THE ARABIC QUILT AN IMMIGRANT STORY

The Arabic Quilt An Immigrant Story

As the school year is coming to an end, we are doing fun things. One of the things my daughter asked to do this year was learn about ancient Egypt. Yes, she very much is in the driver seat of her own education.  I felt like one of our last assignments should be a story she could relate to. It’s important to have her do fun projects, so she can always remember the experience. That’s when I found this beautifully illustrated great book.  

Available on Amazon 

Kanzi’s family has moved from Egypt to America, and on her first day in a new school, what she wants more than anything is to fit in. Maybe that’s why she forgets to take the kofta sandwich her mother has made for her lunch, but that backfires when Mama shows up at school with the sandwich. Mama wears a hijab and calls her daughter Habibti (dear one). When she leaves, the teasing starts. 
That night, Kanzi wraps herself in the beautiful Arabic quilt her teita (grandma) in Cairo gave her and writes a poem in Arabic about the quilt. Next day, her teacher sees the poem and gets the entire class excited about creating a “quilt” (a paper collage) of student names in Arabic. In the end, Kanzi’s most treasured reminder of her old home provides a pathway for acceptance in her new one.   
This authentic story with beautiful illustrations includes a glossary of Arabic words and a presentation of Arabic letters with their phonetic English equivalents. 

This book was a beautiful mix of Egyptian Culture and Everyday American life. I believe it’s an elementary must read. It deals with teasing, hurt feelings and healing. 

Rhythm was able to read it by herself out loud to me, but there were a few words in there she has never seen, so they now became vocabulary words for the week. 

She also learned 9 new Arabic words. They have the definition on the last page. The way they are integrated into the text made it easy for her to know the definition before we ever got to the last page. I was able to get on YouTube so she could hear the correct pronnunciation because Teacher/Momma couldn’t help her there. I was proud she learned how to write her name in Arabic as one of our extended lessons. 

Really fun read with tremendous extensive learning possibilities! 

If we started a kid’s book club for elementary school, would you be interested? 

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WHAT DOES SUCCESS MEAN TO YOU?

Living in Los Angeles, I realized success means different things to different people. That’s okay! Everyone has the right to have their own success meter that works for them. 

Unfortunately, the majority of people I ran across are totally caught up in material. Not only is it how they gage their own success, but how they gage value in others. 

This is where the disconnect comes into play for me. I’ve always been more Holly from the Hood than Hollywood! That’s that P.A. blood in me. 

Yes, I was raised in Oak Park and went to Westlake High School, but as soon as I got my driver’s license you could find me in South Central. It wasn’t rebellion, as “People” called it. It was a sense of home, love, and food, which equates happiness to me. To me success is just that: Happiness! 

I know a shit ton of financially wealthy people who are Happy poor! 

This taught me that yes, finances are extremely important especially as a parent, but that’s not based on what kinda car you drive. Now don’t get me wrong, I’ma car girl and love my Ferraris, but a $1,500 car note when you don’t own property to impress someone is just plain stupid. My biggest flex to date is I’ve never had a car note. I drive sensible cars that I can pay for, that get me where I need to go and home. I’ve gotten clowned a lot for my choices. I drove a Toyota Camry for 13 years and it was the best choice I ever made. Others felt I wasn’t cool enough because my peers were in Benzs and BMWs. But when I sat behind the wheel of my XLE with that Gold Package, the fact I was able to buy myself a high school graduation present with cash was everything to me! You can’t tell me I wasn’t the shit! Now again, for ME that’s success. 

I will never forget in my early 30s, I had a friend/foe who tried to clown me about my big screen TV, she was like, “Where’s your Plasma?”

I looked at her and laughed.

First, I don’t even watch TV.

Second, she lived down south, so she could get a flat screen from Walmart for $200.

Third, she was on section 8 and fed her kids with food stamps. For her that was her gage for success. That was okay, but my lane isn’t hers. Then, she tried to clown me about how I was driving an old ass car. At the time, my 350z was 4 years old.

