CONFESSION: I PREFER MALE FRIENDS

I have heard a lot of people say women need to hang out with women. Women have no business having male friends. That’s crazy to me because the majority of my friends are male! I’ve been told I must have issues, hahaaha. Obviously, I do. We all do. While that may be true, I have lifelong female friends but everyone who knows me knows I prefer my male friends, and this is why……

I don’t have to pay for my male friends to do shit! (Not food or drinks or buying them gas or paying for a plane ticket)

My male friends help me make money! My female friends help me spend it! (With the exception of one.) 

My male friends don’t keep tabs on our friendship.

There’s no expectations and they don’t make me feel like a bad person because I haven’t called! (I have shit to do. I dunno how women have all kinda free time to talk about NOTHING.)

I don’t wanna talk about NOTHING! I don’t like talking on the phone!

I’m 44 years old, I don’t do sleepovers. Was never really into them, it’s weird. I like my own space. Even outa town like I’m grown. No, I don’t wanna share a hotel room! 

I only wanna go to the bathroom when I have to pee I don’t wanna go to the bathroom because you have to pee. Like you can do it without me right?

My male friends don’t wanna borrow my clothes! 

They don’t wanna do my hair!

They don’t wanna do my makeup!

(I only do my hair and makeup when I have to work, I don’t enjoy it)

My male friends are satisfied with the way they look! Females are so unsatisfied with themselves they always tryna convince me what I need to get done too. (GTFOH) I don’t even wanna comb my hair! 

I really don’t give a shit what he or she said. Honestly, I don’t care! 

Males attitudes are consistently the same! You can answer the phone for a woman at 12 p.m. and she will call u back at 3 p.m. and be a whole different person with a whole different attitude. Women are highly emotional, and I tend to be a empath so my energy can’t take it. Women suck my energy dry and I’m exhausted and need a nap when they finally shut up.

I personally prefer rationality over emotions and I’m not good with neediness. 

Watch, a lot of women will be butt hurt by this blog! It’s a blog and I don’t even know you… why you mad? 

(Ima go sit in the corner with the guys and laugh. They’re happy.) 

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I LIVE WITH A SENSE OF URGENCY

I live with a sense of urgency; everything is right now!

Nothing can wait…everything must be done right now. There’s no go with the flow, I create my own. It’s 0 -100 all the time. Yes, it gets on my own nerves. It’s not that Ima afraid tomorrow won’t come because I know it’s coming faster than I’d like it to be here. I live with a passion and a purpose. I never want to do just enough to get by. My passion and purpose seem like controlling and pushy to people who can’t understand. I myself am living on purpose for a purpose. I have things to do and many goals to complete. My list stays full because as soon as I check one off my list, I’ve added ten more. It’s who I am. I’ve learned to embrace it.  It’s just a part of me. I don’t know how to be comfortable or satisfied. 

I’m satisfied with myself, but I know my potential and I have yet to reach it. So, I have work to do.

I push for things to happen and I control my life to make it happen, because I have manifested it already. I’ve seen it and plotted it out in my head at least 100 times. (Yes, everything, even this blog. Thought about it for 3 days before I’m actually writing it.) Not sure of the purpose yet and why I feel the urge to share but I’m sure I will find that out later.

Hit the ground running. Stop and take water breaks while manifesting your next step. Sure, it’s exhausting at times, but I woke up at 3 a.m., with a purpose, Lol. I needed to start my day by writing you this. Good morning and good luck achieving your dreams. Don’t worry if everyone around you doubts you. Believe in yourself and create your own way! (It’s okay, be passionate, be pushy! Get what you want outa life) Live with urgency! Yes, it’s exhausting but it’s worth it!

ACCOUNTABILITY TO REDUCE MY STRESS

When you want things in your life to change, the first thing you need to do is look at yourself. I can’t change others, but I can change the way I deal with them. I know instead of complaining about things I want to change; I must change myself.

I am not great with technology! It’s just not my strong point and I have been overwhelmed trying to learn different apps and programs for the different business ventures I have. I will take some time to master some and others I will have to learn to decline simply because it ends up costing me wasted time and in the end my time is money. (It’s okay to decline doing things especially when it doesn’t pay you).

I am anal when it comes to time because it’s the only thing I can’t get back. I will give people a 10-minute grace period and then I will be over it. I will stop working around everyone else’s schedule and stick to my own. (Some people have no respect for other people’s time and when you constantly inconvenience yourself for them instead of them appreciating it and trying harder to be on time…they figure it’s okay and they continue to treat you that way.) “Teach people how to treat you,” they say, so I will do! If after 10 minutes and there’s a no show, I’m out! Reschedule may or may NOT happen, depending on how convenient it is for me.  Period with NO explanations.

I need to say “NO” more and Will!  I continue to find myself doing things other people want me to that I have absolutely no interest in. My goals are plentiful so when female friends wanna have “hangout time,” it cuts into time when I could actually be working on one of my goals. Hanging out, visiting and girl chatting is so not my interest and I’m not tryna be mean, it just doesn’t help me complete my goals. The needy friends will be pissed but the solids who will be around in 10 years will understand and want to see me meet my goals. Which leads me to learning to unplug!! My cell phone will NOT be my 3rd hand in 2020. I will give myself business hours and respond to people when it’s convenient to. If they have to wait for a reply, that’s okay. Every business has on and off hours. I deserve to as well. (Self-care) It will also give me time to look in my baby’s eyes more often. 

