DON’T GET MAD WHEN MEN OR WOMEN GET GHOST…

Ladies, don’t get upset, hurt or mad when men get ghost! They are NOT the ones for you. They did you a favor. Better sooner than later. Let them go…

Men don’t feel they owe you an explanation of why they no longer want to talk to you, mostly because then they would have to take accountability for their participation in whatever changed their minds. 

There are a million different reasons why he’s not texting, calling, or reaching out to you anymore. The main reason is he is not the one for you… Period! And if he stayed in the picture, the right one would not come! So, allow the karma to catch him, while you catch yours. 

Step back, let the ego go and truly think, “is that who you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?” 

Okay then, pick your chin up, dust yourself off and stop looking for an explanation they don’t want to give you. Silence speaks loud now; you just make sure you don’t give them the opportunity to come back and do it again! 

Lead with love and gratitude and manifest what it truly is that you’re looking for.  When you receive it, don’t be surprised and appreciate it. 

www.TherealCherie.com

ARE YOU READY FOR MOTHERHOOD, BUT NOT SURE WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO PREPARE?

If you didn’t know, I am a certified nutritionist. 

Nutrition should be the most important thing to you during your pregnancy. We literally produce cells from the foods we eat, so why not reach out and get counsel from a nutritionist? 

Our 3-month prenatal plan.

During these 3 months, we will guide you step by step with instruction on what needs to be done to prepare your body to carry a healthy, happy baby.

Postnatal Plan

Just because you are a Mom now doesn’t mean you have to have a Mom body! Let’s get those tummies flat and the muscles back! (Yes, you can breastfeed on this plan.)

Low Breast Milk Supply?

Learn how to eat if your Mommy supply is low. Did you know by breast feeding you are also setting a tone for your child’s nutritional future? What you eat changes the taste and smell of your milk and exposes your child to different flavors. (Those carrots, spinach and fruit you’re eating today will have your child reaching for them in the future.)

*Women with chronic health conditions such as high blood pressure, thyroid disease, diabetes, epilepsy, heart disease, or lupus will need to have them carefully managed. For women with diabetes, the odds of having a healthy pregnancy and baby increase if they are able to get their blood sugar under control before they become pregnant. A pre-conception checkup should include a test for diabetes if a physician suspects you may be at risk. Women who are being treated for depression or anxiety, or who’ve struggled with mood disorders in the past, also should get special care. Allowing yourself to follow a strict nutritional plan can be a major asset.

If you are interested in a consultation check out my website www.Therealcherie.com or inbox me! It’s never too soon or too late to get started. 

THIS IS 45 YEARS OLD!

This is 45 years old! Don’t get caught up on a number. It makes me sad when I hear women and men depressed about their birthdays coming! I have loved my 40s. My 40s have been liberating! I have finally stopped worrying about pleasing other people and I please myself! I no longer say “yes” I will do it… when I mean, I don’t want too! I don’t care who doesn’t like me or who said what about me. It doesn’t matter! It doesn’t pay my bills nor change my tomorrow. In fact, the ones who used to run back to tell me what they said are no longer around me because why were they listening! 

Now that I am midway settled into my 40s, I realize some lessons have come with my 40s. I want to share 20 with you.

1. Make it a priority to love yourself! 

2. Don’t hold grudges, they end up hurting you more than the other people.

3. Travel and enjoy your life. See as much as you can.

4. If you want to do it, do it! Stop second guessing yourself.

5. Learn to trust your gut.

6. Spend as much time with your parents as you can.

7. Be vulnerable (don’t let your past hurt your future).

8. Make time for yourself.

9. Make memories, when life is over that’s all you have.

10. Stop worrying about the end result and enjoy the journey. 

11. Drink your water.

12. Stand up for yourself, don’t tolerate disrespect no matter who it’s from.

13. Never stop learning.

14. Listen more.

15. Let the ego go.

16. If your life isn’t where you want it to be, change your circle.

17.  Only spend time and energy on people who feed your soul.

18. Don’t save the good outfits, the good champagne. Enjoy them on any occasion!!

19. Eat your fruits and vegetables.

20. Happiness is a choice!

Enjoy your 40s! They really are fabulous and so are you! 