I said, “This car is brand new. My last I kept for 13 years… You don’t even know me.” Bottom line, the friendship wasn’t evenly yoked and that’s OKAY, but I wasn’t about to let her Gage on my Success or waver my happiness. 

The biggest joke about LA is you see a lot of broke folks in a Benz living paycheck to paycheck. For them, that’s success: Car Note & Rent! 

ALL MONEY AINT GOOD MONEY!

There is a man that I know, who honestly has been tryna get at me for many, many years. We just never clicked. I am in no way attracted to his personality, but we have made money together. 6 figure money a few times. So, every so often when I hear from him, I respond. Now, he’s been in my text thread heavily for the past month. He texted me yesterday and asked if I would call him. He had a branding opportunity for me. I didn’t listen to my gut and I called anyway because…Hell, it’s about money. 

I called him all chipper, “Hey, what you got good?” I asked him.

“I have this cosmetic company in South Africa looking for a named talent to be the face of a new makeup line,” he says.

“Makeup really isn’t my thing, (I have sensitive skin.) but what’s the details?” I asked.

With hesitation in his voice, he says, “It contains a special component”.

My mind is racing. I’m thinking, oh anti-aging or something. Curious now I say, “What component does it contain?”

“Skin lightening agents,” he said non confident.

” WTF You just say?” I asked.

He had the nerve to repeat himself.

“WHY IN THE FUCK WOULD YOU THINK I WOULD BE OKAY SELLING SOMETHING TO LIGHTEN THE SKIN OF BLACK WOMEN?” I screamed. (I wanted to make sure he heard me).

“Just hear me out… there is a lot of money on the table, and you don’t want to pass this opportunity up!” He tells me.

“I can’t believe your ass was dumb enough to even call me with this bullshit! What kinda self-hating mothafucka are you?” I screamed.

“Why do I have to be self-hating?” he asked.

“As a Black man, you thought it was a good idea to come at me with this? I asked him.

“These White boys are ready to spend big money. Calm down and remove your ego! They really feel this will be big,” he said to me.

“My ego has nothing to do with this; it has everything to do with my morals. I am a Black woman who loves herself…” 

“Well, I have this cannabis deal…” he says.

“I don’t smoke and I’m on a kid show.” I cut him off quickly and screamed.

Long story short, I have followers who always say I shouldn’t curse and I don’t want the kids reading exactly what came out of my mouth after that, but I called him every damn self-hating coon I could think of. I was completely taken back why a deep chocolate Black man with a whole African name would think it was okay to even come at me with a proposition like this. They say you attract everything that comes to you.

Then, I got even more pissed because it’s a company owned by White people and they got a 53-year-old coon volunteering to go do their dirty work and for the love of money, he was okay with presenting this to me like it was no big deal… Our own are the ones who sell us out STILL IN HUMAN TRAFFICKING TODAY.

Then, I laughed, and I said to him, “You always asked me why I wouldn’t marry you. This right here is why,” I yelled.

He said, “I’ve only been chasing you for 15 years.”

(Can’t say exactly what I said after that, I’m pretty sure it would be considered bullying.) 

For a woman to marry a man, she has to believe he will make choices in their best interest and you would sell me for a dollar. I could NEVER trust you to make any choice in my best interest. I hung up.

Sad thing is that someone else will bite. He will find another Black entertainer who will be all for it because they need the money and that’s what breaks my heart most.

All opportunities aren’t good opportunities. When someone shows you that they feel your morals can be easily switched by the almighty dollar: RUN! 

I’VE NEVER BEEN PRESSED ON MONEY. I am the same with my pockets full as I am with them empty. Money has never waived my morals and I stay clear of those who worship paper over the best interests of anyone. So, DNA went in my phone where his name was. DO NOT ANSWER! I’m getting better at it, as the years go on. He shoulda stuck with doing real estate with me, period.

I Don’t Know Why I Still Allow People To Shock Me, but I’m still Pissed off! Sistas, don’t give any man the power to persuade you to do anything because money is involved. Value yourself and know everything that comes to you, aint for you! When you know your worth, you NEVER have to settle. 