Lastly, but most importantly, I have a 5-year-old. Keeping to a schedule is key! If I want her asleep by 8 p.m., I know I have to have dinner ready on time. Which means I need to start meal prepping and learn how to make some crock pot meals. Pinterest, here I come….

If you have any great kid friendly Crock Pot recipes, please share some Advice with Your Sista!?!

I DON’T BELIEVE IN NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS

I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions ever since my life coach, Tobi explained to me that only 8% of people ever keep them. What I do believe is writing goals down and having a vision board. That is something that I do every single year. There might be one or two goals that I haven’t accomplished throughout the years. For the most part, everything I write down I achieve. 

I still don’t have a voice like Mariah Carey. I didn’t make money doing music like Rihanna but let’s face it, I always knew that I sounded more like J. Lo. But I didn’t achieve record sells like her either. Lol. Sometimes, you really have to be truthful with yourself, life is about manifestation. You truly can get out of life anything you can visualize. I never really visualize myself getting a Grammy. I just wanted to be a one hit wonder!

I would love to hear about your goals for 2020, to see some of your vision boards and for you to check out this awesome book. Sorry fellas, this book was written for the ladies and it’s called Girl You’ve Got This. It’s a vision board journal and a planner for women written by Dr. Jaclyn Walker. She owns her own consulting firm, Glamour Prestige. Her product line allows her to help people from all walks of life set goals, dreams and visions through vision board party workshops or do it yourself kits. In addition, she recently added author to her repertoire, as she released a book that she co-authored with five of her sisters.

The book is really worth checking out and it’s the perfect after Christmas present to get for yourself. You can find the book on Amazon or through https://www.glamourprestige.net/products .

PEOPLE DON’T REALIZE HOW SUGAR AFFECTS THE BODY!

120-ounce bottle of soda contains 65 grams of sugar. That’s pretty much equivalent to 16 packets of sugar and it affects your entire body: your brain, your heart, your liver and your joints. 

Sugar releases endorphins which is a good chemical, but it triggers sugar cravings that can definitely affect your mood.

People who have a diet high in sugar also leads to having a bad heart. Too much sugar makes your insulin levels go high, increasing the risk of heart disease overtime.

Oh, it affects your liver as well. Sugar takes a toll because the quick sugar load causes a fast riding blood sugar that overwhelms the liver and leads to a fatty liver and could lead to you battling cirrhosis overtime.

If you suffer from joint pain, it could be inflammation from eating too much sugar, which leads to vigorous joint pain and eventually arthritis.

If you suffer from any of those things or are you just eat an abundance of sugar, it’s never too late to try to turn around the affects. Think about an all-natural detox with Team Cherie J. It could do your body some good, especially in the long run.

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WHAT’S IN YOUR CHILD’S CHRISTMAS STOCKING?

I have a rule everything that goes in has to be $5 or less…

For some reason my daughter has this stocking that is huge! It was cute the first couple of years now, not so much! The thing comes up to my waistline. I love the way it looks when it stands up, so I like to fill it all the way to the top! I also believe in her stocking being filled with things she will actually use or play with. So, this year here is the list!

1. Gloves with her initials on it from Journeys

2. Lip gloss on sale at Walmart 

3. Makeup kit with lip gloss and eyes on sale at Walmart 

4. A Caboodle (Do u remember those? It’s like a fishing tackle kit for makeup.)

5. Ponytail holders from the dollar store

6. Singing JO JO Siwa toothbrushes from 5Below

7. 2 Mini Barbies from Walmart 

8. 2 of those $5 Barbies from Walmart

9. Piggy paint nail polish from Walmart 

10. Underwear that were on sale at Journeys 

11. Toms Toothpaste

12. Play-doh from the Dollar Tree

13. Propane pig Play-doh molding kit from 5Below

14. Mr. bubbles foam spray twin pack from Target

15. Bubble gum

16. Candy 

17. Bath paints (I’m sure I will hate myself later.)

18. Bath crayons

19.  Key chains 

20. Gift card for ice cream

21. Wallet

22. Glow sticks from Dollar Tree

Good luck finishing your Christmas shopping and don’t forget those stockings! 

THIS WAS MY DEFINITION OF BEAUTIFUL GROWING UP!

This was my definition of beautiful growing up! All-natural, beautiful brown skinned woman with no implants, weaves or blond hair! When I was 10 years old my Mom bought me this tape to listen to on our long plane trip to Finland. It was on repeat on my Walkman the whole way. I thought Whitney was gorgeous and I still do today. We are our daughters’ first teachers! Please be cautious that little girls take notes and want to look like the women they admire! I love myself because my mother LOVES HERSELF! 

