THE BLACK REALITY

Having a casual conversation about a family road trip hurt my heart. My man and I were talking about all the things we want to do after Covid and one of them was to go back to Disneyworld. Then, driving from Disneyworld to Atlanta, Georgia and we/he decided it was probably just safer to fly. Not because of car accidents because we didn’t want to deal with the trauma of the police.

Me: I’d rather leave early in the morning, babe. I don’t wanna be on the road late at night. It just makes me nervous to be on that back road with Rhythm in the car.

My Man: Yeah, I understand, and it makes it worse to have me in the car with you.

This is when my heart sank to my feet! The White reality is having a man with you is supposed to bring a sense of safety and more security to your family! For a Black family who simply wants to take vacation and go to Disneyworld, it’s a risk factor! Here is where my attitude kicked in.

Me: “Fuck Disneyworld and Fuck Georgia, we have been to both of them before. I don’t even wanna go.”

My Man: “Naw babe, don’t get like that. We can just fly to Georgia after, so it won’t be a problem.”

He’s so sweet and calm and such a peacemaker. Meanwhile, we can just go to Disneyland call it a day and save all the travel money all together. I’m now mad as hell and pissed off and hurt. Hurt for him because he can’t bring comfort to his family by being in the car. My White friends, please read this again! This right here is NOT okay! 

People wonder why Black women seem to have an attitude problem. We harbor so much hurt and disappointment, not just for ourselves, but the ones we love most. The men in our lives who simply want to live but are in constant fear. Our children who aren’t even aware of the dangers ahead every time they leave the house simply because of the color of their skin!  You would walk around looking pissed off too if the Black experience was your damn reality every time you left the house. 

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THE COOK OUT CONVERSATION OF 2020

I want to give a sincere thank you to all my white friends and family who have a jump and have no problem speaking up about the injustice that’s going on in the world. We see you; we appreciate you. 

The ones who are being silent, trying to pretend like they’re invisible because the conversation is uncomfortable: ignoring problems doesn’t make them go away it only makes them bigger. Black people do not have the power to stop racism. All you who choose to be silent and do nothing, because you refuse to speak up the cycle continues. 

So just as black friends have made mental notes of those who stand with them, we’ve also made mental notes of all who have stayed silent and of all the “All lives matter” and “Blue lives matters,” as well…..Just know we see you! I said what I said, no need to defend yourself or speak up now. Maybe go look in the mirror or have a hard talk with your children, not me. Black families are forced to explain racism to children before they even start school. (The luxury of not having to do so is privilege.)

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