my journey or my goal! Acting only did not fulfill me, I needed more. It is an awesome foundation that has given me a platform to stand on to achieve other things. I am not saying I quit acting, I’m saying I am more than an actress. I love setting goals and get a total high off achieving them. I also get a huge high watching others achieve their own goals. That is why I am sharing this story to encourage you to manifest your own reality! Good luck, you got this!