ONE OF THE BEST THINGS ABOUT HOMESCHOOLING

Picking books that interest you is one of the greatest things about homeschooling. Besides Charlotte’s Web, I can’t remember one required book that we read in school that interested me at all. Since I went to an all-white school, there were none that I identified with either. In my house, my daughter’s books are eclectic and all-inclusive purposefully, just like the world.

As 4th grade is winding down, one of our final reads was Sadako And The Thousand Paper Cranes. Rhythm loved the story. 

Hiroshima-born Sadako is lively and athletic–the star of her school’s running team. And then, the dizzy spells start. Soon gravely ill with leukemia, the “atom bomb disease,” Sadako faces her future with spirit and bravery. Recalling a Japanese legend, Sadako sets to work folding paper cranes. For the legend holds that if a sick person folds one thousand cranes, the gods will grant her wish and make her healthy again. Based on a true story, Sadako and the Thousand Paper Cranes celebrates the extraordinary courage that made one young woman a heroine in Japan. 

This book sparked a few very interesting conversations between us. Just so happens that Israel is bombing Palestine, as she was reading this. She wanted to know how many of the children that were bombed would get leukemia. Very valid question. So, I went to Google, which prompted us to have a whole unit on exactly what leukemia is. Then, she was telling her Grandma (my mother) about it and my mother began to share that her Uncle died from Leukemia as well.  Rhythm was mind blown, that fact one of her very own relatives died of the same thing, which brought the story home for her. It was not just something that happened in Japan. She was then excited to share with my mother that she was born the year before Sadako died. Just the fact that she remembered the dates and how old Sadako was, is remarkable. “She was already 21 years old when you were born grandma,” Rhythm said.

I was pleased with her impromptu oral report back to Grandma, so I didn’t make her write a report, but we did go to YouTube to help us with an art project. 

I felt it was only right she makes her own paper crane! Thank God for tutorials because I wouldn’t have known where to start! Her Uncle Chris lives in Thailand and he sent her some beautiful oriental inspired paper last year that we made into fans. So, I went and got the kit, and she used the paper to make her very own paper crane!  

Crane

This was a terrific book with a fun activity to really make the lesson a memorable end of the year activity for my little 4th grader! 

Yes, we do homeschool in PJs a lot since Quarantine.

WE CALL THEM CHOPSTICKS; IN JAPAN THEY CALL THEM OBAMA!

80 billion chopsticks are made every year. One tree can produce 4,000 chopsticks. 80% of those chopsticks are made in Japan.

Did you know when you use chopsticks, you’re actually using 50 muscles in your fingers, your wrist, your arm and your shoulders. Eating with chopsticks is officially a workout.

  • Teaching children to eat with chopsticks is a great extension lesson for homeschoolers;
  • It’s a life skill.
  • Teaches fine motor skills.
  • Helps hand eye coordination.
  • Slows you down when eating, so kids have chew time.
  • Gives instant reward from your hard work of being challenged.

Did you know?

They were originally cooking tools, then people started using them to eat.  In honor of Asian Americans Heritage Month, it was only right if we had an Asian Inspired lunch!  Not only was it yummy, but Rhythm got to show off her chopstick skills and I learned she likes pot stickers more than dumplings! She really likes dumplings, so that’s a big deal, lol. 

Asian Meal

MAY IS ASIAN AMERICAN AND PACIFIC ISLANDER HERITAGE MONTH

I never remember learning about the contributions made by Asians in school, outside of the railroad. 

This is one of the reasons I love to homeschool. At home, we are excited to celebrate an all-inclusive curriculum. 

Teaching children a multicultural curriculum not only builds the self-esteem, but also prepares them for the world and teaches empathy and culture. Which is all extremely Important on becoming a highly functioning adult. 

Not only does my daughter learn to appreciate the contributions that have made her life more comfortable, but she also loves to enjoy the foods and learn about the heroes! 

It’s always exciting to learn about and meet ordinary people who did extraordinary things. Whether they were breaking Olympic records, bringing education to millions of people around the world, or speaking up for the rights of others, these Asian-Americans broke stereotypes and took a stand to make the world a better place. 


