Christmas season is a happy, joyous time for those who are happy. Please check on your friends who have suffered major loss this year. The death of a love one is not easy to heal from, if you ever heal at all. Something about the holidays sparks up those feelings and reopens wounds like you just lost them yesterday. Depression sets in, as the world we once knew is majorly different. Loneliness sets in and the realization that they are not coming back hits hard. Stress brings on anxiety and it becomes a hard cycle to battle.

Since Christmas is about joy and love, this is a great time to reach out and just let them know they are not alone. Invite them to Christmas dinner or just lend them an ear and a warm hug. A simple smile and a warm hug go a long way with someone battling depression.

64% of people who suffer from mental illness report that the holidays make their condition worse.

Help your friends create new memories to hold onto, so they aren’t stuck just thinking of the old ones.

Also, self-care gifts can do amazing things for the ones busy taking care of everyone else but themselves.

*For those who are suffering, you are not alone. Help is available. Speak with a counselor today: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 24 hours a day. 1-800-273-8255


This week my energy has been totally off! I was not out protesting, but I was on the phone calling the White House, the police stations and the General Attorney’s Office. I am mentally and physically exhausted.

My inbox was full of slick remarks from people who claimed to be “Punky Fans,” but musta forgot I’m the Black friend, then wanted to play victim when I cussed their ass out! (I know I should just ignore them, you guys tell me all the time, but then it festers in me and makes me feel worse. Getting it out keeps me mentally healthy.) 

My daughter felt the tension no matter how hard I tried to hide it! She decided she was going to take charge and change the narrative of my day! She was going to have me do some yoga, exercises, and then meditation! 

I giggled as I realized children have so much common sense! She was reminding me how important self-care is. Even though she doesn’t understand everything that’s going on at 5 years old, she still understands at times we need to step back and take care of self because stress kills! 

They say it’s a parents job to take care of children BUT these children really take care of us! It’s hard to hide the truth from children, but as parents it’s our duty to keep the energy healthy for them!