THE GIRL WHO TRAVELED WITH A FISH

There once was a girl who traveled with a fish 

she didn’t wanna leave it home 

all her kids did was bitch

Moaned and complained 

Molly was her daughter’s best friend,

they were driving Mommy insane! 

Get a sitter?

No, we can’t 

mommy Ima miss her!

This betta has been alive for 4 years 

I didn’t know my daughter was gonna shed tears

It’s a fish 

but you’re my everything 

I will grant every wish

I called TSA, they giggled but I packed her

2020 had Molly being a damn world traveler! 

I don’t know what I’m gonna do

She’s asking for a teacup yorkie or a teacup maltipoo

Ain’t no way in hell Ima traveling with 2! 

7 suitcases, kids and my mom and a damn fish 

Making round trips! 

We were gone for 3 months but finally we are home! Halo passed on but Molly is back home

She’s a champ for sure

But pets I can’t take NO MORE! 

www.TherealCherie.com

I DON’T MAKE RESOLUTIONS, I MAKE MEMORY BOARDS

Happy New Year to you and your family! New Year’s to me is a clean slate. It’s the opportunity to take the lessons that were learned the year prior and apply them to being greater this year! I had a laundry list of things I wanted to accomplish last year much like many of you, but as we know… COVID!

I took my time and started preparing for when the time had come for life to return to normal. Now I will spend my day putting together my vision board. After my vision board is complete, I will take a picture and it will become my screen saver on my phone. I have no choice but to look at it several times a day, no matter where I am.

For those of you who haven’t heard of a vision board, it’s also called a dream board. A dream board or vision board is a collage of images, pictures, and affirmations of one’s dreams and desires, designed to serve as a source of inspiration and motivation, and to use the law of attraction to attain goals.

Inspiration and Motivation leads to Manifestation. I am a huge believer in Manifestation because I have been able to manifest my whole life. Great things happen for me because I simply believe they will. I know several of you will find this concept crazy, but it’s true. The most successful people will tell you; their life is completely what they made it. While unsuccessful people will tell you life just happened to them.

So, what’s your choice? Are you going to make things happen this year or are you going to let them just happen? It’s all up to you. Happy New Year!!

THE MONDAY AFTER

I’m over it: the trees and decorations have to go! I’m tired of looking at them and starting to feel like they are just clutter! I don’t like clutter. I hate knickknacks everywhere, it’s time for it to all go. 

It was cute, but I’m over it. This is the part I really don’t get assistance with, but it’s my fault I am extremely anal and organized with the way I take ornaments off the tree. Thanks to my ex’s mother, Bobbi! Bobbi Lockhart taught me a treasure I will not ever forget! Keep your decorations organized and it makes it easier and faster to put them up! See here’s the thing, I put every single ornament back in the original box it came in. For those ornaments who came without a box or the box was damaged, NO sweat I have ornament containers! Thank you, Bobbi! BTW, that lady is the Queen of decorations for every holiday and she’s so sweet because she truly enjoys every single minute of it. 

While my family enjoys the festive look of the holiday season, I want my house back! I want these presents put away and these decorations gone, so by the time New Year’s Eve rolls around, I’m chilling to make manifest my desires for 2021! It’s been a hell of a year, I’m ready for it to be all the way over!

Waving bye to these decorations make me realize 2020 is OVER and it’s going away! I can’t help but to cheer!

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO YOU AND YOURS

2020 has been a crazy year! I’m so thankful you are here to read this blog. WE MADE IT! Unfortunately, many love ones are no longer with us, but it doesn’t mean we are not holding them in a special place in our heart and they are not here with us today.

If 2020 taught me nothing else, it taught me the importance of family and keeping my family together. Thanks to quarantine, this year really defined quality time for us. I want to say thank you to each and every one of my loved ones for figuring out ways to stay in touch and connected through these times.