These two books (pictured below) highlight the talent and contributions of Asian-American leaders and changemakers from around the United States. Readers of all backgrounds will be empowered to discover what they too can achieve. These strong, courageous, talented, and diverse men and women have built a legacy of extraordinary achievements that will inspire generations to pursue their dreams.

If you’re interested in learning more about what we studied this month, stay tuned because I’ll be posting some of our extended studies activities. 

Both of these books can be found on Amazon.com  

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I’VE NEVER ENDORSED ALCOHOL, UNTIL NOW

For no amount of money have you ever seen me endorse alcohol. They did not pay me to do this. I am proud to be associated with the owners of a Black Owned Liquor company. I love to see my people do great things. I am inspired watching people I love win! Me spreading the world to you about this company came easy for a few reasons. 

1 The product is Phenomenal. 

2. I truly believe in it.

3. It’s time for a economical shift: we need to support our own businesses.

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Our award-winning taste, unlike any other, will awaken your spirit of discovery, and reveal to you a rare level of quality in the world of rum.

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REPOST: 10 THINGS YOU DON’T KNOW ABOUT ME

For those who are new to the blog, here are 10 things you don’t know about me:

1. I have no patience and I hate waiting. Time is one of the only things I can’t get back in this world, like my virginity. So, when it’s wasted, I’m pissed.

2. I don’t like talking on the phone.

3. After 30, I became antisocial.

4. I can’t stand dirty ears.

5. After breaking down my guns and cleaning them, I can put them back together blind folded thanks 2 my brother Mark! (These were the games he taught me as a kid, smh, lol.) We grew up with guns and were taught to never disrespect their power but how to use them if needed or necessary. If u take care of them, they will take care of you.

6. In a room full of people I’d rather observe than talk.

7. I had my ex-boyfriend’s name tattoo’d on me as a young girl. LOL, it’s now covered. (Because of who it is, I don’t regret it. Just thankful I didn’t put any of the others’ damn names on me.)

8. I like me… so I don’t care if you don’t like me.

9. I don’t dress trendy. I wear what I like no matter what others feel about it.

10. I dream of producing TV shows and movies, even owning a Ferrari. I’m still playing “That’s my car” with my big brother, lol.

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WILD CHERRY HAIR SERUM CAN HELP KEEP YOUR SCALP CLEAN…

Whether your hair is natural, or you are wearing a weave, Wild Cherry hair products promote growth and everyday maintenance for your tresses. Depending on how your weave is attached, in lots of cases it can be bothersome to cleanse your scalp effectively, while wearing a full sew in. It might be difficult, but hair grows best on a scalp free of bacteria and dirt, so washing your hair is extremely important to maintain healthy hair while wearing a weave.

Many ladies wear weaves to achieve extra length and thickness, but also with hopes, that by giving their natural hair a break, they will retain more growth. It is true that giving your hair a break from daily manipulation will allow your hair to grow. However, bacteria, fungus and dirt will build up and stop your hair from growing, if you do not keep your scalp clean while wearing a hair weave. Neglecting the scalp while your hair is braided under a weave will create an environment that is not conducive to hair growth. 

Check out Wild Cherry’s Hair Serum on www.Therealcherie.com 

FOLLOW PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE YOU

Let’s face it: social media is the best time waster on earth right now. It has us all captivated, where we don’t have a clue how much time we are really spending there.

I admit… I got it bad, way too much of my time is being spent looking at my phone. I get lost laughing and talking madness. It’s like one big party. Following the wrong people will have you wasting your time. Following the right people will put you on a path of being productive. 

Don’t just follow your friends and family. Follow people with the same interests, hobbies or passions and don’t forget to pick an organization that is close to your heart.

My 4 favorite types of pages to follow:

1) The best pages I follow are those who inspire me and help generate ideas!

2) The pages that teach me something

3) The pages that create a healthy competition

4) The pages that assist in growing my business and making some money.

The great thing about the internet is the possibilities are endless, so if you made no money today on social media, YOU are not on your hustle at all.