I’m perfectly imperfected and I love myself that way! My ass is small has stretch marks, my waist has spread with my age, my boobs aren’t as firm or as high as there were years ago. I have adult acne but it’s OK it’s Me!

Ladies, please teach your daughters they are beautiful and to love themselves! We don’t need any more Black blonds bleaching their skin with butt implants and boobs running around! Women are DYING literally trying to look like they are on a music video. Teach your daughters in 2020 to have higher goals for themselves than to be some rapper’s arm candy or a pole dancer, please. 

I am fully aware that my child will be a little sponge, and all be damn, will think whatever skin color or hair texture they come out with is less than perfect! The generation before me has some major self-hate they have done their best to pass down. When will you put a stop to it in your family? It stops with me and my daughter was removed from the environment where she would be told that she was less than perfect because of her skin color or her hair! Melanin is popping, people are paying for it!  💲But that’s a whole different post. Love the skin you’re in! 👊

SHE DID IT!

This weekend was full of excitement. Our little girl was invited to test for her black belt in Taekwondo! While she was pretty cool looking, she was calm and collected when she told me that morning that she was a little nervous. I busted out in a sweat! I started eating candy and I was a nervous wreck. (I don’t even eat candy.)

All awhile telling my little girl, “You are ready for this, you have been practicing and as long as you are prepared, there is no reason to be nervous. I will be right there, and I believe in you.” 

Her father told her to enjoy herself and she got this, and we all love her.

Her grandmother told her, “You got this girl! Don’t be nervous.”

She walked in the Dojo, bowed and went straight on the mat to meditate. 

My 5-year-old baby was meditating. I was proud but my heart was pounding. We were all sitting there and her Masters came up and greeted us with huge smiles. This was her first real testing with big kids. The kids there ranged from about 8-15 years old. They were all testing for different belts and of course they were from what my daughter calls “THE BIG KIDS’ CLASS”. She was the only student who tested from the Little Champions Program.

Her testing lasted 2.5 hours. After they warmed up, she was called to the table to preform her Form – Chung Gi. This is when I started to calm down, she nailed it! Her cheering section was full of smiles as we watched a higher rank testing with her watching her to make sure they were doing things correctly.

Her one steps were flawless, she landed her kicks and her punches! She broke the board. She also counted to 10 in Korean and knew all her Korean vocabulary. She wrote her essay…she did it! 

SHE GOT HER LITTLE CHAMPIONS BLACK BELT!

Grandma was crying! 

Her Daddy was screaming KIA! 

I could finally breathe, hahahaha.

Her Determination, her Focus and her Fierceness will take her a long way! She is off to the big kids’ class soon…but not too fast. For now, it will only be 1 day a week because she’s still only 5 years old! So, he’s gonna slowly move her over to longer classes with bigger kids while still allowing her to take the fun lil kids’ class that’s not “AS” serious all the time. 

LOL, Ima PROUD MOMMA!

TIPS I’M USING FOR MY CHRISTMAS BAKING

I want to share a cooking secret with you. No, I’m not completely vegan but there are some things that I am learning to cut out of my diet. A great resource for me has been Going2Natural.com

I am not huge on eating eggs. (I feel like I’m eating an aborted chicken.) I am not big on chicken either unless it’s fried with a whole lot of hot sauce and bread wrapped around it. But I’m getting off track. I stole these tips about substitutes for eggs AND THEY WORK! So, I wanted to share that with you. 

Recipes requiring eggs

~Applesauce – Use 1/4 cup of unsweetened applesauce in place of one egg in most baking recipes.  Some sources say to mix it with 1/2 teaspoon of baking powder.  If all you have is sweetened applesauce, then simply reduce the amount of sugar in the recipe.  Applesauce is also a popular healthy replacement for oil in many baked goods.

~Banana – Use 1/4 cup of mashed banana (about half a banana) instead of one egg when baking.  Note that this may impart a mild banana flavor to whatever you are cooking, which could be a good thing.

~Flaxseeds – Believe it or not, heart-healthy flax seeds can be used as an egg substitute!  Simply mix 1 tablespoon of ground flaxseeds with 3 tablespoons of water until fully absorbed and viscous.  Use in place of one egg.  (You can use pre-ground flax seeds or grind them yourself in a spice or coffee grinder.)

Thank you, keep teaching us Going2Natural.com

IT SADDENS ME TO EVEN POST THIS BLOG…

It saddens me to even post this blog because I feel this is parenting 101! 

Obviously, it’s not because some parents out there are failing miserably! 

Moms and Dads of America, when you are walking across a parking lot or the street, it is YOUR DUTY as a parent to put your child on the other side of you and oncoming cars! For the life of me, I don’t understand these mothers who put their children towards traffic to cross. Yes, I understand if there are cars going from both ways. But LORD, if it’s only coming from one direction like if you’re in a parking lot and cars are only coming from one way, it is your duty to be between your child and oncoming traffic! 

Parents, it’s your duty to profess (teach them how to cross the street) protect (means keep them away from harm) and provide (Safety, common sense and knowledge to get through life)!

If you fail at keeping them out of harm’s way of vehicles, I wonder what else your missing! 🤷🏾‍♀️