Technology has truly been God sent. We had Zoom Birthday Parties and FaceTime play dates with our children. My daughter discovered Roblox as a way to play with her cousins while on FaceTime. It has kept them connected so they didn’t have to miss a beat, no matter where they live.

2021 is going to bring new challenges, a new way of life. More opportunity for whatever our journey brings.

Christmas to me is about the spirit of Christ and love, love for my family, my neighbors and the brothers and sisters who have yet to cross my path. It’s beautiful to see people with smiles on their faces. It’s been a long, hard year. As our year is winding down, I want us to take the lessons that we learned this year, while leaving the old experiences behind. Ima keep it short and sweet, so you can get back to your families.

Lots of love always. Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas to each and every one of you!

4 DAYS TILL CHRISTMAS

Christmas season is a happy, joyous time for those who are happy. Please check on your friends who have suffered major loss this year. The death of a love one is not easy to heal from, if you ever heal at all. Something about the holidays sparks up those feelings and reopens wounds like you just lost them yesterday. Depression sets in, as the world we once knew is majorly different. Loneliness sets in and the realization that they are not coming back hits hard. Stress brings on anxiety and it becomes a hard cycle to battle.

Since Christmas is about joy and love, this is a great time to reach out and just let them know they are not alone. Invite them to Christmas dinner or just lend them an ear and a warm hug. A simple smile and a warm hug go a long way with someone battling depression.

64% of people who suffer from mental illness report that the holidays make their condition worse.

Help your friends create new memories to hold onto, so they aren’t stuck just thinking of the old ones.

Also, self-care gifts can do amazing things for the ones busy taking care of everyone else but themselves.

*For those who are suffering, you are not alone. Help is available. Speak with a counselor today: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 24 hours a day. 1-800-273-8255

REPOST: AT AGE 30, THESE WERE THE RULES THAT I SET FOR MY LIFE

This time of the year, people begin to reflect on how they want their lives to look and what changes need to made. Here’s a post about the rules I once made for myself.

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When I turned 30, I made a new list of rules for myself.

  1. No more letting people borrow money that they never pay back!
  2. No more paying for women to have abortions! 
  3. No more accepting collect calls!
  4. No more taking care of other people’s children!
  5. No more feeling guilty and doing things I don’t want to do!
  6. No more going places because other people want me to go!
  7. No more meeting people’s families so they can prove they know me!
  8. I was tired of being the birthday clown. (Yes, people ask for you to come over like I’m a birthday present to someone.  It’s weird)!
  9. No more fake friends.  I’d rather spend my days alone!
  10. No more dating groupies (male groupies are just as bad as women)!
  11. No more driving people around like I’m a taxi!
  12. And last but not least, no more putting other people’s needs in front of my own!

I received an inspirational text from my friend Keeland Ellis that I will never forget. He told me, “Have no friends who do not equal you. Watch those that you don’t know who are always wanting to be with you, and those who are wanting to be like you!”

I wish he would have told me this straight out of high school but he told me on time because not only did I hear every word of it, but I understand it now so I guess that’s an example of God’s time.

ALL THE COLD WEATHER AND CHRISTMAS POSTS SO FAR

Now’s the time to get caught up on all the posts about Christmas and cold weather so far. Let me know which one is your favorite!

  1. It’s Official – I share one of my Christmas traditions with my daughter.
  2. Gingerbread House – Our very special Christmas tradition honoring my grandfather
  3. Make S’mores Outside – Outside equals better than stove
  4. It’s Tembleque Time – Time to shake your way to a delicious dessert
  5. Christmas Tree Time – Christmas decorating details
  6. 30 Christmas Stocking Stuffer Ideas for Under $10 – Need some ideas for how to fill up your child’s stocking?
  7. There’s Nothing Better to Eat When It’s Cold Outside Than A Big Bowl of Sancocho – A soup recipe to warm things up
  8. Gift Giving Anxiety – My solution for dealing with people who are difficult to buy for
  9. It’s Coquito Time! – It’s not eggnog, it’s coquito!
  10. Hot Chocolate with Marshmallows – A delicious crockpot recipe